One of the most moving father involvements I have seen was many years ago. Their first baby, she was sweaty and untidy and in pain etc and he just kept whispering in her hear "You're beautiful, I love you." Tear making stuff. They are still a happy couple after another three children and 20 years. cheers Judy --- Miriam Hannay <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
> I'm with you, Megan! > > To give birth to a beloved child is the ultimate > expression of the emotional and sexual love my husband > and I share. > > He described me during labour and birth as being > 'awesome, powerful, sexy, strong, more beautiful than > ever before'. He even commented that the involuntary > noises I made during birth were similar to the noises > I make during orgasm! > > Obviously, such an experience relies on the nature of > the birth itself, We had three babes at home and one > in hospital, all beautiful physiological births with > no intervention. > > With regard retaining your 'sexual mystery', I'm not > quite sure what there is about sex and sexuality > that's 'mysterious'. If a couple's sexual relationship > is open, honest, loving and passionate, does there > need to be any 'mystery'? To me this smacks a little > of patriarchal notions of women's role as sexual > object... Gee, I hope my husband doesn't find anything > about me mysterious after fourteen years, otherwise > how would he know what I need and desire?! > > What would be fantastic for men would be for all > practitioners to actively facilitate a role for them > during the birth process that makes them feel involved > and reflects the extraordinary beauty of the > experience. If only... regards, Miriam. > > --- Megan & Larry <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > Its interesting how the conversation focuses on the > > womans vagina. > > What about the rest of her body? > > My husband loved the feeling of my muscles working > > in my body, he says they > > have been different for each birth. > > The last 3 were water births, so no vagina watching > > by any one. > > Speaking on his behalf, I know that he was and is so > > awe inspired by > > watching me have our babies, it only added to his > > desire and love. > > So I guess the total experience of how women birth > > is what we are looking > > at. No surprises there! > > The book, I think titled, Father Time, which is a > > collection of interviews > > of Australain men, discusses this and the men who > > experienced homebirths > > very clearly did not experience the trauma. > > > > I'm not sure about this "sexual mystery" thing > > though. As a woman I take > > great pride in having a uterus, vagina and breasts > > that have created and > > given life 4 times, its not all about "toys for > > boys". > > (Although having 4 sons kind of retracts that > > statement) > > > > My thoughts anyway > > Megan > > > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On > > Behalf Of Andrea Robertson > > Sent: Wednesday, 31 August 2005 10:26 AM > > To: [email protected] > > Subject: [ozmidwifery] Men at births > > > > This is an interesting report in today's Sydney > > Morning Herald. I remember > > Michel Odent talking about research done in the US > > that explored the effect > > on a couple's sexual relationship when the man had > > been exposed to the birth > > process. Michel was advocating that women might want > > to retain some of their > > "sexual mystery" by excluding men from the birth > > room. I have been at births > > where I wondered how the father was taking the sight > > of a practitioner > > cutting an episiotomy..... > > > > What does everyone think about this? > > > > > http://www.smh.com.au/articles/2005/08/30/1125302566185.html > > > > Regards, > > > > Andrea > > > > ----- > > Andrea Robertson > > Birth International * ACE Graphics * Associates in > > Childbirth Education > > > > e-mail: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > web: www.birthinternational.com > > > > > > -- > > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe > > or unsubscribe. > > > > -- > > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe > > or unsubscribe. > > > > > Send instant messages to your online friends > http://au.messenger.yahoo.com > -- > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or > unsubscribe. > Send instant messages to your online friends http://au.messenger.yahoo.com -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe.
