On top of that we are not there to tell the woman what to do. She is going to have to live the rest of her life with the outcome of the decision so it has to be hers alone. All we can do is help her clarify her thoughts and feelings as well as letting her know the help that is available which ever way she goes. Then it really is up to her. Judy
--- Ken WArd <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > sometimes just talking and answering questions helps people > sort things out > a bit in their own mind. It opens up topics for discussion, > reveals what > support she has, religious views vary, and may be part of her > distress. This > may be the only time you see this woman, and you need to give > her all the > info you can. You may feel a bit uncomfortable, but she has > come for help, > and wants to talk. She won't tell you what she doesn't want > you to know. > You will become more comfortable asking 'prying' questions as > you gain > experience experience > > > > > -----Original Message----- > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] Behalf Of > Emily > Sent: Monday, 27 June 2005 3:38 PM > To: [email protected] > Subject: [ozmidwifery] pregnancy counselling > > > hi everyone > im very sorry if this is too off topic, just ignore if it > is!! > i had an exam today with a pretend patient who came in for > pregnancy > test results. it was positive and she was very upset cying etc > and probably > wanted to have an abortion. i let her talk and found out how > she felt and > enquired about her partner's views, whether she was studying > or working and > what her main concerns where etc etc. as well as giving her > unbiased info > about her options > the feedback i got from the examiner, i really disagree > with. he said > that i should have found out about her living conditions, how > big her home > was, who she lived with, whether her partner had a job... etc > etc even what > her dad would think about her having a baby and whether he was > religious ! > i feel that asking these questions of a distressed woman > youre seeing > for the 1st time is just fulfilling your own cur! iosity. it > may help you > make a value judgement of what you think she should do but > does asking her > these things (that she already knows the answers to) help her > make the > decision or just help you decide your own opinion ?? also > wouldnt you asking > those sort of questions express to her your opinion? ie if she > answered she > lived in a one bedroom bedsitter and didnt have a partner or > job, then she > may feel that youre saying these are reasons why she shouldnt > have the bub. > love to hear what your thoughts are because i might write > a letter to > the faculty about it because i definately lost marks > thanks everyone - ahh exam stress hey? > emily > > > > > ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- > -- > Discover Yahoo! > Get on-the-go sports scores, stock quotes, news & more. > Check it out! > ____________________________________________________ Do you Yahoo!? Win a dream trip to Western Australia, courtesy of the NEW My Yahoo! http://au.my.yahoo.com/ -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe.
