Ditto River,
Hey Lil, my boy is now seven as well. He doesn't pull his bunk with me what so ever. Now with his birth mother, that is a totally different story. My boy Seth has had a stepmother figure for nearly ten months now. Seth tried to pull the crap with my girl friend (Kathy) early on and just about had her beat. With her never having children it was hard, however she was a social worker for years and has had allot of dealings with kids. She put her foot down and refused to let him win. They have been the best of buds every since.
I feel a child without firm discipline has no direction. We designed a daily chore chart- make bed and pick up pajamas, pick his stuff up after meals, practice something through the day- flash cards- reading etc., pick up shower stuff after shower. He receives a smiley face for every thing he does without being asked, and a frowning face for us telling him to do it. This has worked very well, he rarely ever gets a frowning face. And for 8 smileys he gets a prize (of our choice) from the prize bag we keep stocked, with- little toys, flash cards, puzzles, books, games etc. He has become much more responsible, and he feels good about his accomplishments. This also limits the TV time which becomes less of an influence. And for punishment's, which I really don't recall the last time we punished him. I have always done the grounding thing, I take away the favorite's for a period of time, whether it be a TV program, !
a snack,
game etc., this has been affective. That's my parenting in a nutshell.
River Wolfe <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
I don't have kids, but I have a 5mo german Shepherd puppy. When he doesn't want to do something, he bites, barks and acts up. If I'm consistent and don't give in no matter what, he stops and complies. It's important I think to never let your boy think that his griping will get him out of something. kids nowdays are spoiled rotten and don't appreciate what they have and how hard we have to work to give it to them. I think it's good that he works for money. My neighbors have two adult children that live with them. The son is very heavy and NEVER helps out his mom and dad in the yard etc...His dad recently told me that the kid was going to move out but decided he wanted a new car (nothing wrong with the old one btw) instead. He doesn't pay rent, but he works part-time. So dad said ok and the kid bought the car !!!!!!unbelievable.Hand in there and be firm, even if he drives you batty, it will be worth it in the long run.River
On Aug 12, 2005, at 6:43 PM, David K. Kelmer wrote:
Hi LQ,Funny how kids are. My boys would drive my wife crazy with complaints, but when they were with me they were real good. It might have been the fact that they lost privileges if they complained to me about trivia things and their Mom just 'said' to them that they would lose their privileges. They knew I acted and Mom talked. Kids understand action. Good luck!
With Love,do you have probs with kids griping 24/7?? my 7 yr old son does on everything....the commercials, the pc won'tt go fast enough, his toys won't work right, bed at 8pm is too early... i didn't have any of that when his age.....just unbelievable...i think i'm going to tape him to a chair as if he were disabled like me for a day and see if that clears it up?? you think??he has no appreciation for anything. i have tried to make sure he learns to value everything, well it ain't working anymore!he worked yesterday out in the yard and earned 5 dollars, today he won't do anything without griping, back tackling or mumbling under his breath. all of which i used to do until i got backslapped one good time (age 15).....i don't want to have to do that..HELP PLEASE!!!???
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