Re: [QUAD-L] my mom
I went to social services the other day and was told that they don't give funds for rental assistance unless you have children or are over 65 so she's out of luck. She is going to have to give up her car bc the payments are too much to handle and esp w/car insurance. We are getting the forms for disability but she isn't going to have any income waiting for it and I really don't want her to lose her place. I can't have her living with me. She is driving me crazy from the hospital. She was getting paid to help me and insists on working again but there is no way I am doing it. I will turn to the churches but the sad reality is they don't really have many funds down here. It's not a big poputlation area so unfortuantly the churches never have much. Thanks for your prayers and help, Stacy - Original Message From: Quadius [EMAIL PROTECTED] To: Stacy Harim [EMAIL PROTECTED] Cc: quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Friday, March 21, 2008 5:22:20 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] my mom I really wish I could help you out, but it looks to me like you need the aid of a good social worker. I recently faced some issues with my mother, but not nearly to the extent you are experiencing right now. My heart goes out to you and hope someone else on here will have a better idea of how you can contact the social worker or any other ideas. Quadius On 3/21/08, Stacy Harim [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Hey all. I am having problems and serious concerns. My mom recently got two of her toes amputated due to bad circulation She isn't walking well on top of that due to the circulation. I am the only kid that is tepping up to the plate with her. My younger brother is in prison so has no way to help and my older brother isn't even calling us after several attempst to call him. Every morning I get a call from her all upset about something. I am working on getting her medical assistance and hoping I can get help with her rent since she doesn't have an income and hopefully she will be able to draw disability. On top of the toes she has an ulcer on the inside of her leg. I talked to the doctor telling him that I cant physically help her and now he is getting her to rehab. She is freaking out bc it is a nursing home/rehab. I am at a loss of what to do. She has car payments, phone, electric, etc. We have talked about letting the car go but she lives out in the middle of nowhere and she can't stop onto my van. I'm doing everything I can tp keep her from living with me again. I can't take her negativity and if you all remember, she chased away a guy that I was dating. On top of it all I will need to get spinal curgery again soon and scared to death of what will happen to my mom in the coming years when she wont be able to care for herself at all. I did get my name back on the list for substuting with the board of edication a few weeks ago so I can help pay her bills but havent been called at all. I need to help my mom, but finding it so hard. I'm curious to know how you all have handled or handling the aging of parents when you can't physically take care of them.. I always knew I would be the one to care for my parents when they got older but now that I have problems, I know I wont be able to do it and it breaks my heart to think my mom will eventually end up on a home since my brother wont even call to see how she is doing. It is so exhausting dealing with my mom now. She is a terrible patientand is getting great care but she doesn't think so. Like i said before, she calls me first thing in the morning every day crying about something and doesnt seem to calm down unless I am there. the day she has surgery, she had her heart rate well over a hundred and refuses anxiety medicine. She didnt calm down until her friend that was visiting and I went to see her. Her friend was on her way home so I was at the hospital all day into the night to keep her calm. When I was in the hospital she constantly complained to me about things going on at home and now is throwing things in my face but she didnt do as much as she thinks because I had my dad helping me with my bills. I was three hours away in baltimore and she wasnt able to come see me but expects me to be with her all the time. I've missed a couple of days seeing her to give my back a break which hurts all of the time bc of the screw moving that popped through the vertabrae that I have to get fixed. I have my second opinion in april for my back and will try to put off the surgery as long as I can so I can try to help her but cant put it off forever. I knoq I rambled but I'm really upset over this situation and scared to death of what is going to hapen. does anyone have any suggestions on how I can get funds to save her car and apt.? Like I said, moving back in with isn't something I can handle. Mostlh because of her negativity complaining all of the time about everything and how she picks at me. Her own
[QUAD-L] my mom
Hey all. I am having problems and serious concerns. My mom recently got two of her toes amputated due to bad circulation She isn't walking well on top of that due to the circulation. I am the only kid that is tepping up to the plate with her. My younger brother is in prison so has no way to help and my older brother isn't even calling us after several attempst to call him. Every morning I get a call from her all upset about something. I am working on getting her medical assistance and hoping I can get help with her rent since she doesn't have an income and hopefully she will be able to draw disability. On top of the toes she has an ulcer on the inside of her leg. I talked to the doctor telling him that I cant physically help her and now he is getting her to rehab. She is freaking out bc it is a nursing home/rehab. I am at a loss of what to do. She has car payments, phone, electric, etc. We have talked about letting the car go but she lives out in the middle of nowhere and she can't stop onto my van. I'm doing everything I can tp keep her from living with me again. I can't take her negativity and if you all remember, she chased away a guy that I was dating. On top of it all I will need to get spinal curgery again soon and scared to death of what will happen to my mom in the coming years when she wont be able to care for herself at all. I did get my name back on the list for substuting with the board of edication a few weeks ago so I can help pay her bills but havent been called at all. I need to help my mom, but finding it so hard. I'm curious to know how you all have handled or handling the aging of parents when you can't physically take care of them.. I always knew I would be the one to care for my parents when they got older but now that I have problems, I know I wont be able to do it and it breaks my heart to think my mom will eventually end up on a home since my brother wont even call to see how she is doing. It is so exhausting dealing with my mom now. She is a terrible patientand is getting great care but she doesn't think so. Like i said before, she calls me first thing in the morning every day crying about something and doesnt seem to calm down unless I am there. the day she has surgery, she had her heart rate well over a hundred and refuses anxiety medicine. She didnt calm down until her friend that was visiting and I went to see her. Her friend was on her way home so I was at the hospital all day into the night to keep her calm. When I was in the hospital she constantly complained to me about things going on at home and now is throwing things in my face but she didnt do as much as she thinks because I had my dad helping me with my bills. I was three hours away in baltimore and she wasnt able to come see me but expects me to be with her all the time. I've missed a couple of days seeing her to give my back a break which hurts all of the time bc of the screw moving that popped through the vertabrae that I have to get fixed. I have my second opinion in april for my back and will try to put off the surgery as long as I can so I can try to help her but cant put it off forever. I knoq I rambled but I'm really upset over this situation and scared to death of what is going to hapen. does anyone have any suggestions on how I can get funds to save her car and apt.? Like I said, moving back in with isn't something I can handle. Mostlh because of her negativity complaining all of the time about everything and how she picks at me. Her own friend cant deal with it. Any suggestions would be great and even a prayer wouldn't hurt. Stacy Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile.yahoo.com/;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ
Re: [QUAD-L] my mom
I'll send some prayers. Your mom has got to apply for disability. If her negativity stops her (they'll never let me have it) then you have to push her. It sounds like you need to become the parent and say this is what you're going to do. In a message dated 3/21/2008 4:47:34 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes: Any suggestions would be great and even a prayer wouldn't hurt. Bill C6 Incomplete since 7/20/68 Age 57 Leesburg, FL Very funny, Scotty. Now beam up my clothes. **Create a Home Theater Like the Pros. Watch the video on AOL Home. (http://home.aol.com/diy/home-improvement-eric-stromer?video=15?ncid=aolhom000301)
Re: [QUAD-L] my mom
I really wish I could help you out, but it looks to me like you need the aid of a good social worker. I recently faced some issues with my mother, but not nearly to the extent you are experiencing right now. My heart goes out to you and hope someone else on here will have a better idea of how you can contact the social worker or any other ideas. Quadius On 3/21/08, Stacy Harim [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Hey all. I am having problems and serious concerns. My mom recently got two of her toes amputated due to bad circulation She isn't walking well on top of that due to the circulation. I am the only kid that is tepping up to the plate with her. My younger brother is in prison so has no way to help and my older brother isn't even calling us after several attempst to call him. Every morning I get a call from her all upset about something. I am working on getting her medical assistance and hoping I can get help with her rent since she doesn't have an income and hopefully she will be able to draw disability. On top of the toes she has an ulcer on the inside of her leg. I talked to the doctor telling him that I cant physically help her and now he is getting her to rehab. She is freaking out bc it is a nursing home/rehab. I am at a loss of what to do. She has car payments, phone, electric, etc. We have talked about letting the car go but she lives out in the middle of nowhere and she can't stop onto my van. I'm doing everything I can tp keep her from living with me again. I can't take her negativity and if you all remember, she chased away a guy that I was dating. On top of it all I will need to get spinal curgery again soon and scared to death of what will happen to my mom in the coming years when she wont be able to care for herself at all. I did get my name back on the list for substuting with the board of edication a few weeks ago so I can help pay her bills but havent been called at all. I need to help my mom, but finding it so hard. I'm curious to know how you all have handled or handling the aging of parents when you can't physically take care of them.. I always knew I would be the one to care for my parents when they got older but now that I have problems, I know I wont be able to do it and it breaks my heart to think my mom will eventually end up on a home since my brother wont even call to see how she is doing. It is so exhausting dealing with my mom now. She is a terrible patientand is getting great care but she doesn't think so. Like i said before, she calls me first thing in the morning every day crying about something and doesnt seem to calm down unless I am there. the day she has surgery, she had her heart rate well over a hundred and refuses anxiety medicine. She didnt calm down until her friend that was visiting and I went to see her. Her friend was on her way home so I was at the hospital all day into the night to keep her calm. When I was in the hospital she constantly complained to me about things going on at home and now is throwing things in my face but she didnt do as much as she thinks because I had my dad helping me with my bills. I was three hours away in baltimore and she wasnt able to come see me but expects me to be with her all the time. I've missed a couple of days seeing her to give my back a break which hurts all of the time bc of the screw moving that popped through the vertabrae that I have to get fixed. I have my second opinion in april for my back and will try to put off the surgery as long as I can so I can try to help her but cant put it off forever. I knoq I rambled but I'm really upset over this situation and scared to death of what is going to hapen. does anyone have any suggestions on how I can get funds to save her car and apt.? Like I said, moving back in with isn't something I can handle. Mostlh because of her negativity complaining all of the time about everything and how she picks at me. Her own friend cant deal with it. Any suggestions would be great and even a prayer wouldn't hurt. Stacy -- Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! Search.http://us.rd.yahoo.com/evt=51734/*http://tools.search.yahoo.com/newsearch/category.php?category=shopping
