I'm not sure the audience is as wide as your estimate rigs. Technically I am hospitable to any theoretical view from marxism to fascism - though I tend to dislike theoretical views - and hospitable to Islamic theory/s in business analysis - and to guests in my classrooms from all backgrounds. This is easy enough - as easy as offering to put you up if you were travelling in the UK. The difficult bit is in reciprocity - here we might think of the Maussian concept of the gift and many examples in 'stoneage economics' - what is expect of a guest in return. One gives freely - a few nights stay is not given for a return of a few nights stay and so on - yet one does not generally keep giving to inhospitable guests. One can discuss racism yet not tolerate racists - but to brand people concerned their opportunities for homes and work are disappearing in immigration flows as racist who raise these issues with some hatred on the people taking them is also wrong (particularly if done by politically correct idiots whose homes and jobs are not under such threat). Hospitality is sometimes easy, sometimes very hard work, can be a treat or pain - but is always already reciprocal in intent even if no commodity exchange is meant. I prefer to be hospitable to you rigs than tolerant - tolerance has pratronising aspects - and this is my general approach to things intellectual. It's easy with you as I like what I hear. I have lost hospitality to politics. Left to typo as it hits the meaning better than the word I intended!
People hurt us Andrew. We hurt them. Some is intentional some not. Gossip is often vicious from the pub to academic cloister. Transactional analysis isn't a bad place to look at how rigs' "balanced score card" builds up in personal relationships - Eric Berne's 'Games People Play' is still. the best book. Only friends can generally hurt us as we come to expect better from them, value them and so on. Friendship is easily mimicked and sometimes that small thing you mention may reveal the charade. Sometimes we take things too hard and should just let an incident wash away. This can be particularly hard if you've been collecting brown stamps (been shit on) in too many recent encounters. I used to go to the pub every Friday to get rid of my collection - but this habit itself became a brown stamp. I'm not religious but there's lots in forgiveness and 'there but for the grace of god go I'. On 29 Jan, 19:11, rigs <[email protected]> wrote: > Please define what you mean by "hospitality"- of the individual, the > group, nations. Thanks. :-) > > On Jan 29, 5:22 am, archytas <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > > > I think the first consideration is hospitality rigs. > > > On Jan 29, 12:10 am, rigs <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > At least some had good intentions re empires- maybe that should be > > > noted. And I believe in good intentions, myself- don't you? It's > > > likely a project for those two columCouldns of thinking and sorting. > > > > On Jan 28, 6:41 am, archytas <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > Good question Andrew - though we could wonder why most people have > > > > rosy views of the US and British empires, pretty much against the real > > > > history. > > > > > On Jan 28, 11:19 am, rigs <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > Try being Pollyanna for a day and see how far you get. Or Dr. Pangloss > > > > > ("Candide") > > > > > > On Jan 28, 5:11 am, andrew vecsey <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > Why do so many of us remember negative feelings easier than > > > > > > positive ones. > > > > > > Pain over pleasure. Bad news over good news. Why does "bad" > > > > > > overshadow > > > > > > "good", immorality over morality, despair over hope, pessimism over > > > > > > optimism. Why does hate appear to be more powerful than love? Why > > > > > > is greed > > > > > > louder than generosity. Why is destruction of war so much faster > > > > > > than the > > > > > > building power of peace. Why can one little lie destroy a lifetime > > > > > > of > > > > > > trust. Why are lies more influential than truth. It all seems so > > > > > > one sided. > > > > > > Why is that?- Hide quoted text - > > > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > > - Show quoted text - -- --- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups ""Minds Eye"" group. To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an email to [email protected]. For more options, visit https://groups.google.com/groups/opt_out.
