There are degrees of dangerous behavior, Allan, and sometimes it takes a long while to understand it effects- for dangerous can sometimes be manipulative or charming. Or remarks can build up over a period of time until you realize there is little/nothing in common. Just because one has been in mischief or troubles does not mean you have to tolerate abuse. The point of growth and change is to expect a better outcome. One can have compassion or empathy and still stay away from a train-wreak.
On Jun 20, 7:03 am, allan deheretic <[email protected]> wrote: > Rigs I may point out a dangerous behavior and be willing to discuss it with > them but it is still their choice as to how they respond .. No I do not > know the bluesy ballad.. As for changing their dangerous behavior ,, who the > heck am I to know one dangerous behavior from another and who made me > judge?? Lord knows I have my share of them. > Allan > > > > > > On Mon, Jun 20, 2011 at 1:40 PM, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > A bad relationship changes me in a flash, Allan! :-) I have been > > suffocated by super-acceptance a few times. There's a bluesy ballad- > > "Don't Try to Change Me Now". Do you know it? Anyway, I do think one > > would want to change a friend's dangerous behavior, don't you? Some > > behaviors are just not acceptable though it may take a while to > > understand that and one puts up with "stuff". > > > On Jun 20, 6:12 am, allan deheretic <[email protected]> wrote: > > > Rigsy I would have a difficult time picturing some one changing you, part > > a > > > friend ship is accepting a person as they are without qualification to > > > change.. > > > Allan > > > > On Mon, Jun 20, 2011 at 12:09 PM, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > Then aren't you putting some kind of boundary/expectation on that > > > > relationship? ( You may like me, but don't attempt to change me.) How > > > > can you not qualify the relationship as change "happens". Between > > > > females, a male can tip the relationship. Between male and female, sex > > > > can turn to love or ruin the friendship. Sometimes, the hardest person > > > > to be a friend to is oneself. > > > > > On Jun 20, 2:23 am, allan deheretic <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > I Thin there are many levels of friendship. Most of them I barely > > know, > > > > if > > > > > at all a casual matter, and among these levels there is a very > > special > > > > one > > > > > that accepts me as I am but likes me any way without qualification > > to > > > > > change. > > > > > Allan > > > > > > On Sun, Jun 19, 2011 at 11:52 PM, pol.science kid < > > [email protected] > > > > >wrote: > > > > > > > a few days back i read some post somewhere about the lack of > > > > > > literature on friendship in philosophy mainly...and how it has been > > > > > > ignored and so on.... so it got me thinking about the whole > > > > > > affair...Friendship.... i asked myself who my friends were...i am > > very > > > > > > casual in calling people my friends... in fact i realised i didnt > > > > > > really pay much attention to it.... the word i mean... i wouldnt > > know > > > > > > who to call my best friend...or a close and intimate friend... > > > > > > because..it happens so to the person whom i would reveal my > > dearest > > > > > > thoughts would be a relative stranger..in fact i dont do it > > > > > > much...share thoughts..personal ones...i do it here but... maybe > > > > > > because of the anonymity it lends.... plus i tend to outgrow some > > > > > > friends... i know it sounds horrible..i dont really do it on > > > > > > purpose..outgrow would mean... gradually losing touch...after i > > move > > > > > > or something... i am sorry i dont want to make this some sort of > > > > > > confession...but there are so many questions that confront and rack > > my > > > > > > brain sometimes.... is it later in life that one makes real > > > > > > friends...i mean after youve left that peer space...school or > > > > > > college...l in fact leave that...its not that significant... I once > > > > > > decided that Friendship is a vague term altogether... there are > > > > > > individual relationships...each having a different bearing... like > > a > > > > > > security personnel at your college gate... you get the point... I > > know > > > > > > this is a very vast topic.and i cant really analyse it right now > > cos > > > > > > this is a kind of spontaneous typing....so let me get to another > > > > > > point.... like i mentioned above i seem careless of friends...but > > yet > > > > > > i sometimes complain of the loneliness... which can be > > suffocating... > > > > > > and yet i draw a line and withdraw if any relation touches on lines > > of > > > > > > very personal.... i think one regards personal what one considers > > > > > > sacred... like ones thoughts..contemplations... my question > > is....is > > > > > > it possible to bond with Another... in an aristotelian way... > > because > > > > > > i believe one can give ones life for someone but still be out of > > > > > > something very impersonal.... are there some ...too self > > > > > > absorbed...that it is almost impossible to connect on that level... > > it > > > > > > is strange i have such high demands for any 'connection'...and yet > > i > > > > > > am convinced there is no way i can really be with another according > > to > > > > > > my standard... this must be awfully confusing... but there are many > > > > > > smart people here ho might get the basic point..... > > > > > > who is a friend? > > > > > > can one really defeat the loneliness or is this loneliness only > > > > > > immaturity on the souls part...... > > > > > > the question is now to you my 'friends'...convince me for something > > if > > > > > > you will......... > > > > > > -- > > > > > ( > > > > > ) > > > > > I_D Allan > > > > > > If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken > > > > > Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,- Hide quoted text - > > > > > > - Show quoted text - > > > > -- > > > ( > > > ) > > > I_D Allan > > > > If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken > > > Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,- Hide quoted text - > > > > - Show quoted text - > > -- > ( > ) > I_D Allan > > If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken > Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text -
