----- Original Message -----
Sent: Wednesday, July
16, 2003 10:33 AM
Subject: RE: [ozmidwifery]
vaginal wall tearing
I am actually under the care of the
midwives clinic attached to the Geelong Hospital and I have loved all the
midwives that I have met so far. They are all very supportive of my wishes and
ideas. I had a laugh with the last midwife I saw about the fact that I would be
propositioned by the OB at this appointment to have a c-sec. But I didn’t
dream that I would face what I did.. I understand about liability,
responsibility, ‘harm minimisation’ and all the stuff that makes up
hospital policy- but I never expected to feel so ridiculed by someone who should
be glad that I am willing to take responsibility for my body and the birth of
our child.. Informed choices, informed decisions are what we are told to make
these days- but ‘they’ forgot to mention that if these
choices/decisions aren’t what is recommended, then shock tactics may be
introduced.
If anyone out there does know of a woman
who has experienced a tear like mine, then gone on to ‘survive’ a
subsequent VB, I would really appreciate hearing their story. Even any of you
lovely ladies out there that have cared for women like me, I would love to hear
a positive story/outcome..
-----Original Message-----
From:
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[mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On
Behalf Of Larry & Megan
Sent: Wednesday, 16 July 2003
10:52 AM
To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
Subject: RE: [ozmidwifery] vaginal
wall tearing
My heart
goes out to you, I'm not a midwife but I know enough to know youv'e been
bullied.
I had a
second degree tear with my first which I think was brought on by obs coaching
to push my baby out. Second baby was born at home in the water, wonderful
midwife and only my breath and involuntary pushing to birth my baby, small
first degree tear, no stitching required. Third baby at home, same results. I
also had a physiological third stage for both bubs at home.
I truly
believe that you must have faith in what you are trying to do and must also
have faith in those supporting you. I don't know what options you have
regarding who you birth with, but it may be worth seeking other care providers.
We did our homework, and were greatly supported by our midwife, we accepted the
associated risks and birthed as best we could.
It is
important to be informed of possible adverse outcomes, but this can't be your
focus, or your carers.
Nows a
good time to be with like minded people, reading positive birth stories,
be kind to yourself and take a breath to get back on track for the birth
of your baby.
I hope
you are feeling better, and your birth goes well,
-----Original Message-----
From:
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[mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]On
Behalf Of Isis and Andrew Caple
Sent: Wednesday, 16 July 2003 9:27
To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
Subject: RE: [ozmidwifery] vaginal
wall tearing
I
apologize in advance for rehashing an old topic of discussion, but I need to
get this off my chest.
I had a
36 week ANC appointment with one of the hospital OB’s yesterday and I
left the appointment shaking with anger. I also left questioning my own wishes
and plans. I was asked if I realized the risks of a VB due to my tear. I
answered to the affirmative. I was asked if I truly appreciated the
‘great’ possibilities of incontinence if I had a VB. I answered
yes, but didn’t engage in a debate over the actual research done and what
may cause the incontinence.. I was then asked how I felt in the event of a
successful VB, with no tear, still meaning that 10-20-30-40 years down the
track I would most likely still need a colostomy bag due to the damage to the
perineal nerves/muscles- all linking back to my ‘ungiving’ scar
tissue and my adamant wish to have a VB. How does he expect me to feel, with
this doom and gloom prediction being spouted in an extremely patronizing tone
of voice? He went on and on for about 6-7 minutes about how I must
realize the risks that my choices could entail. I felt my face getting hot, I
felt sweat beading on my upper lip, I started shaking. The only part of my
wishes that he actually ‘approved’ was the possibility of an
episiotomy.. Then he started on my wish for a physiological 3rd
stage- again predicting doom and gloom. His exact wording was ‘Sure it is
great to have a natural delivery of the placenta, but you can also die
naturally from massive blood loss. Did you know that a PPH can mean that blood
is running with the speed of a household tap and before you know it you have
lost 3000cc of blood?’ I just nodded dumbly in shock and disbelief..
Today I
doubt myself, my abilities, my wishes, my knowledge, my body. I feel physically
sick, thinking of all the women who go to see a doctor and end up being scared
into submission. No wonder the rates of intervention are so high, no wonder the
concept of a normal, natural birth doesn’t actually mean what it sounds
like..
I am
scared of this birth, I am wavering in my resolve to not have a c-section just
in case. I feel empty.
