And I agree with you! What a lovely feeling! Ambivalence can chew up a lot of energy. On the other hand, a rigid, closed mind is worse. I would rather err and correct than always be cocksure of myself. (I think! Because it is important to me to think of myself as having an open, informed mind even if it means a struggle.) And there can be layer upon layer that has been repressed or unconsciously accepted because we are social creatures. I think that is why we love the rebel, the creator and so on.
As an aside, I am smiling at a minor monkey wrench- a March blizzard that screwed up my red carpet entrance for the new washer- so I thought. But the lead man must have read my thoughts and announced he was a "half-glass full kind of guy" with a smile so my half-empty glass of the moment met him in the middle. All went smoothly. And my son agreed that my snow shoveler really screwed up- but I haven't dealt with that fully yet though I am talking to replacements, On we go! On Mar 24, 7:55 am, [email protected] wrote: > You are correct. There is a continuum of ambivalence ranging from intensely > loving to intensely hating feelings to less intense feeling mixed intense and > relative mild. Additionally there is the factor of repression wherein the > negative or positive feelings in a given person's experience are conscious > (verbalized) or unconscious. > > > > -----Original Message----- > From: rigsy03 <[email protected]> > To: "Minds Eye" <[email protected]> > Sent: Thu, Mar 24, 2011 4:23 am > Subject: [Mind's Eye] Re: Ambivalence > > Does your understanding of the term need to be so extreme? What about > the "middles"? The "maybes"? And does the variety of choices depend on > circumstances like health, intelligence, wealth, beauty, geography, > society, religion, etc.? So- an ugly peasant would be less > ambivalent? :-) > > On Mar 22, 9:24 am, [email protected] wrote: > > Ambivalence - a duality of love/hate - is for me a core fact of the human > condition. It highlights the reality > > > of complexity on all levels. > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: rigsy03 <[email protected]> > > To: "Minds Eye" <[email protected]> > > Sent: Tue, Mar 22, 2011 8:13 am > > Subject: [Mind's Eye] Re: Ambivalence > > > Thanks, Mardi. Yes- I enjoyed the article even from a grandmother's > > perspective (anticipating an upcoming visit- sorting ideas- loosening > > up, etc.). I often read an article's comments and what's with the anti- > > childbearing stuff? > > > I liked the reference to "silent spaces". It reminded me of music and > > poetry and how necessary the pause is to form as well as other arts, > > works and days. Yes- very important to the individual for thoughts, > > feelings and reactions. > > > Perhaps ambivalence is a gift- of sorts- as it reminds us of the wide > > array of possibilities. Sometimes it is disturbing- even paralysing. > > But it can take on many shades from warning to a new leaf/adventure. > > > I wouldn't trade my life for anyone else's when it comes down to > > comparisons and perhaps comparisons are a source of ambivalence. What > > do you think? > > > Would love to crow about my great bargain on a new washer which > > arrives tomorrow and wade through the demise of my snow/lawn man as > > "hero" and how I plan to terminate him with grace and aplomb- but I > > digress...:-) > > > On Mar 21, 6:51 pm, Mardi <[email protected]> wrote: > > > On Mar 10, 9:03 am, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > Yikes! > > > > > But Mardi and Gibbs have other ideas on the subject which suggest > > > > ambivalence is quite normal. > > > > I know that I don't get back to these conversations often enough to be > > > a good conversation partner. Life is just too full of stuff needing to > > > be done. But today I found an article on CNN online that totally made > > > me think of Rigs and this issue. The writer, Heather Havrilesky, > > > says: > > > "I am not and was never going to be the relaxed, organized, manicured > > > career mom, any more than I was going to be the shiny, effusive > > > cheerleader or the diligent Gap employee or the virginal good girl or > > > the wise young lady who dates only responsible, emotionally available > > > guys.I am a disorganized, melancholy second-guesser who rhapsodizes a > > > little too loudly over the pleasures of a cold beer at the end of a > > > long day. I am enthusiastic, yes, and passionate, sure, but I'm also > > > fundamentally ambivalent, angst ridden, and conflicted. I am > > > distracted, overwhelmed, and mostly unprepared for whatever lies > > > ahead." > > > > You can read the full article "How to embrace your crazy, chaotic > > > life" (which I really enjoyed!) > > > at:http://www.cnn.com/2011/LIVING/03/21/o.embrace.crazy.chaotic.life/ind... > > > > I hope you enjoy it as much as I did and that it makes you feel good > > > about your ambivalent life!!! > > > wishing you all the best > > > Mardi- Hide quoted text - > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text -
