Re: [ozmidwifery] bonus babies

[Pinky McKay]

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Yes Denise - as I announced we were having a baby - my (then) 15 and 17 year olds looked from me to their father and in unison said "you dont STILL do IT???" Pinky ----- Original Message ----- From: Denise Hynd To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Friday, March 21, 2003 4:53 AM Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] bonus babies Pinky   You are so right ! and then there is the reaction of teenagers to parents getting pregnant which means they are publicly  known as still doing "it", when really only young people have those urges! and rights to doing "it"!  I remember the reaction when a friend's mother became pregnant when I went to high school in the swinging 60's which is the dark ages now!! Denise ----- Original Message ----- From: Pinky McKay To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Wednesday, March 19, 2003 2:08 PM Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] bonus babies She sounds like a BF mum - didnt know what ABA stood for so I have filled her in - and told her my local ladies are a lovely bunch.   I guess we bonus baby mums are a bit thin on the ground but I have also suggested perhaps her role is to be a wise woman just modelling her wisdom with her baby - and shared a few laughs about the situations you can be in as an "older" mum with big kids as well - like the time I pulled out after "chatting" to an innocent first timer at school drop off (our kids were only 5)-only to notice the brown bottle rolling around my car floor - obviously in full view as we spoke. These mums were still at the stage where they were so certain  that their good mothering would mean THEIR kids would never kiss boys/ girls/ have sex/ drink alcohol etc (Let alone a few other things that they probably did themselves when they were young!) a teenager had borrowed my car the night before! Maybe I could have said "I do get thirsty in the mornings".   It really is a different perspective and I think for older mums in this situation it can be a bigger adjustment than a first time baby - there is generally NO excitement or support from your friends (This woman's  friends all told her the thought of being pregnant makes me want to vomit) yet you still undergo massive lifestyle changes/ changes of pace, (not to mention the toll on an aging body) but have to keep up with teenagers/ older kids. Of course there are bonuses and it is a precious experience but the adjustment can be very tough and isolating, so it is nice if you can meet others who really do "get it" .   Pinky ----- Original Message ----- From: Duncan Pettman To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Tuesday, March 18, 2003 11:06 PM Subject: RE: [ozmidwifery] bonus babies what about the Australian Breastfeeding Assoc Pinky??? Even if she isnt feeing, they are a great support for mums of any age   Cheers (and biased) Tina new student midwife & ABA counsellor     -----Original Message----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Pinky McKay Sent: Tuesday, 18 March 2003 9:51 PM To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: [ozmidwifery] bonus babies I have an email from a mum of a bonus baby (her 25 year old daughter has a baby 6 weeks younger) who is a bit islolated - as tends to happen sometimes -her "old" friends thought she was crazy to have this baby and have drifted away and she feels -not much in common with young mums in mums groups -anyone here on central coast NSW with any suggestions/ contacts/ resources?   Pinky www.pinky-mychild.com