Hey dave, On Sat, Apr 3, 2010 at 5:08 PM, david buchanan <[email protected]> wrote:
It was probably me. I vaguely recall feeling sympathy for his case at the time and even as you tell it again from your perspective I tend to sympathize with Steve's side. Sorry. Well obviously it was more complicated than me dropping in unannounced all the time. I just came by on the weekends when I had a moment, usually bringing a brew with me and even willing to help out if he needed a hand but what was bugging him went much deeper than me barging in on him all the time. But that's perceptive of you to recognize your basic simpatico-ness with Steve. As we've moved along on this forum, your reactions and responses to me have coincided with what some of his were as well, leading me to understand that some frictions are just personality clashes that are inevitable when differing people communicate who they are to each other. But last time you had an "issue" with me, you weren't sorry at all. This time you say "sorry" and you know what? It helps me feel better a bit. Weird. But true. So thanks for that small concession. It's probably because I hate intrusions. Ringing doorbells, phones, barking dogs and people who stop by without calling. In fact, for years we had neighbors right across the street. They had no sense of personal boundaries. Invite themselves to parties, stop by for a chat as we're packing the car for trip, drop by at all hours, stand too close, talk to loud. They were smart and talented people but they were just plain rude. Not cause they grew up in a rough inner city neighborhood or anything, they were just too self-absorbed to be sensitive to such things. I don't know if that's what's going on with you and Steve, I just know dropping by unannounced usually doesn't work for me. I don't really like people intruding on me either, so I understand completely. And in the "furthur good news dept." I haven't dropped in on Steve socially for years and years now. Probably never will again. Joy. dmb says: If I may butt in here... It seems to me that your so-called friend is just plain rude and a little bit neurotic. A real friend would know better than to interupt a project. Why should he expect you to drop what you're doing? Maybe once or twice if he had a much, much more attractive offer in mind, but what guy doesn't understand the need for head space and such? Would you believe that I lost a friend over George's war? If you are familiar with Chris Hitchens'departure from THE NATION, then you know exactly how it went down. In this case I was THE NATION and he was Hitchens. It almost came to blows, which would have been very unfortunate for me because he's a very large man. I'm real sad about it. Well just hope you never bump into me in a dark alley, Professor Buchanan! Kidding of course. I'm with you on Bushies oil power grabs, and I'm more at ease with Steve's rejection of my friendship since I got some intellectual understanding of the process of Roycean "dangerous pairs". Don't feel quite so cranky as I did about your ignorant disparagement of me as I used to, now that Josiah has helped me understand. John, sent from Lu's I-pad, on the road. Moq_Discuss mailing list Listinfo, Unsubscribing etc. http://lists.moqtalk.org/listinfo.cgi/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org Archives: http://lists.moqtalk.org/pipermail/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org/ http://moq.org/md/archives.html
