From: dilip dacruz <[email protected]> To: "[email protected]" <[email protected]> Sent: Fri, May 21, 2010 2:01:44 AM Subject: RE: [SALIGAONET] Fw: Your Priests Need Your Prayers
Just a quickie: <What we must focus on is the fact that the Church MUST have transparent, agreed, policies to deal with all allegations - and most importantly, that alleged victims are not locked into the church. There MUST be a way out. This upsets me most, because no matter how many times I ask the church in India about these policies, I get no reply. > The focus MUST always be the victim. Transparent agreed policies ? with whom ? (elements whose one aim is to see the destruction of the Church?). Bad idea for the Church. There are policies and procedures in place to deal with credible allegations. All allegations ? Any one prejudiced against the Church, could easily fabricate a lot of victims who for the right incentive would come forth with false allegations. I've read the postings from Maurice, as to how many years it took to regain his property dealing with all the fabricated evidence against him. Very few are as fortunate to have maintained all the records as he did and yet it took so many years. Locked into the Church. Way out ???? I don't understand. If I don't get an answer from any organization, I will hound my local representative in the all powerful government to get what I want through their sources, That is my right. <The counselling work we are about to begin is great but it's the second stage not the first. The first thing we need is an independent way for victims to make contact without fear and prejudice. That in itself will solve half the problem because inappropriate authority is undermined. Contact should be made with victims in what ever way possible, leaving out victims who are contacted in a dependent way, with fear and prejudice, will be ignoring a lot of the problem.> The need is to make contact with victims in any way possible, as a lot will go through the system without any contact at all. Yes, the second stage is counselling and it is the COMPETENCY/INTEGRITY of the counsellor to break that nexus of dependency, fear and prejudice. Then, with built up credibility, move forward setting the stage for a lot of victims to emerge freely, slowly eroding the culture of shame and instilling the strength/confidence to speak out. Quentin -- This message comes via the Google Groups "Saligao-Net" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/saligao-net?hl=en Please post regularly to keep the e-village active!
