A dear friend who does family and drug & alcohol counseling once advised us: Any action that is acknowledged will continue.. good bad or otherwise, acknowledge the action and it will continue.. This thought process works with both children and adults in almost every case you can think of I have had ONLY one person that it backfired.. ignore her bad behavior and she just got worse.. but eventually she did just go away :)
My own personal mantra will add: responding opens the door for a rebuttal.. in other words.. just don't answer.. anything you answer with just is an open invitation to continue the discussion/argument Debbie At 08:46 AM 9/1/2009, you wrote: >Also very well said Diana! >I'd like to add Maggie that one of the ways I combat negativity and >"drama" people is just not to engage them. I put a "positive" >bubble around me and turn lemons into lemonade. Its difficult at >first but many times the negative people respond in a positive >way. But even if they don't, YOU are happier and other people (in >this case clients and co-workers) see your positive attitude and are >drawn to you. Win, win for you. >JMHO, >Simmy >Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry > >-----Original Message----- >From: Diana Bonn <[email protected]> > >Date: Tue, 01 Sep 2009 06:36:54 >To: <[email protected]> >Subject: Re: [SPAM] NailTech:: Interesting phenomenon > > > >Maggie, I read gobs of stuff on the subject of negative personalities >years ago, because of a situation I was in. And one thing that stuck >in my head was negative personalities control you. If they can >change the way you feel about something, then they are controlling >you. If you don't accept their negative "issues" then they are not >controlling you and in return you are still positive. Basically, do >not accept being controlled. > >On that note, better said than done. Have to say, that I have >stopped the negative around me in certain circumstances with >remembering this theory. But in reality, if you have so much around >you, can't get away from it!!!! > >These type of people have miserable lives, not just negative in the >working atmosphere, but at home too, and Gawd help the poor waitress >if they screw up!!!!I think in your case these people are blaming the >salon owner for their whole lives because they can't take >responsibility. And it won't change. I think it is HARD to find a >salon without the negative personalities, like Lynnette said. I have >a great salon, we have one negative person, but Lordy Be, don't have >to work with her all the time!!!!!!!!!!!!! JMHO diana from indiana > > > > >Please read the last 4 or 5 entries-- because it's all one long > >rant-- I'd love to get some discussion started about what I wrote > >because I'm seeing a lot more of this going around-- more and more > >of us are still happy with what we do but having problems keeping > >our positive attitudes in the midst of grumpy co-workers. > > Maggie Franklin: Attitudes Salon; Visalia, CA > >"Visionary rebel dreamer; obviously way ahead of my time." > ><http://www.artofnailz.com/>Maggie's Website > ><http://afishwithabicycle.blogspot.com/>Maggie's Blog > ><http://blogs.nailsmag.com/maggie/>Maggie Rants [and Raves] > ><http://myspace.com/nailsbymaggie>Myspace > ><http://www.facebook.com/onykophile>Facebook > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Regards, Debbie ^v^ ^o^ //\o/\\ ^o^ ^v^ Webmaster - System Admin - IDSR [email protected] (AOL or AIM - NailGdsss, GTalk - wkdwich, MSN - [email protected]) WWWeb Services, Ronkonkoma, NY & Rocky Mount, VA 631-981-1273 fax 631-981-7557 ONLINE STORE http://www.beautytech.com/shoppe http://www.beautytech.com & http://www.beautytech.INFO for Professionals for Consumers --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "NailTech" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/nailtech?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
