Thanks, Mardi. Yes- I enjoyed the article even from a grandmother's perspective (anticipating an upcoming visit- sorting ideas- loosening up, etc.). I often read an article's comments and what's with the anti- childbearing stuff?
I liked the reference to "silent spaces". It reminded me of music and poetry and how necessary the pause is to form as well as other arts, works and days. Yes- very important to the individual for thoughts, feelings and reactions. Perhaps ambivalence is a gift- of sorts- as it reminds us of the wide array of possibilities. Sometimes it is disturbing- even paralysing. But it can take on many shades from warning to a new leaf/adventure. I wouldn't trade my life for anyone else's when it comes down to comparisons and perhaps comparisons are a source of ambivalence. What do you think? Would love to crow about my great bargain on a new washer which arrives tomorrow and wade through the demise of my snow/lawn man as "hero" and how I plan to terminate him with grace and aplomb- but I digress...:-) On Mar 21, 6:51 pm, Mardi <[email protected]> wrote: > On Mar 10, 9:03 am, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > Yikes! > > > But Mardi and Gibbs have other ideas on the subject which suggest > > ambivalence is quite normal. > > I know that I don't get back to these conversations often enough to be > a good conversation partner. Life is just too full of stuff needing to > be done. But today I found an article on CNN online that totally made > me think of Rigs and this issue. The writer, Heather Havrilesky, > says: > "I am not and was never going to be the relaxed, organized, manicured > career mom, any more than I was going to be the shiny, effusive > cheerleader or the diligent Gap employee or the virginal good girl or > the wise young lady who dates only responsible, emotionally available > guys.I am a disorganized, melancholy second-guesser who rhapsodizes a > little too loudly over the pleasures of a cold beer at the end of a > long day. I am enthusiastic, yes, and passionate, sure, but I'm also > fundamentally ambivalent, angst ridden, and conflicted. I am > distracted, overwhelmed, and mostly unprepared for whatever lies > ahead." > > You can read the full article "How to embrace your crazy, chaotic > life" (which I really enjoyed!) > at:http://www.cnn.com/2011/LIVING/03/21/o.embrace.crazy.chaotic.life/ind... > > I hope you enjoy it as much as I did and that it makes you feel good > about your ambivalent life!!! > wishing you all the best > Mardi
