There are many models that help us settle ourselves Molly. Even Johari's Window is a shock to most undergraduates. My guess is the patterns (scripts etc.) deny dialogue Rigsy. I find them increasingly infuriating if I let them. When I watch rugby these days I can tell no one as unfit as me when I played could get by, but would still love to tug the kit on. I find little grace in getting old and feeling more 'beat up' after walking the dog than after losing pay on a mud bath.
On Oct 15, 1:37 pm, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > It is easier to be led than to lead?//The "power" may be a form of > sabotage or "exit- stage left" when we are talking group dynamics. > Rather than facing up or talking through, certain patterns click in- > it probably has something to do with survival instincts, buying time > or waiting for divine intervention. :-) However, suppressed aggression/ > retaliation has a way of popping up in one's memory bank despite the > best efforts to live and let live- one simply needs to swat it back in > place or come up with an eraser phrase like "remember the good times" > or "pray for the sob".//As the leaves continue to whirl away...am I > too old to wear a hot red shortie coat trimmed in white fox- a knock- > out from the 40's of ma mere- who else? Queen Mouse says "No, my > dear!" Or I may send it to my daughter-in-law- I'll think about it. > What use is growing old "gracefully"? What does that really mean? > > On Oct 14, 9:42 pm, archytas <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > > > I once lived amongst mice - it was a university psychology thingy. I > > first wondered why the subordinate mice didn't overthrow the king > > mouse and he (he was always male) always kept his crew in vicious > > check ans "poverty". I knew the underling males could be trained and > > fed to defeat him. Later I just saw that nothing changed except the > > identity of the king mouse. I grew to quite like individual mice but > > not the mouse society. > > Currently, though we have an extensive understanding of genetic- > > environment-evolution stuff - sufficient at least to make most nature- > > nurture debate old hat - we are still stuck in a misunderstanding of > > our animal situation and in dire myths that hide the nature of motives > > even from those who lay claim to extirpate ideology. One wants to > > live and let live, yet this is never enough. We need 'power' of some > > kind to negate power itself - or fatalism. > > > On Oct 14, 2:03 pm, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > Though motives can work themselves into a snarl- like yarn or string- > > > and one often needs time (maturity and education) to follow the path > > > backwards. (The Labyrinth myth comes to mind.) > > > > On Oct 14, 1:36 am, RP Singh <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > Man is bound by God through genetics , environment etc. , but all of > > > > it so hidden that to an individual he is absolutely free , and free he > > > > is as he is the agent , it is he who decides and acts and as such the > > > > bonds beings so subtle as to be unconscious , he is consciously doing > > > > everything freely.If we can be aware of our real motives we can > > > > control our actions to some degree and it is in that way that > > > > knowledge of our hidden motives can help us. > > > > > On Thu, Oct 13, 2011 at 11:41 PM, archytas <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > I like the theme RP - but what of being 'bound' by genetics/evolution/ > > > > > environment - which gives some clues on how to escape through > > > > > knowledge? > > > > > > On Oct 13, 4:30 pm, RP Singh <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > >> It is God who binds you and not you yourself , and so you are > > > > >> accountable to yourself and society , but not to God. In this world > > > > >> you are doing everything freely , but in God's presence you are just > > > > >> a > > > > >> puppet. If I am bound to err , it doesn't absolve me of the action as > > > > >> it has been done by me , and if you hurt me , again you are > > > > >> accountable for it as it is done by you. It is only in God's presence > > > > >> that you are innocent as you are a puppet in his hand , but in man's > > > > >> world you are accountable and responsible for every action unless > > > > >> society frees you of that responsibility on the grounds of insanity > > > > >> on > > > > >> your part. You are always the agent and as such always responsible > > > > >> for > > > > >> your every action and inaction. > > > > > >> On Thu, Oct 13, 2011 at 8:36 PM, Vam <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > >> > When everything is predetermined... and if we all accept that as > > > > >> > fact... accountability is without meaning ! > > > > > >> > Accountability has a meaning when I have a choice in the matter, > > > > >> > and > > > > >> > if I am aware of that personal freedom. > > > > > >> > On Oct 13, 7:46 pm, RP Singh <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > >> >> When everything is predetermined , the obvious truth that it is > > > > >> >> man > > > > >> >> who is acting , makes man accountable to man and society and not > > > > >> >> to > > > > >> >> God. > > > > > >> >> On Thu, Oct 13, 2011 at 8:10 PM, Vam <[email protected]> > > > > >> >> wrote: > > > > >> >> > But I couldn't see the rational thread between the "God > > > > >> >> > alone..." > > > > >> >> > premise and its "Man alone..." derivative ! > > > > > >> >> > On Oct 13, 7:20 pm, archytas <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > >> >> >> I rather like the idea RP, of the corollary. > > > > > >> >> >> On Oct 13, 3:02 pm, RP Singh <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > >> >> >> > AS everything good and evil is done by God's dictates and > > > > >> >> >> > everything > > > > >> >> >> > that a man endures is from God's pleasure , the corollary > > > > >> >> >> > follows -- > > > > >> >> >> > whatever a man does , he is free to do and accountable to > > > > >> >> >> > man and > > > > >> >> >> > society.- Hide quoted text - > > > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > > - Show quoted text -
