> All right, I can see you are a bit understanding impaired today so I'll > explain. The "lecture" about getting the point was just word play with > the "missing" (as in "I miss my friend") part of "missing the point", I > tried to make it even obvious in the last phrase but I can see now it > was not enough for you.
Let's deconstruct: >> No, he meant that you've missed the point for so long that you have >> even forgotten how it looks like. >> You should have a picture to look at and sigh whenever you miss it. There is something uncharacteristically sentimental in the way you drew that analogy that I did miss originally. Obviously you're relating "the point" to the many women in your past whom you would forget if you didn't have any pictures of them. That "the point" reminds you of this is almost Freudian. ;) > > About the "self-image is challenged" all I can say is I've never seen > somebody take such harsh judgment based on so little information. You're obviously not the introspective sort. Do you read any of your own posts before you whisk them off? > And I > thought Jesus said something about it, but maybe I'm wrong. Point taken. I'm by no means perfect, either. Just seemed a rather obvious inference based on knowing you in the admittedly limited (but not exactly casual) way that this forum permits. > The "I didn't like who I was becoming by her side" referred to an > episode in a big row in which I put my fist through a 32' lcd tv. And > it > meant that I didn't like to be violent and destructive and she was > exasperating me to that point, so faced with the fact that I could not > control it and I did not like me doing that kind of stuff, I left. Hmm. To paraphrase your sensitive, non-judgmental advice to Pete, maybe she's not the problem, maybe you are? Maybe just running to new sexual conquests in casual relationships that make you feel like a conquering stallion is a sign of a deeper problem in who and what you are, whereas committed relationships bring inner demons out in ways that cause you to be afraid of yourself? I'm not judging, I'm just sayin'... > You > see, I abhor of people who abuse their strength or take advantage of > the weak, so I could not stay. Blaming her for your violent reactions is not very mature for a man already at the big five-oh. > I hope this clarifies the fact that it > was not about my "precious self-image", it was not that I was not > fashion enough or any of that bs. About using and discarding my couple, > she does not think the way you do about this, I'll be seeing her > tomorrow and we are still in friendly terms. She could have been the TV. Women with "battered wives syndrome" typically don't get it till it's too late. They keep wanting to reconcile, taking blame for their beloved's violent outbursts, who is altogether too happy to oblige in displacing the blame. > So please try not to > believe in your feeble imagination and before condemning a fellow man > try at least to get some more facts. The facts in this case as you have revealed them so far don't help your argument; but that is neither here nor there. For the record, I don't condemn you at all Ricardo. I know that God loves you just as unconditionally and undeservedly as he does me or anybody else. As we breathe, there is hope for us to find real peace and joy. All things considered I just thought it was rich that you and Jean were lecturing me about getting some kind of point when I had not long ago witnessed your harsh dumping on Pete on the subject of luck with women. Your subsequent bragging about all your sexual conquests and blaming of your most recent Dearly Beloved for all the problems in your relationship was ironic to me in this context, is all. I do apologize for sounding harsher than I intended (I don't really want to sound any harsher than you do), and didn't mean to wound you in any ways we aren't accustomed to wounding each other in this enlightened forum. ;) - Bob _______________________________________________ Post Messages to: [email protected] Subscription Maintenance: http://leafe.com/mailman/listinfo/profox OT-free version of this list: http://leafe.com/mailman/listinfo/profoxtech Searchable Archive: http://leafe.com/archives/search/profox This message: http://leafe.com/archives/byMID/profox/[email protected] ** All postings, unless explicitly stated otherwise, are the opinions of the author, and do not constitute legal or medical advice. This statement is added to the messages for those lawyers who are too stupid to see the obvious.
