Then aren't you putting some kind of boundary/expectation on that relationship? ( You may like me, but don't attempt to change me.) How can you not qualify the relationship as change "happens". Between females, a male can tip the relationship. Between male and female, sex can turn to love or ruin the friendship. Sometimes, the hardest person to be a friend to is oneself.
On Jun 20, 2:23 am, allan deheretic <[email protected]> wrote: > I Thin there are many levels of friendship. Most of them I barely know, if > at all a casual matter, and among these levels there is a very special one > that accepts me as I am but likes me any way without qualification to > change. > Allan > > On Sun, Jun 19, 2011 at 11:52 PM, pol.science kid <[email protected]>wrote: > > > > > > > a few days back i read some post somewhere about the lack of > > literature on friendship in philosophy mainly...and how it has been > > ignored and so on.... so it got me thinking about the whole > > affair...Friendship.... i asked myself who my friends were...i am very > > casual in calling people my friends... in fact i realised i didnt > > really pay much attention to it.... the word i mean... i wouldnt know > > who to call my best friend...or a close and intimate friend... > > because..it happens so to the person whom i would reveal my dearest > > thoughts would be a relative stranger..in fact i dont do it > > much...share thoughts..personal ones...i do it here but... maybe > > because of the anonymity it lends.... plus i tend to outgrow some > > friends... i know it sounds horrible..i dont really do it on > > purpose..outgrow would mean... gradually losing touch...after i move > > or something... i am sorry i dont want to make this some sort of > > confession...but there are so many questions that confront and rack my > > brain sometimes.... is it later in life that one makes real > > friends...i mean after youve left that peer space...school or > > college...l in fact leave that...its not that significant... I once > > decided that Friendship is a vague term altogether... there are > > individual relationships...each having a different bearing... like a > > security personnel at your college gate... you get the point... I know > > this is a very vast topic.and i cant really analyse it right now cos > > this is a kind of spontaneous typing....so let me get to another > > point.... like i mentioned above i seem careless of friends...but yet > > i sometimes complain of the loneliness... which can be suffocating... > > and yet i draw a line and withdraw if any relation touches on lines of > > very personal.... i think one regards personal what one considers > > sacred... like ones thoughts..contemplations... my question is....is > > it possible to bond with Another... in an aristotelian way... because > > i believe one can give ones life for someone but still be out of > > something very impersonal.... are there some ...too self > > absorbed...that it is almost impossible to connect on that level... it > > is strange i have such high demands for any 'connection'...and yet i > > am convinced there is no way i can really be with another according to > > my standard... this must be awfully confusing... but there are many > > smart people here ho might get the basic point..... > > who is a friend? > > can one really defeat the loneliness or is this loneliness only > > immaturity on the souls part...... > > the question is now to you my 'friends'...convince me for something if > > you will......... > > -- > ( > ) > I_D Allan > > If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken > Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text -
