Speaking from my former life as a preschool teacher, I know all too well the 
importance of forming a RELATIONSHIP with the child before expecting academic 
results. Think about the scenario of a three or four year old walking up to you 
holding his parent's hand, meeting you  for the first time and being introduced 
to you as his "new teacher." Wow! From the child's perspective, this is one big 
expectation...to then take the teacher's hand, be led to a group of kids you 
don't know, to be brought to the bathroom you will use, the mat you will sleep 
on, the kid you'll sit next to and the group you'll be a part of for the next 9 
months. This will not happen successfully if we do not, first and foremost, 
make what I call "brownie points" with the students. It's a game of drawing 
them in, making them like/love you, asking them about their pet, their family. 
Complimenting them on their new shoes and how fast they make him run. This all 
has to be done in a genuine, honest way by the
 teacher or this child will not see you as someone he can trust or like. He 
will not "want to learn for you, to please you or to be around you." I think 
teachers are born, not made, and if you don't have the heart for what you are 
doing, and keep your eyes on the prize (the child's individual success) they 
can see through that and will keep a certain distance. I have found that 
elementary students are not at all different from my preschool students. I can 
be a skill though, and I'd suggest for anyone who really wants to see this in 
action to go visit a quality preschool program at their local college or 
university. Watching a good preschool teacher is like watching an artist paint, 
or a dancer dance.
I love four year olds. But I also love 2nd graders.
Debbie

Beverlee Paul <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: Very true.  It's the children who 
don't know.

If you are forced to sit a child in a chair and do meaningless things all 
day every day, and if you're an ELL (or any) child who has no idea what 
you're talking about, or how to do what you're asking, or how to please you, 
or how to please herself, or that you really care, even though you 
faithfully read the script which shows you don't. . . .

When you are so under pressure about scores that you plain can't help but 
sigh when another child who isn't going to "make it" is brought to you. . . 
.

When your brain does dead and your tongue goes numb by repeating the same 
words and signals over and over to children who haven't the faintest. . . .

When you have to say to child, "Yes, I know about your grandpa" but you have 
to move on because the coach is coming between 9:13 and 9:17 to see what 
part of lesson 17 you're on. . . .

Any program which puts the program first, the coach second, the teacher 
third, and doesn't see the relevance of the child at all, just the empty 
vessel . . . .





 > Thanks for the article; it's a keeper.  However, unaddressed in the
 > article
 > is the belief that ALL reading programs, etc. can be used effectively IF
 > the
 > teacher is caring, etceteras.  Unfortunately, I believe some reading
 > programs (used with FIDELITY, of course) are mutually exclusive to
 > establishing positive relationships.  There are some programs that just
 > plain make it impossible to treat a student with respect.  Love, maybe, 
on
 > the part of the teachers, but can the child get it in the environment set
 > up
 > by some reading programs?
 >
 >
What programs would those be?  I think most teachers know that their
relationship with that child is more a factor in that child's growth than an
impersonal program....
Bill


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