Wow! What appearently heartless people! It always
surprises me when I here what family can do to each
other.
My relationship is a little better with DH. I still
am leary and edgie.... waiting for a fight I suppose..
One I hope and pray won't come. I fought most of my
life... with someone or other. I don't have the
energy to do it anymore... so I guess I am not
tolerant about him barking orders at us. Ask me ...
don't tell me... and most certainly... DO NOT SCREAM
at me. But things have settled down for the most part
with him.
Now the situation with my fil... uggg... that gets
worse each and everyday. I went out to the house we
are getting to see if they are done yet. NO... and
won't be until after the 1st of the year! That is
what I wanted for Christmas... my own house... no more
fighting with him. I am having to go to the laundary
mat now... he will only leave the part of the house
that has the washer and dryer unlocked when he is here
too. It is soo stupid and sad. I don't have a lot of
family myself... but I didn't think that was how
family acted. I am not letting him and HER take the
children anywhere either. They treat us so badly that
I am terrified that they will say mean and hurtful
things to the babies. Uggg.... so much for my HAPPY
extended family.... sigh. I will take them to see
them for just a few min here and there... but never do
they get them alone... and I don't like being with
them so the children don't stay long either. It is
really sad... Becca Grace used to LOVE spending time
with Poppy (fil)... now that he has his gf... he
hasn't spent any time with her. But she still has her
Momma and Brothers and Sisters... so she isn't hurting
for love but she does miss him. It is soo unfair. I
won't say anything to them about this as I know my
temper and my "acid tongue" when I get angry and feel
like we are getting hurt. I would say some pretty
awful stuff. I live by the old saying "If you ain't
got nothin nice ta say.... SHUT UP!" LOL It will
work out eventually... I hope. I just really wanted
to be moved LONG before now!
Tami
--- T Eli <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
> Wow, you're a much better woman than I. I too avoid
> the phone calls (not too tough since they hardly
> ever call anyhow). They came to visit once - Faith
> was a month old. They expected me to wait on them
> hand and foot, even wash their bedding every day,
> which was really bizarre since they only bathe like
> once a week, if that. I tried showing them how to
> use the wash machine and do it themselves, but they
> wouldn't. Plus my mil had a cold and gave it to
> Faith. I ended up spending most of their stay holed
> up in my bedroom while my DH was at work! I'm sure
> they won't come to visit again soon. I told DH if
> they do, they can stay in the hotel down the street!
> We really don't have much room for guests anyhow
> either! What's worse, is that my mil told dh's best
> friend after that that I should be out on the street
> for "making" dh help me with the house work! Good
> thing I wasn't around to hear that comment!
>
> Pamela Hanson <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:I had a
> similar situation. Fortunately my MIL/FIL live in
> another state. I suddenly developed a "dislike" of
> planes and travel. I just happen not to be around
> when they call or DH calls them. (This stopped the
> anatomization or fake friendliness on the phone)
> Problem solved on my end. :) The only times they
> ever came here no one had a good time and they
> stayed too long on all occasions - and refused to
> stay in a hotel. I got rid of the guest bed after
> the last visit. We simply don't have the room now. I
> occasionally send a kind and non-personal card with
> photos of kids so they don't feel left out. Beyond
> that the ball is in their court.
> I sincerely wish them well. I hope their days are
> filled with happiness and their nights with sound
> happy sleep.
> Best wishes!
> Pamela
> .
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: T Eli
> To: bfing
> Sent: Thursday, December 09, 2004 4:00 PM
> Subject: [bfing] Re: test
>
>
> I was getting that crap from my in-laws when Faith
> was only 9 months old...not looking forward to their
> comments next time we see them if she's still
> nursing then. My fil totally humiliated and
> degraded me in front of a bunch of people back then,
> and really upset me, so it will probably be a LONG
> time before we see them again...so maybe she will be
> done nursing by then!
> Tami Spillman <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: I am
> here.... Brennen turned 1 on 17 November... and
> still nursing strong! I am taking some picking at
> from family and friends for him "still being on the
> boob" but it is the 5 time I have heard this
> routine... you would think that they would just give
> up..... LOL
> Tami
> Mommy to:
> Britney 18, Brooke 15, Blake 13, Becca Grace 3,
> Brennen 1, and Mommy #2 to John Michael
>
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