The four people I mentioned above were some of the brighest minds of our time, and they really struggled with simultaneous multiple sexual relationships. Reading their stories is interesting. But as you say, we each need to find our own way, and many of us, before committing to one, juggled the many. Good luck.
On Jun 22, 10:11 am, "pol.science kid" <[email protected]> wrote: > You are right of course.. you both.. but it is possible that such devotion > can be restrictive for one person..and i never said that we dont need > relationships.. and i also know that it is only through contact that we > learn more about ourselves.. become aware.. i am not denying that... i am > only saying...according to me.. a healthy relation would be where there are > no restrictions...but its only wishful thinking...or maybe possible between > such like minds.. > > > > > > On Tue, Jun 22, 2010 at 6:44 PM, Molly <[email protected]> wrote: > > "I think open relationships are much better..there is no emotional > > burden" psk > > > This assumption may come back to bite you. I would refer you to the > > biographies of Sartre/DeBeauvior and O'Keefe/Steigliz. The extensive > > published material about these two open relationships should show you > > how heavy multiple relationships can be. > > > Relationships are our contemporary temples. We learn more about > > ourselves through our most intimate relationships than anywhere else > > possible, if we are open to the awareness. There is endless beauty in > > the devoution of two people to eachother. However, it seems not > > everyone is capable of such intimacy or self discovery for myriad > > reasons. What is right for you may change over time, it may not. To > > each his own. > > > On Jun 21, 4:26 pm, "pol.science kid" <[email protected]> wrote: > > > I have a hard time believing when someone tells me that they have > > > found the one... what does it mean anyway..The one.. why does it thave > > > to be one...I believe that people can and do fall in love with more > > > than one person at the same time...and that is why i am opposed to > > > marriage as an institution...a promise to be with each other > > > forever!...I think open relationships are much better..there is no > > > emotional burden...Also sexual and emotional intimacy does not always > > > have to be in one single package.. i do not see adultery as something > > > horrible...and i really resented the way media made an example of > > > Tiger woods and his many affairs...so wat he slept with many women.. > > > its not like they didnt know who he was and that he was married...The > > > fact that religion penetrated and dictated every aspect of individual > > > lives still shows its effects...sex is something sacred and at the > > > same time tabboed(although some countries have come to take liberal > > > views there are still many orthodox societies)... its a natural > > > instinct why make something else out of it...its like hunger..The more > > > you try to regulate it the more you pervert it...the fact that > > > teenagers are told to abstain should only be because of health reasons > > > not because premarital sex is a sin...It was because that religion > > > first dictated that homosexuality is immoral that subsequent legal > > > bans on it followed.. and it is still so ingrained in society that > > > most homosexuals have a hard life..only because of one aspect of their > > > individuality... As for monogamy i really dont think it is a universal > > > truth...i mean it was fine when the mortality rate was around 50 you > > > could stick around with one.. but things are changing... And with the > > > society must evolve its institutions and the values related to these > > > institutions ... So after all this rambling all id like to say is that > > > the society should rethink its basic elements which it takes for > > > granted ...i dont mean to offend all you happily married people out > > > there.. just a private opinion.. and I'd like to know wat you all > > > think.. > > -- > \--/ Peace- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text -
