----- Original Message -----
Sent: Wednesday, March 19, 2003 2:08
PM
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] bonus
babies
She sounds like a BF mum - didnt know what ABA
stood for so I have filled her in - and told her my local ladies are a lovely
bunch.
I guess we bonus baby mums are a bit thin on the
ground but I have also suggested perhaps her role is to be a wise woman just
modelling her wisdom with her baby - and shared a few laughs about the
situations you can be in as an "older" mum with big kids as well - like the
time I pulled out after "chatting" to an innocent first timer at school drop
off (our kids were only 5)-only to notice the brown bottle rolling around my
car floor - obviously in full view as we spoke. These mums were still at the
stage where they were so certain that their good mothering would mean
THEIR kids would never kiss boys/ girls/ have sex/ drink alcohol etc (Let
alone a few other things that they probably did themselves when they were
young!) a teenager had borrowed my car the night before! Maybe I could have
said "I do get thirsty in the mornings".
It really is a different perspective and I think
for older mums in this situation it can be a bigger adjustment than a first
time baby - there is generally NO excitement or support from your friends
(This woman's friends all told her the thought of being pregnant makes
me want to vomit) yet you still undergo massive lifestyle changes/ changes of
pace, (not to mention the toll on an aging body) but have to keep up with
teenagers/ older kids. Of course there are bonuses and it is a precious
experience but the adjustment can be very tough and isolating, so it is
nice if you can meet others who really do "get it" .
Pinky
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Tuesday, March 18, 2003 11:06
PM
Subject: RE: [ozmidwifery] bonus
babies
what about the Australian Breastfeeding Assoc Pinky??? Even if she
isnt feeing, they are a great support for mums of any
age
Cheers (and biased)
Tina
new student midwife & ABA counsellor
I have an email from a mum of a bonus baby
(her 25 year old daughter has a baby 6 weeks younger) who is a bit
islolated - as tends to happen sometimes -her "old" friends thought she
was crazy to have this baby and have drifted away and she feels -not much
in common with young mums in mums groups -anyone here on central coast NSW
with any suggestions/ contacts/ resources?
Pinky
