Manuel wrote:
>CONCLUSION: Be VERY careful when asking a favour from a Japanese person.
>Maybe you should first make it VERY VERY VERY clear that there is a
>difference in culture/attitude regarding favours and that you mean a
>different kind of thing than the Japanese person would assume you do.
>Otherwise you will have a chance that you ruin the Japanese person, without
>even knowing/realising it!
Haha, you found out too. Let me add something to this: this is but ONE of
the many differences in attitude between Japanese and non-Japanese. Besides,
you will not really ruin the Japanese person (Japanese are very polite, but
they're not exaggerating this to the extent of ruining themselves), but you
do run the risk of ruining your own relationship with someone. When you
haven't been in Japan for some time, it's very hard to find out if someone
really likes you or not. Basically, you will think most Japanese are very
kind and nice, but mind there are certain people who follow the Japanese
manner of politeness, but on the other hand think you're quite a lousy
person, asking for so much favours :)
>This whole thing may sound very strage to non-Japanese people, but today I
>had an experience and an extensive talk with my Japanese collegues here
>which made me write this e-mail. It is really TRUE! So be VERY VERY
>careful!
Seems to me your colleagues are quite the kind of people you'd wish for,
since they warn you for such things before it actually happens (or, DID
something like this actually happen?). I don't think it's a problem either
to ask some of your colleagues about several things, since it occurs to me
that they are willing to take the time and effort to explain it to you.
Rieks.
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