Previously written: Actually, a stupid jerk is someone who does all his formals with a little ttl flash on camera.
You really can, and many really do, use big strobes at weddings, myself included. Back when I was working weddings we would use 400ws Lumedynes. You can do a lot with 2 lights. I have heard of photographers using monolights and bringing a background. Better them then me although we used to do environmental portraits between the wedding and the reception. I suppose it would be no harder to set up a background and a couple of monolights in a spare room at the reception hall. Butch Each man had only one genuine vocation - to find the way to himself. Hermann Hesse (Demian)