[lace-chat] Manner over matter?
Gentle Spiders, As a child -- y'all know how uncompromising childen can be -- I had a problem lying, even in a good cause... Used to embarass my parents no end, and my Mother in particular tried to get me more civilised, especially after my famous/infamous but, definitely, un-gracious reception of a 6th b-day gift (a box of chocolates): I don't like chocolate; wish you'd bought me a *book*. My Mother's gentling had *some* effect; 30+ yrs in Virginia, under my DH's (who came to Poland announced as the last gentleman of the South g) tutelage smoothed the hard edges *some* more... But I still don't like to lie; the core has remained roughg Nor do I like to be beholden. And, being put in a situation where I'm *both* -- beholden and forced to lie -- is beyond contemplation... Which is why I never joined any of the Secret Pal exchanges; *having to* think of something clever to send out, for 6 months running, *and* with a deadline is a problem. But nowhere near as big a problem as having to gush -- in public, yet -- over something that I didn't particularly like getting... *Not* my cup o'T :) Recently, however, I got (from an e-friend) a *formula* Thank-You note, which, perhaps, might ease my entry into the ranks of the SP echanges... I'm enclosing it in hopes it will help those of you who're as gush-shy as I am: Dear Secret Pal, I came back from a hard day at _ and I was thrilled to find your in my mailbox! I mean, here I was feeling so crummy with my family member and my husband running away with and my son being arrested again for _, but your little _ just made the sun shine into my dreary little life!!! It lifted my spirits and made my heart soar I'm sorry but the staff at _ Home had to take the out of your treasure. We're not allowed to have sharp objects except under close supervision, especially after therapy sessions. The formula has, also, made me think (again), about the relative importance of good manners vs unvarnished truth, and what the best middle ground between them might be, should they come into conflict... A couple of people have written me -- within the past 24 hrs -- about their *unhappy* experiences with the SP exchanges. I'd judge one as somewhat aggrieved and the other as very aggrieved; only one of them (very aggrieved) has decided to do anything about it (report to the organiser), and then only because I'd already opened the can of worms... Manner over matter, for sure; excellent for giving the finger to old Karl (Marks), who claimed thaat matter was all that counted :) But... If one always keeps the stiff upper lip, manfully swallows one's disappointments, writes the correctly gushing thank-you notes no matter the personal dissatisfaction, and never admits to feeling I've been had, because it's so unworthy, or because it's too small a matter to raise a big stink about... The organiser has no idea of the true feelings of the participants, unless she's *told*. What's more, the *sender* might not be aware that she's being seen as deficient (though, if one spends some time reading all the TY notes, one gets *some* idea of what's being circulated). As a result, the deficiencies continue to be perpetrated, the grievances fester, but everyone suffers in polite silence... Stuff it... - Tamara P Duvall Lexington, Virginia, USA Formerly of Warsaw, Poland http://lorien.emufarm.org/~tpd/ To unsubscribe send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] containing the line: unsubscribe lace-chat [EMAIL PROTECTED] For help, write to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
[lace-chat] re: Australian Bricklayer Report
Hi spiders Read this one with some amusement. The tale reads just like the song entitled Murphy and the Bricks which I have on CD by Noel Murphy and the Mahogany Gaspipes in session. A very amusing collection of folk music. Nicky in Suffolk To unsubscribe send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] containing the line: unsubscribe lace-chat [EMAIL PROTECTED] For help, write to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
[lace-chat] SP THANK YOU
DEAR CANADIAN SP, THANK YOU FOR YOUR NICE PARCEL. THE THREAD IS WONDERFUL. THANK YOU ALSO FOR THE CARDS, WE HAVE NOT ANYTHING SIMILAR HERE. THE PORTRAIT IS ALREADY IN MY BEDROOM WITH A NICE PHOTO INSIDE, AND THE NOTES ARE USEFUL. THANK YOU AGAIN. I AM LOOKING FORWARD TO KNOW WHO YOU ARE. HAPPY LACING ALESSANDRA ITALY To unsubscribe send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] containing the line: unsubscribe lace-chat [EMAIL PROTECTED] For help, write to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
[lace-chat] Manners
Thought this was amusing and ya'll might enjoy as well. My Mother's best friend is a woman about 10 years her junior, who comes from a proper southern family but now lives near Mother. Mother said that her friend had come for dinner and commented that the cobwebs in the lampshade sparkled so beautifully when the light was on. Susan Webster Canton, Ohio To unsubscribe send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] containing the line: unsubscribe lace-chat [EMAIL PROTECTED] For help, write to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
[lace-chat] RE: seasonal disgruntle disorder
I haven't seen heart shaped doughnuts, but our favourite take and bake pizza place offers a large heart shapped pepperoni pizza on Valentine's day :-) I'll be getting one for my 2 little cherubs, and I'll cook something special for my big Cherub and I :-) The one that bugs me is Christmas stuff coming in in July (I understand with crafts, one needs time to complete projects), but why does it overshadow Thanksgiving? I love Thanksgiving - it's a great holiday with the best sorts of sentiment. Cheers, Helen, Aussie living in Dazzling Denver, where the sun is shining from a lovely blue sky on some pretty white snow. To unsubscribe send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] containing the line: unsubscribe lace-chat [EMAIL PROTECTED] For help, write to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
[lace-chat] Test; please ignore
It's worked for Sue, let's see if it'll wok for me.. It'd be nice to be able to see my own messages (other than in the archives or in my sent box) after all these months :) - Tamara P Duvall Lexington, Virginia, USA Formerly of Warsaw, Poland http://lorien.emufarm.org/~tpd/ To unsubscribe send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] containing the line: unsubscribe lace-chat [EMAIL PROTECTED] For help, write to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
Re: [lace-chat] RE: seasonal disgruntle disorder
Christmas stuff is in the stores during June/July in Australia, because some years ago a person clever in selling started promoting Christmas in Winter. In the full heat of summer at Christmas, the Australian climate is really not very suitable for preparing and eating all the traditional hot, heavy, cooked Christmas fare. So someone in a holiday destination not far from Sydney, where the climate in winter (June, July, August) is more similar to the northern hemisphere's winter, had the bright idea of offering a traditional Christmas dinner in June. The idea took off - and wherever one goes now, all sorts of hotels and restaurants are offering Christmas in June or July occasions. Maybe your stores are also trying to cash in on this craze, without understanding the reasoning behind it, Helen!! (vbg) Ruth Budge (Sydney, Australia) --- Helen Bell [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: The one that bugs me is Christmas stuff coming in in July (I understand with crafts, one needs time to complete projects), but why does it overshadow Thanksgiving? http://greetings.yahoo.com.au - Yahoo! Greetings Send your love online with Yahoo! Greetings - FREE! To unsubscribe send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] containing the line: unsubscribe lace-chat [EMAIL PROTECTED] For help, write to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
[lace-chat] spider news .......
with a twist ... Spider silk is an extremely strong material and its on-weight basis has been proven to be stronger than steel. Experts suggest that a pencil-thick strand of silk could stop a Boeing 747 in flight. i AM impressed . dominique from Paris To unsubscribe send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] containing the line: unsubscribe lace-chat [EMAIL PROTECTED] For help, write to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
[lace-chat] Little Tommy ; )
I think I've sat next to this Salesman from ___ on a number of flights... Subject: Fw: Little Tommy Little Tommy was in his seat on an airplane when a fellow passenger took the seat next to him. The stranger said Hias long as we are going to be traveling companions for the next three hours lets talk . I've heard that flights will go quicker if you strike up a conversation with your fellow passenger. Little Tommy, who had just opened his book, closed it slowly, and said to the stranger, What would you like to discuss? Oh, I don't know, said the stranger. How about nuclear power? OK, said Little Tommy. That could be an interesting topic. But let me ask you a question first.A horse, a cow, and a deer all eat grass. They all eat the same stuff. Yet a deer excretes little pellets, while a cow turns out a flat patty, and a horse produces clumps of dried grass. Why do you suppose that is? Jeez, said the stranger. I have no idea. Well,then, said Little Tommy, How is it that you feel qualified to discuss nuclear power when you don't know shit? Clay Blackwell Lynchburg, VA To unsubscribe send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] containing the line: unsubscribe lace-chat [EMAIL PROTECTED] For help, write to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
[lace-chat] chat
Last night I was so lonely because no body was on the computer..tonight I had 36 emails Halleluah I loved it. You guys have a good evening. I am gonna go make lace. :) :) Lynn Wfalconsmate Clarksburg, WV To unsubscribe send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] containing the line: unsubscribe lace-chat [EMAIL PROTECTED] For help, write to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
