RE: [ozmidwifery] Birth trauma anniversary

[Wayne and Caroline McCullough]

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Sonia,   I think it takes time to digest what happens as a result of a traumatic birth. I didn't fully deal with Liam's birth (or understand what happened) until I was pregnant with Daniel and it all came flooding back to me.   It might be a good idea to write a letter to your ob and if you don't feel you get an adequate response send a copy to the Health Complaints Commission in your State. I don't see why you'd want to tread carefully with him when you were the one who was wronged.   Justine tells me they are quite receptive and want to hear stories like this because most women usually just bottle it all up and get on with their mothering (which I can fully understand because I know from personal experience it is easier to go forward and think about what you have than to revisit what you've lost in the process).   You aren't a fruit loop. Your reactions are normal... be a bit kinder to yourself! Liam is nearly four and I still have flashbacks occassionally.... I still find it hard even though I've had a positive birth experience with Daniel.   Big hugs and if you want to get in touch with our support group "Birth Trauma Support" just email Ursula at [EMAIL PROTECTED].   Cheers,   Cas.     Cas McCullough [EMAIL PROTECTED] www.casmccullough.com   -----Original Message----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of *G and S* Sent: Monday, 24 November 2003 5:35 PM To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] Birth trauma anniversary   Rhonda,              Thanks.  After sending my earlier message I re-read it and instantly regretted posting it. I sound like a total fruit-loop!! I do appreciate your response though and have taken all that you have said onboard.  I have actually sent my ob. a copy of my birth story and we've talked about it at some length.  He said it was "a fair and accurate account".    Even though I still don't blame him for what happend I do carry some anger that won't go away.  I think I have been a little too good natured in the past.  Maybe I should send him a letter expressing a couple of my unfinished buisness issues?  I have toyed with this idea before but have always hesitated as I don't want to tread on his little ob/gyn toes.  Afterall, he's well and truly over it.   For myself I want total closure and I do need to move on.  That is why I asked the question re. flaskbacks.  I want to keep moving forward and not go the other way.   I'm glad that there is at least one other mother out there who has been-there-done-that and left still standing.  Thanks for being an inspiration Rhonda. Sonia W.