Whenever my able-bodied husband goes out in public no matter where it
is (but usually stores) he is always running into rude, obnoxious,
ignorant and stupid people. Even the customer service people seem to
treat him like crap. And he lets them bother him to no end (hours
later). I try to tell him to not let them get to him as much as they do
but it is very hard for him because they piss him off so much.
Even the stuff that we receive in the mail over and over and over adds
to the stress.
Ironically, I have exactly the opposite problem.
People flock to me like flies on poop! People are always
ready to open doors for me, help me shop, strike up a conversation, etc.
etc. etc. etc.. And ever since I began taking my service dog with me
into stores I actually have to count on "extra time" for being in the
store (or a half-hour longer shopping trip in a store) because people
are always coming up to me and want to talk about my dog or their
dogs or just conversation in general. I don't mind it but sometimes I
just want to carry on.
You have brought this up before, Bobbie, so I think you let it bother
you too much like my husband does. Despite it being very hard not to
drive you crazy. And it sounds like you live in an area full of
ignorant people who are uncomfortable with people with disabilities.
Some of the suggestions on here (especially W's first response) are good
ones. So if you really want to be noticed then you have to go out
of your way to make them aware of you. You have been
disabled for a long long time so this should not be a revelation to
you.
Sometimes when people move from one place to another they notice a
big difference in the people in the new place. For the better or
for the worse. For example, my husband lived in Houston, Texas
when we were dating and the Internet and he moved to New York state to
marry me and to live. He was so he used to the Southern
hospitality that he was constantly bombarded with what he noticed as
extremely rude New Yorkers. Having lived in upstate New York my
entire life I simply did not notice what he did.
But if you have lived in the same place most of your life, Bobbie,
you should be used to it, no?
But, boy, do I wish that either being ignored by people
or being inundated with people was on my list of things to worry about!
For the last five years my health has outdone anything. From two major
wounds that put me in bed almost a year total to several back-to-back
UTIs. In my recent diagnosis with big bladder stones. And for the final
icing on the cake---I have been having problems with the cerebral spinal
fluid from syringomyelia that I have not had in over eight years. I just
need a big break from all these troubles that seem to happen
spontaneously!
Lori---you want to start having some fun in your life?
Oh no! This body of yours is going to wreak havoc upon any of your
plans!
So either shrug it off as ignorance, Bobbie, or make
yourself known like many have suggested here. You have to make
the difference.
Lori
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