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Ogy and I had a bad day
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Chris, I am far from the expert about things like this...but I took
many classes in psychology, in child, family service program in
college. My guess is that under the circumstances Ogy was likely
embarrassed of what he had to do and he doesn't know what to say or do
with all this new information you all have been given about his
situation recently. And he doesn't know what to do with what the
doctors are telling him....so it was his way of "acting out" just a
bit. I think it is normal reaction, however, he may have done it in a
different way that was safer for both of you. However, it was his way
of expressing that he needed an outlet to vent too. I'm sure he is
asking himself why does this have to happen to me? I 'm sure he's also
angry this is happening to him....as most of us out here experience at
one point in time too. Maybe it would be a good if your husband tried
to sit and talk with him about his feelings, (but in a man's sort of
way) and ask him open ended questions....not pin him down if he is
being obvious that he feels uncomfortable about talking about it, but
casually bring it up to him (just the two of them). He may feel
"embarrased" about all this in front of Mom and not want to admit that
to his own Mom....but maybe he will feel more comfortable talking to
Dad in a "manly way" about things. This may help all of you to better
adjust and understand each person's perspective. I think Ogy needs "a
friend, a caring Dad" he can talk to now. Maybe after alitte talk with
Dad Ogy will feel more comfortable about talking to Mom too. Who
knows....but if that doesn't happen...don't be disappointed either.
Perhaps take it a day at a time and understand the whole family is
likely feeling tension as a result of what you are all going through.
Years ago, my Mother (a former registered nurse) was to have immediate
open heart surgery since they had found she had a hole in her heart
since birth and was never detected until she was 49 years old!
Luckily, I had been taking classes at that time in college, was doing
some social work experience in pastorial care in a local hospital while
preparing
myself to be a social worker. I worked with terminally ill patients
and their families deal with their situations. I was taught along time
ago back then it is very healthy for people to talk things out like
this...and open up to their loved ones and express their thoughts,
fears, etc. whatever they wanted to share. Anyway, my Mother back
then was scared to death of having open heart surgery....plus having
been a nurse for as long as she was she also knew alot about the
medical things none of us would know I'm sure. (So...they say nurses
and doctors make the worst patients.) My Father also had had heart
problems and was told he eventually would have to have open heart
surgery too. My Mother first worried about talking with my Dad about
her fears, her situation for fear she would upset Dad. It was a mess!
( And he did later too have open heart surgery. ) As it turns out I
sat down with both of my parents and suggested to them to please open
up and share among the family those concerns and issues as it would
relieve alot of the additional stress and "pinned up" feelings. Both
parents survived the surgeries about a year apart from the other. The
one thing I learned from all this....both parents came to me separately
and "thanked" me for the advice and that it helped so very much. My
only hope and suggestion is that maybe this could help you all adjust
and share too. Please understand these are just my thoughts and in no
way do I claim to be any expert in this field. I am just one member of
the pituitary family and just trying to give a suggestion if it can
work.
All the very best luck with everything and the best to Ogy! We're
cheering for you all through this!
Take care!
Marty
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