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She sounds like a BF mum - didnt know what ABA
stood for so I have filled her in - and told her my local ladies are a lovely
bunch.
I guess we bonus baby mums are a bit thin on the
ground but I have also suggested perhaps her role is to be a wise woman just
modelling her wisdom with her baby - and shared a few laughs about the
situations you can be in as an "older" mum with big kids as well - like the time
I pulled out after "chatting" to an innocent first timer at school drop off (our
kids were only 5)-only to notice the brown bottle rolling around my car floor -
obviously in full view as we spoke. These mums were still at the stage where
they were so certain that their good mothering would mean THEIR kids would
never kiss boys/ girls/ have sex/ drink alcohol etc (Let alone a few other
things that they probably did themselves when they were young!) a teenager had
borrowed my car the night before! Maybe I could have said "I do get thirsty in
the mornings".
It really is a different perspective and I think
for older mums in this situation it can be a bigger adjustment than a first time
baby - there is generally NO excitement or support from your friends (This
woman's friends all told her the thought of being pregnant makes me want
to vomit) yet you still undergo massive lifestyle changes/ changes of pace, (not
to mention the toll on an aging body) but have to keep up with teenagers/ older
kids. Of course there are bonuses and it is a precious experience but the
adjustment can be very tough and isolating, so it is nice if you can meet
others who really do "get it" .
Pinky
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