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It's a common online practice, even on this forum, to not spoon-feed, but to point a questioner in the direction of resources that may answer his or her question. Please allow me to point out that more often than not these resources are dubious and untrustworthy, standing on one leg sort of things. One should guard against arguments taking strength from such sources. Dont you think? Lukhman
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On Sun, Mar 15, 2009 at 6:32 AM, Kiran K Karthikeyan kiran.karthike...@gmail.com wrote: We've also once had to rudely refuse family friends of ours offering us a copy of the Bible. When we refused, they left it on the coffee table on their way out and had to be reminded to pick it up. When my father was hopitalised a year ago, our erstwhile neighbours who are Pentecostal Christians organized a prayer meeting at their home - ostensibly to pray for my father's health, but invited everybody non-Christian from the neighbourhood (Hindus and Muslims). Nil attendance at that event made them stick to I'll pray for you. That said, we also have Christian family friends who seek astrological advice and have horscopes checked before marriage. It works both ways I guess. This happens in cosmopolitan Mumbai too and we had one such neighbour who was so annoying that other christians (catholics, etc...) avoided them like the plague. One of their kids married a hindu and the groom wanted to say a few words after the toast. He started off with his past religious experiences (how confusing it was to pray to 33,000 gods and goddesses, to be precise) and by the time his toast ended the hall was nearly empty. Once i saw a group of women at a bus-stop and i told my friend that its strange that they spoke to all the men (asking them to attend a meeting) standing there and avoided us (and the remaining women). Curious, I asked them what the meeting was all about, but she brushed me off with its not for you. A man showed me the pamphlet she had handed to him and mentioned a prayer meeting that week and why we were not invited. Apparently in India men are the decision makers and if he converts, the whole family will follow suit. i suddenly realized how important women were in India. I am not surprised that folks think hinduism is all about women wearing kilos of jewels, bindi (tikka) on the head, flowers in the hair, and draping oneself in embroidered saris even at home.Blame it on the K serials fetish. sadly real life does not permit and easy replacement (read plastic surgery) solution for annoying family members. -- .
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On Sun, Mar 15, 2009 at 1:32 PM, Mahesh Murthy mahesh.mur...@gmail.com wrote: [...] books to be discussed would be the Ramayana, the MB, the Upanishads, Vedas After one such serious tarkam session, i was asked to pen my thoughts for a religious magazine. My penchant for digging at the roots of the language and insistence on penning my interpretation of the texts ended things before they started. -- .
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I found some aspects of your reply interesting. It is surprising to read of these aggressive methods of 'spreading the good Lord's word'; for a moment, I thought you live in Southern Baptist country. I don't see why being gifted a copy of the Bible represented such a major theological defeat; it's a book. Depending on which edition it is, and their quality and readability differs wildly, it's quite a readable book, and a lot of English writing is unintellligle without some knowledge of it. I have a King James version with me, which I use all the time. Having said that, I loathe the Old Testament, and use certain very specific bits in it only; Kings, of course, Genesis, Exodus, parts of Samuel. There are parts of the New Testament which are constant companions, especially in particularly difficult moments. I agree and being presented a book is something I welcome. That said the tenacity and the way they thrust the book at you is what is unwelcome. Also, an unwillingness to critically discuss the contents or religion in general also points to the true intent of presenting the book. A book or ideas in general presented by a closed mind is sometimes hard to accept at face value. At the end of the day, it boils down to the rule of law again. I wish it wouldn't come to that though. I once asked my science professor in the US (each year would have a separate area of science and in 7th it was biology) about evolution and he pretty much said he couldn't answer the question at the risk of losing his job. There is a fine line between guaranteeing the freedom for one and impinging on the freedom of others. Here my freedom to ask my teacher questions on something I found interesting and get answers and his freedom to help his students pursue their interests. Kiran
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--- On Sun, 15/3/09, Kiran K Karthikeyan kiran.karthike...@gmail.com wrote: From: Kiran K Karthikeyan kiran.karthike...@gmail.com Subject: Re: [silk] What is Indian culture? To: silklist@lists.hserus.net Date: Sunday, 15 March, 2009, 12:30 PM I found some aspects of your reply interesting. It is surprising to read of these aggressive methods of 'spreading the good Lord's word'; for a moment, I thought you live in Southern Baptist country. I don't see why being gifted a copy of the Bible represented such a major theological defeat; it's a book. Depending on which edition it is, and their quality and readability differs wildly, it's quite a readable book, and a lot of English writing is unintellligle without some knowledge of it. I have a King James version with me, which I use all the time. Having said that, I loathe the Old Testament, and use certain very specific bits in it only; Kings, of course, Genesis, Exodus, parts of Samuel. There are parts of the New Testament which are constant companions, especially in particularly difficult moments. I agree and being presented a book is something I welcome. That said the tenacity and the way they thrust the book at you is what is unwelcome. Also, an unwillingness to critically discuss the contents or religion in general also points to the true intent of presenting the book. A book or ideas in general presented by a closed mind is sometimes hard to accept at face value. Point taken. Just idle speculation as I recover slowly from the trial of bringing a cranky 89-year-old home from hospital: have you tried telling these bozos that this is not the version of the Bible you follow, and it is a fixed religious principle of yours not to accept scripture that does not adhere to norms that you do follow? Might lead to a most interesting donnybrook. If you ever try it, or have the intention to, could I have video rights worldwide? On the other hand, if you haven't already read it, don't. I read one holy book after constant needling and unnecessary provocation by Shiv, in order to get ammunition to pulverise him, and it was not a happy experience. In fact, it led to giving up the argument altogether. At the end of the day, it boils down to the rule of law again. I wish it wouldn't come to that though. I once asked my science professor in the US (each year would have a separate area of science and in 7th it was biology) about evolution and he pretty much said he couldn't answer the question at the risk of losing his job. There is a fine line between guaranteeing the freedom for one and impinging on the freedom of others. Here my freedom to ask my teacher questions on something I found interesting and get answers and his freedom to help his students pursue their interests. Kiran Did you know? You can CHAT without downloading messenger. Go to http://in.webmessenger.yahoo.com/
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I don't see why being gifted a copy of the Bible represented such a major theological defeat; it's a book. Depending on which edition it is, and their quality and readability differs wildly, it's quite a readable book, snip I agree and being presented a book is something I welcome. I remember once being asked to attend a book discussion session by a well-meaning father of a friend, when I was in high school in Hyderabad. It quickly turned out to be a discussion of the Ramayana and the Mahabharata and it was soon apparent that the session was less about literary criticism and more about indoctrinating us kids with 'good Hindu values'. The older ones at the group were somewhat irritated because I insisted that if science fiction and fantasy like the Ramayana and the Mahabharata were to be talked about at a book discussion session then equal time should be given to the works of Asimov and Robert Heinlein. My friend's dad was particularly miffed at some statement where I praised the epic-writing and myth-creation qualities of Tolkein and Frank Herbert over that of Valmiki. That session ended in some disarray. I was not invited back to the second one. But there was no third. :-) M
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Just idle speculation as I recover slowly from the trial of bringing a cranky 89-year-old home from hospital: have you tried telling these bozos that this is not the version of the Bible you follow, and it is a fixed religious principle of yours not to accept scripture that does not adhere to norms that you do follow? Might lead to a most interesting donnybrook. If you ever try it, or have the intention to, could I have video rights worldwide? I did once and unfortunately not captured on video. This one started off with I love Hindus for the family relationships they maintain and their tolerance. It was quite a romp, partly due to my indignation of being approached during the wedding of a friend's sister. Two close friends of mine who were Muslims also added to the fun. We had him fleeing for his life. But I must give him credit for never losing his temper or reacting to what was a pretty brutal assault. Next time, you can have the video rights :) On the other hand, if you haven't already read it, don't. I read one holy book after constant needling and unnecessary provocation by Shiv, in order to get ammunition to pulverise him, and it was not a happy experience. In fact, it led to giving up the argument altogether. Actually I did read it (Old and New Testament), as well as the Koran. Due to similar provocation by close friends who would constantly badger me with if you don't know about every religion and its teachings, how can you say you don't believe in God. That said, Karma Yoga in the Bhagavad Gita especially the translation/interpretation by Swami Chinmayananda has been a constant companion. But the Gita also suffers from many versions, most of them bad. The worst I've come across the one by ISKCon/Bhaktivedanta Trust. There is a Krsna, the supreme personality of godhead or something similar in every line and it is the first and only book in my life which I bought and threw away. Kiran
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--- On Sun, 15/3/09, Mahesh Murthy mahesh.mur...@gmail.com wrote: From: Mahesh Murthy mahesh.mur...@gmail.com Subject: Re: [silk] What is Indian culture? To: silklist@lists.hserus.net Date: Sunday, 15 March, 2009, 12:43 PM I don't see why being gifted a copy of the Bible represented such a major theological defeat; it's a book. Depending on which edition it is, and their quality and readability differs wildly, it's quite a readable book, snip I agree and being presented a book is something I welcome. I remember once being asked to attend a book discussion session by a well-meaning father of a friend, when I was in high school in Hyderabad. It quickly turned out to be a discussion of the Ramayana and the Mahabharata and it was soon apparent that the session was less about literary criticism and more about indoctrinating us kids with 'good Hindu values'. The older ones at the group were somewhat irritated because I insisted that if science fiction and fantasy like the Ramayana and the Mahabharata were to be talked about at a book discussion session then equal time should be given to the works of Asimov and Robert Heinlein. My friend's dad was particularly miffed at some statement where I praised the epic-writing and myth-creation qualities of Tolkein and Frank Herbert over that of Valmiki. That session ended in some disarray. I was not invited back to the second one. But there was no third. :-) M I think personally that that's a shame; the Mahabharata in particular is so readable. For a variety of reasons, some apparent on first acquaintance, the Ramayana somehow doesn't appeal; to have been killed after being pissed on is a terrible fate for a hero, the one for whom I was named, and put me off the book for ever. I suspect that this may also underly some political positions of mine. As far as the MB is concerned, however, it's been a rich treasury which I've dipped into again and again, and never found tedious or boring. After very detailed and anatomically-obsessed sojourns into Homer's battle-scenes, the MB is a welcome relief. Some of the Scandinavian sagas are worth a revisit, for their dry wit and obvious links to bardic narration, and of course anyone who doesn't wallow in Monkey is a dried-up, desiccated has-been, but MB is still the baseline for comparison. Add more friends to your messenger and enjoy! Go to http://messenger.yahoo.com/invite/
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I remember once being asked to attend a book discussion session by a well-meaning father of a friend, when I was in high school in Hyderabad. It quickly turned out to be a discussion of the Ramayana and the Mahabharata and it was soon apparent that the session was less about literary criticism and more about indoctrinating us kids with 'good Hindu values'. The older ones at the group were somewhat irritated because I insisted that if science fiction and fantasy like the Ramayana and the Mahabharata were to be talked about at a book discussion session then equal time should be given to the works of Asimov and Robert Heinlein. My friend's dad was particularly miffed at some statement where I praised the epic-writing and myth-creation qualities of Tolkein and Frank Herbert over that of Valmiki. That session ended in some disarray. I was not invited back to the second one. But there was no third. :-) It is quite a shame, particularly because you also put an end to others learning from/appreciating the rich and far-reaching vision in the Mahabharata. That somebody could have envisioned the creation of life from a lump of organic matter (how the Kauravas were created in jars of oil) so long ago is something I hold in much higher regard than the works of Asimov (I have not read Heinlein). That said, the laws of robotics coined by Asimov in the Foundation series apparently has made contributions to the fields of AI and robotics. In philosophy, none of the authors you mention I think have come close to the Bhagvad Gita which is a part of the Mahabharata. Ramayana I did not find of much value, though I have read abridged versions, not a translation of the original text. Kiran
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I think personally that that's a shame; the Mahabharata in particular is so readable. It is, as epics go, especially when you compare it with Kalevala, Beowulf and the like. I've tried several times to wade through each of those. The slightly more contemporaneous Iliad and Odyssey fare better. But when compared with more modern epics, MB has significant issues from some basic perspectives: character story-arcs aren't tied up neatly, there are many loose ends, and of course, the book-within-a-book with the Gita being there. My personal take still is that Dune / LOTR / the Lazarus Long chronicles are more readable if you look at the set as works of epic fiction. I don't see why these shouldn't reach similar or larger 'epic' proportions a few millenia from now.
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It is quite a shame, particularly because you also put an end to snip Oh I'm sure I put an end to nothing. :-) No one lost out on appreciating the rich vision of Hindu epics because of me. I believe people will appreciate whatever they have to, whenever they have to. Back then, I took serious umbrage to the group being called together under the apparent aegis of a book discussion club - and then discovering that it was subterfuge to hold a religious discussion instead, and that the only books to be discussed would be the Ramayana, the MB, the Upanishads, Vedas etc. Disclosure of this at the invitation stage would have brought a more interested, though smaller audience which would not have included me- or many of my classmates and friends. As it turned out, that was the audience that went to the second meet, and, for whatever reason, the group did not meet a third time.
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--- On Sun, 15/3/09, Mahesh Murthy mahesh.mur...@gmail.com wrote: From: Mahesh Murthy mahesh.mur...@gmail.com Subject: Re: [silk] What is Indian culture? To: silklist@lists.hserus.net Date: Sunday, 15 March, 2009, 1:32 PM It is quite a shame, particularly because you also put an end to snip Oh I'm sure I put an end to nothing. :-) No one lost out on appreciating the rich vision of Hindu epics because of me. I believe people will appreciate whatever they have to, whenever they have to. Back then, I took serious umbrage to the group being called together under the apparent aegis of a book discussion club - and then discovering that it was subterfuge to hold a religious discussion instead, and that the only books to be discussed would be the Ramayana, the MB, the Upanishads, Vedas etc. Disclosure of this at the invitation stage would have brought a more interested, though smaller audience which would not have included me- or many of my classmates and friends. As it turned out, that was the audience that went to the second meet, and, for whatever reason, the group did not meet a third time. :-) Agitprop is not exclusively communist any more. Add more friends to your messenger and enjoy! Go to http://messenger.yahoo.com/invite/
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I found some aspects of your reply interesting. It is surprising to read of these aggressive methods of 'spreading the good Lord's word'; for a moment, I thought you live in Southern Baptist country. Most of the ultra aggressive conversion / missionary types, as well as the extremely loud and offkey hallelujah singing types ARE Baptists, or Pentecost, or other such fringe sects. And just because they are out there and actively converting (plus run half the TV channels and mass meetings where people get cured of everything from piles to cancer by amazing miracles and more off key singing) .. well, they get more converts, and these converts, having been converted the way they were, are a lot more visible in terms of nuisance value. -srs
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suffers from many versions, most of them bad. The worst I've come across the one by ISKCon/Bhaktivedanta Trust. There is a Krsna, the supreme personality of godhead or something similar in every line and it is the first and only book in my life which I bought and threw away. I had that one around too - the hindu equivalent of the southern Baptist and Pentecost loonies .. started off with some truly gifted bong and oriya poets though, like Jayadeva Pity AC Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada quickly latched on to the commercial potential of a highly oversexed, super handsome godhead (how delightfully phallic, that) on a generation totally devoted to free weed and even freer sex. George Harrison was one of his devotees.. out of the Mahesh yogi frying pan into the prabhupada fire, poor deluded schmuck.
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Dune etc had the advantage of a single author. The Mahabharata is a huge accretion of tons of third party interpolations .. every single wannabe guru with a new message found it very convenient to tack on some verses where bhishma, krishna, arjuna etc said x was a good thing, or where shakuni did y, and you all know what a sticky end he met .. Given that kind of third party meddling .. no wonder. What you are saying is like taking all the fanfic and third party takeoffs on dune and calling it all frank herbert's work. Mahesh Murthy wrote: But when compared with more modern epics, MB has significant issues from some basic perspectives: character story-arcs aren't tied up neatly, there are many loose ends, and of course, the book-within-a-book with the Gita being there.
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On Friday 13 Mar 2009 10:51:54 pm Mahesh Murthy wrote: To start with, I never spoke of a change from conservative to less conservative. I spoke of life forms in general following a behavioural pattern that would not be termed conservative. I have not advocated a change either way. I do believe evolution will take its course in such matters too Well then we are not talking about the same thing. What you say has little bearing on what I am trying to say. Asking me to read up something is the same as not answering my question. Sorry - but I will drop it at that. shiv
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On Sun, Mar 15, 2009 at 8:13 PM, ss cybers...@gmail.com wrote: On Friday 13 Mar 2009 10:29:34 pm Mahesh Murthy wrote: What you believe or not to be juvenile is irrelevant. Do get to the issue if you feel like, you've tried to distract enough :-) My sincere apologies - but I think your commenst about hand wringing and distress were unnecessary even if they were not directed at me. Your apology is accepted. Especially because the judgment whether comments were necessary or not isn't quite part of your mandate here. To repeat, let's debate the issues, not the debater or the style :-) I understand that you need to make such comments to calm yourself. There seem to be significant and repeated issues with your comprehension of various topics in this thread, so we'll do a +1 to that tally and leave it at that :-) You really must try to calm yourself by sticking to the discussion. +2 :-) I am going to stop this particular divesrion from the discussion here. Wise! Mahesh
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On Sun, Mar 15, 2009 at 8:02 PM, ss cybers...@gmail.com wrote: On Friday 13 Mar 2009 10:51:54 pm Mahesh Murthy wrote: To start with, I never spoke of a change from conservative to less conservative. I spoke of life forms in general following a behavioural pattern that would not be termed conservative. I have not advocated a change either way. I do believe evolution will take its course in such matters too Well then we are not talking about the same thing. What you say has little bearing on what I am trying to say. Neither of us talked of changing from more to less conservative. You talked of going the other way with your supposedly theoretical hypothesis that it's better for the child if the Indian woman stays at home instead of going to work. It would then follow from your logic that your own submissions were off-topic on your own thesis. :-) Asking me to read up something is the same as not answering my question. It's a common online practice, even on this forum, to not spoon-feed, but to point a questioner in the direction of resources that may answer his or her question. While it's technically not the same as not answering the question, it's typically a better process for both parties concerned. YMMV though. Sorry - but I will drop it at that. Cheers! Mahesh
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Mahesh - this is actually a juvenile statement In fact that reveals more about you than me. Argue against his arguments. Why attack the person? Lets get back to our CiX days for this http://www.don-lindsay-archive.org/skeptic/arguments.html http://www.unc.edu/depts/wcweb/handouts/fallacies.html Lukhman.
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http://www.expressbuzz.com/edition/story.aspx?Title=Priest+admits+to+idol+worship+in+churchesartid=1WM/aO6Ec6I=SectionID=7GUA38txp3s=MainSectionID=7GUA38txp3s=SectionName=zkvyRoWGpmWSxZV2TGM5XQ==SEO=B%20K%20Somashekara The Commission is inquiring into the recent attacks on churches in Karnataka. “Hindus believe in idol worship. So to attract them to Christianity, idol worship is performed in churches,” Menengis said. During cross-examination, the priest said that “despite idol worship being prohibited in Bible, we have idol worship in churches.” “The duty of every Christian is to convert non-Christians to Christianity by any means,” the priest told the commission. St James Church was attacked by miscreants on September 21, 2008. The church is running co-education institutions, with classes from first to eight standard. During cross-examination the priest confessed that “no girl students are permitted to use kumkum, bangles and wear flowers. In our institution, we have moral science textbook But it does not contain texts regarding Holy Bible and Jesus,” the priest added. The commission has requested the priest to submit the textbook to it.. shiv
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Interesting bit of nonsense here. Quality reporting (!) to be sure. -Original Message- From: silklist-bounces+suresh=hserus@lists.hserus.net [mailto:silklist-bounces+suresh=hserus@lists.hserus.net] On Behalf Of ss Sent: Saturday, March 14, 2009 10:06 PM To: silklist@lists.hserus.net Subject: Re: [silk] What is Indian culture? http://www.expressbuzz.com/edition/story.aspx?Title=Priest+admits+to+id ol+worship+in+churchesartid=1WM/aO6Ec6I=SectionID=7GUA38txp3s=MainSe ctionID=7GUA38txp3s=SectionName=zkvyRoWGpmWSxZV2TGM5XQ==SEO=B%20K%20S omashekara The Commission is inquiring into the recent attacks on churches in Karnataka. “Hindus believe in idol worship. So to attract them to Christianity, idol worship is performed in churches,” Menengis said. During cross-examination, the priest said that “despite idol worship being prohibited in Bible, we have idol worship in churches.” “The duty of every Christian is to convert non-Christians to Christianity by any means,” the priest told the commission. St James Church was attacked by miscreants on September 21, 2008. The church is running co-education institutions, with classes from first to eight standard. During cross-examination the priest confessed that “no girl students are permitted to use kumkum, bangles and wear flowers. In our institution, we have moral science textbook But it does not contain texts regarding Holy Bible and Jesus,” the priest added. The commission has requested the priest to submit the textbook to it.. shiv
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Suresh, 2009/3/15 Suresh Ramasubramanian sur...@hserus.net Interesting bit of nonsense here. Quality reporting (!) to be sure. I wouldn't dismiss it so easily. Churches in Kerala have long ago adoped the nila-vilakku, a bronze lamp used in Hindu homes and religious ceremonies. I've been to as many churches as temples so I'm not aware of any other practices they have borrwed. Though I do find it hard to believe that a priest would say something like snip “despite idol worship being prohibited in Bible, we have idol worship in churches.” “The duty of every Christian is to convert non-Christians to Christianity by any means,” /snip so openly, especially where there is press access. Sure-fire way to get yourself excommunicated. But my experience with Christian missionaries as well as Christian who seek to spread the good Lord's word have been fairly abrasive - I've had to be particularly rude to get them off my back. Somehow the mention that my parents are Hindu and I'm an atheist heightens their enthusiasm. Once in a while I used to humour them and there are quite a few of them waiting to go to heaven for having converted me :) We've also once had to rudely refuse family friends of ours offering us a copy of the Bible. When we refused, they left it on the coffee table on their way out and had to be reminded to pick it up. When my father was hopitalised a year ago, our erstwhile neighbours who are Pentecostal Christians organized a prayer meeting at their home - ostensibly to pray for my father's health, but invited everybody non-Christian from the neighbourhood (Hindus and Muslims). Nil attendance at that event made them stick to I'll pray for you. That said, we also have Christian family friends who seek astrological advice and have horscopes checked before marriage. It works both ways I guess. Kiran
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The reason I posted this news is the fact that wearing kumkum and flowers (and bangles??) seems to be considered Hindu culture, Catholics even in Europe and other places are accused of being idol worshippers anyway so the Indian twist is hardly new. Bangalore has dozens of flower and lamp decorated roadside Infant Jesus or Jesus and Mary shrines that are ditto copies of Hindu shrines that dot the city everywhere. This blends right in there with the Hindu reverence of the mother - the Amma as the goddess to worship. Evangelism in India (as per my reading) has taken the course of non resistance to local culture, both as active policy and as a result of individual priests themselves being that way. This is a double edged sword because in a sense it dilutes and makes the seeminlgy rigid ideology of the Vatican into a blend that is virtually indistinguishable from Hindu views on theism. shiv On Sunday 15 Mar 2009 6:32:44 am Kiran K Karthikeyan wrote: Suresh, 2009/3/15 Suresh Ramasubramanian sur...@hserus.net Interesting bit of nonsense here. Quality reporting (!) to be sure. I wouldn't dismiss it so easily. Churches in Kerala have long ago adoped the nila-vilakku, a bronze lamp used in Hindu homes and religious ceremonies. I've been to as many churches as temples so I'm not aware of any other practices they have borrwed. Though I do find it hard to believe that a priest would say something like snip “despite idol worship being prohibited in Bible, we have idol worship in churches.” “The duty of every Christian is to convert non-Christians to Christianity by any means,” /snip so openly, especially where there is press access. Sure-fire way to get yourself excommunicated. But my experience with Christian missionaries as well as Christian who seek to spread the good Lord's word have been fairly abrasive - I've had to be particularly rude to get them off my back. Somehow the mention that my parents are Hindu and I'm an atheist heightens their enthusiasm. Once in a while I used to humour them and there are quite a few of them waiting to go to heaven for having converted me :) We've also once had to rudely refuse family friends of ours offering us a copy of the Bible. When we refused, they left it on the coffee table on their way out and had to be reminded to pick it up. When my father was hopitalised a year ago, our erstwhile neighbours who are Pentecostal Christians organized a prayer meeting at their home - ostensibly to pray for my father's health, but invited everybody non-Christian from the neighbourhood (Hindus and Muslims). Nil attendance at that event made them stick to I'll pray for you. That said, we also have Christian family friends who seek astrological advice and have horscopes checked before marriage. It works both ways I guess. Kiran
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On Sun, Mar 15, 2009 at 1:07 PM, ss cybers...@gmail.com wrote: The reason I posted this news is the fact that wearing kumkum and flowers (and bangles??) seems to be considered Hindu culture, Possibly, but it might just have been considered un-Christian depending on the particular sect of Christianity. It might just be called vanity and un-Christian as such. (The prohibition on bangles in particular inclines me towards this as a possible interpretation.) There was a time when European Christians considered it vain to bathe too often. Japanese woodcuts during the era of first contact sometimes depict westerners with flies flying around them because the Japanese considered them to have such a bad smell. -- Charles
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On Sunday 15 Mar 2009 8:18:27 am Charles Haynes wrote: There was a time when European Christians considered it vain to bathe too often. Japanese woodcuts during the era of first contact sometimes depict westerners with flies flying around them because the Japanese considered them to have such a bad smell. This is interesting information. Could the vanity part have been because only the richest could afford to bathe often in those times and the Church was catering to the (unwashed) faithful? As a twenty something man my father was travelling to Europe (in 1945) en route to the US for a PhD. It turned out that he was put on, of all ships, the Queen Elizabeth, which doubled up as a troop carrier for US GIs returning after the war that had just ended. The first morning a woman (a chambermaid?) asked my father if he would like to bathe - and being Indian and Brahmin he said yes instantly, after which the woman readied a huge tub of hot water for him. The next morning the woman failed to turn up and when my father caught up with her and asked her to ready a bath she asked What? Again?. I'm not sure how much my father got to bathe on the journey after that. In the mid-1980s I saw a news item in British newspaper in the UK claiming that British teenagers on average had more baths per week than French teenagers. The news would be laughable to the average Indian Brahmin because a bath (or at least personal washing in flowing water) is considered essential every day. But if you lived in the UK a couple of centuries or more ago - you would have to be wealthy enough to obtain fuel for heating water to bathe, and this factor is often not understood by obsevers who speak of dirty foreigners. On the positive side - you don;t perspire much in those temperate climes. Bathing in water at the ambient temperature in the UK is just not on. As for me personally - the only time I manged to consider it OK to jump into the sea in the UK was one early September aftrenoon when the air temperature was warm. but the North Sea was freezing cold to me - a far cry from the warm currents off Pondicherry where I spent ecstatic hours in the sea. How the Japanese got past this - I don't know maybe they have enough hot springs. I wonder who invented the shower - which I believe is one of the greatest hygiene related inventions ever. shiv
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This is interesting information. Could the vanity part have been because only the richest could afford to bathe often in those times and the Church was catering to the (unwashed) faithful? Even the rich - bishops, kings and such - didn’t bathe. I wonder who invented the shower - which I believe is one of the greatest hygiene related inventions ever. Someone called shower, if Thomas Crapper's example fits the bill. srs (who got some email once from a Frenchman called Lecrapper)
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On Sun, Mar 15, 2009 at 1:05 AM, ss cybers...@gmail.com wrote: This is interesting information. Could the vanity part have been because only the richest could afford to bathe often in those times and the Church was catering to the (unwashed) faithful? Maybe. Europeans who first came to Brazil found Brazilian, errr, indians' habit of bathing everyday weird. A friend of my father's used to tell how in his childhood his italian father wouldn't bath with the rest of the family before church because bath was for unclean people. The bath the family took was taken by people reusing the water from a bathtub. How the Japanese got past this - I don't know maybe they have enough hot springs. As a non-practicing Japanese Brazilian, I can tell furo was very culturally important. My family was not very connected to Japanese culture, but even so, my mom thought it was important for us to have a furo at home, even though we rarely used it. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Customs_and_etiquette_of_Japan#Bathing I think they also had public bath houses: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sent%C5%8D Andre
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On Sunday 15 Mar 2009 9:48:49 am Suresh Ramasubramanian wrote: Even the rich - bishops, kings and such - didn’t bathe. I had an argument about a related topic recently with a person who insisted that Hindus are clean because they bathe every day. I tried to point out that if you select 1000 Hindus from around where I live and include people like our gardener, the chap who washes my car, the local chowkidars and others - one will find that most do not bathe every day simply because they do not have the facilities to do that, living as they do in one room hovels with no toilet or bath. The difference between the wealthy and the poor could be that the wealthy can afford to bathe daily, but can choose not to do that. That choice does not exist for the poor. Be that as it may it is interesting that this discussion has thrown up two opposing (cultural?) concepts 1) He who bathes every day is clean 2) He who needs to bathe is unclean :D shiv
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so, do the religious/ethical/moral aspects of culture exist/evolve to counteract biological impulses/instincts that are hazardous to the prevalent social hierarchy? do they serve any other purpose?
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ss wrote, [on 3/13/2009 5:32 PM]: Mahesh - this is actually a juvenile statement because you don't know where I am coming from but you reveal where you are coming from. Regardless of whether I am sexually conservative or liberal I have a viewpoint. I suspect that you feel it is oh so cool to push for free sex and frequent change of partners while talking as if those who are more conservative are somehow troubled by your implied (and cool) sexual liberalism. The mood of the conservatives is important to you. In fact that reveals more about you than me. Can we move the discussion back to ideas rather than people, please? This is too close to Ad Hominem for my comfort. Udhay -- ((Udhay Shankar N)) ((udhay @ pobox.com)) ((www.digeratus.com))
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On Friday 13 Mar 2009 9:51:05 am Mahesh Murthy wrote: I can imagine that this must be severely distressing to most sexually conservative folks. Mahesh - this is actually a juvenile statement because you don't know where I am coming from but you reveal where you are coming from. Regardless of whether I am sexually conservative or liberal I have a viewpoint. I suspect that you feel it is oh so cool to push for free sex and frequent change of partners while talking as if those who are more conservative are somehow troubled by your implied (and cool) sexual liberalism. The mood of the conservatives is important to you. In fact that reveals more about you than me. The impression you want to make about your views on sexuality seems to be dependent on my appearing like a distressed hand wringing conservative in comparison to you. You seem to think that if I wring my hands and am distresed it will buttress your case as a spokeperson for sexual liberalism. Are you tyring to make an oblique advertisement about your own sexuality while talking about mine? I put it to you that you know less about free sex, sex outside of marriage or frequent changes of sexual partners than you claim to know. Perhaps that is why you take so much trouble to second guess my own sexual history and try to pin a particular mood on me in response to your views. As long as you talk about me and my conservatism and imagined discomfort at your liberalism - you can pretend to know a lot - since the topic stays off what seems to be your obvious sexual inexperience. But I can say this much for myself - I practise what I talk about. It is clear that your abiilty to talk about changes in sexual partners exceeds any practical experience. Now go ahead and have fun at those of us who remain faithful to one partner while we wring our hands in distress. If you want to be seen as a sexually liberated man - what is needed is less mocking of perceived sexual conservatives and a lot more crumpet. I can see you are very keen. The words enthu cultlet come to mind :). Chillax boss. Conservative ol' me getting irritated by your views on sexuality does not count as sexual experience on your CV unless you are really kinky. shiv
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On Fri, Mar 13, 2009 at 11:02 PM, ss cybers...@gmail.com wrote: I put it to you that you know less about free sex, sex outside of marriage or frequent changes of sexual partners than you claim to know. Perhaps that is why you take so much trouble to second guess my own sexual history and try to pin a particular mood on me in response to your views. As long as you talk about me and my conservatism and imagined discomfort at your liberalism - you can pretend to know a lot - since the topic stays off what seems to be your obvious sexual inexperience. It seems to me the claim that the sexually inexperienced should not argue about sexual mores is roughly the same as saying that someone who's never been to Pakistan should not try to discuss Pakistani mores. -- Charles
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On Friday 13 Mar 2009 5:11:14 pm Ingrid wrote: so, do the religious/ethical/moral aspects of culture exist/evolve to counteract biological impulses/instincts that are hazardous to the prevalent social hierarchy? I don't think morality necessarily counteracts biological impulses/instincts. Morality aims to modulate biological impulses. Not having children by using contraceptives counteracts one biological function but serves to encourage the bonobo in us - sex for fun Did you know that at least one senior RSS person has urged people to have more and more children and I am constantly told that Islamic zealots make exactly the same appeal. The argument is that not having children leads to a depletion of population of young people with a blowback to be expected in future when: a) there will not be enough young people b) Someone else will reproduce and fill the vacuum left by your kind This take on morality demands sex without contraceptives, which basically reduces the fun factor for woman while not interfering with the man's fun all that much. do they serve any other purpose? No. None that I can think of. shiv
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On Fri, Mar 13, 2009 at 5:37 PM, Udhay Shankar N ud...@pobox.com wrote: ss wrote, [on 3/13/2009 5:32 PM]: Mahesh - this is actually a juvenile statement because you don't know where I am coming from but you reveal where you are coming from. I said that a particular instance would be distressing to sexually conservative folks. It's a self-selecting statement and would only apply to people who classify themselves as such, and not to people who don't. Nothing was ad hominem. Regardless of whether I am sexually conservative or liberal I have a viewpoint. And it is viewpoints we have been arguing upon, and nothing else. I suspect that you feel it is oh so cool to push for free sex and frequent change of partners while talking as if those who are more conservative are somehow troubled by your implied (and cool) sexual liberalism. The mood of the conservatives is important to you. Gosh, there we go with the free sex bit again. :-) For the record, not once have I stated or implied a preference for free sex. Or for that matter, for paid sex either. :-) To repeat, I have clearly stated that I believe there is a large area in the middle between the opposite extremes of fidelity and free communal sex that most creatures exist in. Coolness, liberalism, the price of fish and the GDP of North Korea didn't come into it. In fact that reveals more about you than me. Not that I have very much to hide :-) Can we move the discussion back to ideas rather than people, please? This is too close to Ad Hominem for my comfort. Lead on, Obi-wan! Udhay -- ((Udhay Shankar N)) ((udhay @ pobox.com)) ((www.digeratus.com))
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On Friday 13 Mar 2009 5:54:39 pm Charles Haynes wrote: It seems to me the claim that the sexually inexperienced should not argue about sexual mores is roughly the same as saying that someone who's never been to Pakistan should not try to discuss Pakistani mores. Wrong analogy. You need to rethink that one. Not knowing about Pakistan is not a disability, but making a judgement about another person's knowledge of Pakistan based on arbitrary conditions is an error. Not being sexually experienced is not a disability, but making a judgement of another person's sexual experience and mood based on arbitrary conditions is equally an error. And this is a game that two can play. shiv
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snip Are you tyring to make an oblique advertisement about your own sexuality while talking about mine? Wow :-) And I thought subliminal advertising was dead and gone among us advertising folks :-) I put it to you that you know less about free sex, sex outside of marriage or frequent changes of sexual partners than you claim to know. Perhaps, I do, Sire, perhaps I don't :-) But it's largely irrelevant either way. We discussed issues where you had an opportunity to counter fact with fact, which you somehow sidestepped at almost every instance. Nevertheless, the opportunity still exists, please do display said knowledge/expertise. But do keep it in the realm of issues and away from personal comment, if you can. If I recall, you prefaced much of your hypothesis that started it all with words to the effect of I don't necessarily believe what I am saying here, but let's have a discussion about it anyway. And now you're getting all antsy about what you said as though you actually deeply believe it all and it's some sort of affront to find disagreement with your once-hypothetical point of view. It doesn't compute. Am happy to get back on track if you are :-) Perhaps that is why you take so much trouble to second guess my own sexual history snip I am curious about many things. But this is just not one of those things. :-) snip since the topic stays off what seems to be your obvious sexual inexperience. The topic was never on my sexual inexperience. Admittedly, little can be said about this :-) But I can say this much for myself - I practise what I talk about. It is clear that your abiilty to talk about changes in sexual partners exceeds any practical experience. Gosh! Now how on earth could this be apparent ?;-) Now go ahead and have fun at those of us who remain faithful to one partner while we wring our hands in distress. Dude, it was a discussion :-) Fidelity, like one's choice of religion / favourite ice cream flavour / sci-fi author / shoelace-tying style / etcetera is a personal choice. I think a fundamental basic here is that we respect personal choice. Things start getting hairy when you impute said personal choice to all of humanity / life on earth / members of this forum, and then impute mockery to those who don't agree with your personal choice. That seems like someone's playing the victim, and, juvenile virgin though I may seem to be, I'm too old for fall for that one :-) Please do expect such generalisations / imputation to not be taken without comment or debate. Disagreement with your personal choice as it applies to those other than you (like me, for instance) is not mockery. It's debate. If you want to be seen as a sexually liberated man - what is needed is less mocking of perceived sexual conservatives and a lot more crumpet. I can see you are very keen. The words enthu cultlet come to mind :). I have no particular need to be seen as anything. I had a particular need though to take issue with your enthusiastic, eager (and supposedly hypothetical) generalisations about Indian womanhood, marriage, global family values and fidelity. :-) Chillax boss. Conservative ol' me getting irritated by your views on sexuality does not count as sexual experience on your CV unless you are really kinky. Shiv, you're cute. But not THAT way :-) My $0.02, Mahesh
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Pakistan! Free Sex! Womanhood! Family values! Hand-wringing distress! Folks, we have ourselves a full-fledged formula movie here! Cue A R Rahman... :-) It seems to me the claim that the sexually inexperienced should not argue about sexual mores is roughly the same as saying that someone who's never been to Pakistan should not try to discuss Pakistani mores. Wrong analogy. You need to rethink that one. Not knowing about Pakistan is not a disability, but making a judgement about another person's knowledge of Pakistan based on arbitrary conditions is an error. Not being sexually experienced is not a disability, but making a judgement of another person's sexual experience and mood based on arbitrary conditions is equally an error. And this is a game that two can play. shiv
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On Sat, Mar 14, 2009 at 12:11 AM, Mahesh Murthy mahesh.mur...@gmail.com wrote: Pakistan! Free Sex! Womanhood! Family values! Hand-wringing distress! Folks, we have ourselves a full-fledged formula movie here! You left out decadent westerners and their values trying to corrupt good hearted Hindus but being confounded by the virtue of the Ramayana. -- Charles
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Damn! Crossover global hit! On Fri, Mar 13, 2009 at 6:46 PM, Charles Haynes charles.hay...@gmail.comwrote: On Sat, Mar 14, 2009 at 12:11 AM, Mahesh Murthy mahesh.mur...@gmail.com wrote: Pakistan! Free Sex! Womanhood! Family values! Hand-wringing distress! Folks, we have ourselves a full-fledged formula movie here! You left out decadent westerners and their values trying to corrupt good hearted Hindus but being confounded by the virtue of the Ramayana. -- Charles
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Cory Doctorow [13/03/09 13:19 +]: Did someone call? And how did the ramayana confound you, cory? That I've got to see .. srs Charles Haynes wrote: You left out decadent westerners and their values trying to corrupt good hearted Hindus but being confounded by the virtue of the Ramayana.
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On Friday 13 Mar 2009 6:02:32 pm Mahesh Murthy wrote: To repeat, I have clearly stated that I believe there is a large area in the middle between the opposite extremes of fidelity and free communal sex that most creatures exist in. Coolness, liberalism, the price of fish and the GDP of North Korea didn't come into it. Tanks for the clarification. I presume you are no longer concerned about other peripheral issues like conservative people who may be distressed or wringing their hands. Let me first point out that human morality is an artificial construct designed by humans for other humans. While I agree that a large area exists describing sexual behavior of most creatures, I reiterate that human morality as traditionally practised (by the conservatives whom you speak of) demands the restriction of human sexuality to a small area out of that large area that you describe. Humans, being human alone (a single species), do not represent most creatures . Human sexuality covers a wide area, but morality has attempted to reduce that sexuality to a smallish area. I believe that the restriction of human sexuality to a smallish area by the superimposition of morality has had certain survival benefits for humankind. The hypothesis that human sexuality would occupy as large an area as that occupied by most creatures if unrestricted by certain types of morality is a declaration that I cannot prove or disprove. However there is no evidence to say that changing human morality to allow human sexuality to occupy a larger area is better or worse for humans in the long term. But the lack of evidence does not stop me from having an opinion. My opinion is that changing morality to allow human sexuality to occupy a wider area would be detrimental to human society in the long term. I believe morality itself has had evolutionary effects on human society and sexual morality has actually has beneficial effects. Hence I believe that the sexual morality demanded by marriage and fidelity are beneficial. These are my views. You don't have to agree. shiv
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On Friday 13 Mar 2009 6:35:26 pm Mahesh Murthy wrote: If I recall, you prefaced much of your hypothesis that started it all with words to the effect of I don't necessarily believe what I am saying here, but let's have a discussion about it anyway. And now you're getting all antsy about what you said as though you actually deeply believe it all and it's some sort of affront to find disagreement with your once-hypothetical point of view. The problem as far as I can see is the effect this discussion is having on you making you speak of actions like hand wringing, or people being distressed or my being antsy (whatever that means). Your imagination of my emotions and actions, or that of anyone else have no bearing on the issue - considering that I have consistently stuck to saying what I feel without worrying about or diverting the subject to the emotions felt by people who read what i write. Why is it that you need to divert attention from the subject and refer to mysterious hand wringing and distress caused to conservatives and my antsy behavior? These are completely peripheral to the discussion and in all cases you brought up the subject and you need to figure out why you keep doing that. shiv
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Tanks for the clarification. I presume you are no longer concerned about other peripheral issues like conservative people who may be distressed or wringing their hands. Distressed people (conservative or otherwise) are known to wring their hands. And it's quite reasonable of me to mention so. Why you choose to take this as an observation of your personal state of being is somewhat beyond me. My email reader is not equipped with a video camera. :-) snip I reiterate that human morality as traditionally practised (by the conservatives whom you speak of) demands the restriction of human sexuality to a small area out of that large area that you describe. Human morality as practiced by the majority of humans who are by observation non-conservatives does so very differently. It is perfectly reasonable for each party to hence see the other as immoral. But these are relative value judgments, not absolute ones and hence unimportant. snip Human sexuality covers a wide area, but morality has attempted to reduce that sexuality to a smallish area. Again, conservative human morality has done so. Certainly not all human morality. And not most human morality. I believe that the restriction of human sexuality to a smallish area by the superimposition of morality has had certain survival benefits for humankind. I don't believe so. And I have endeavoured to prove the opposite, with evolutionary, statistical and other evidence. I am yet to see any evidence presented by you to support this claim you make. snip However there is no evidence to say that changing human morality to allow human sexuality to occupy a larger area is better or worse for humans in the long term. No one can predict the future. But we all make reasonable predictions, based on how large samples have behaved in the past. That is what I was doing. Again, I see no counter-evidence to point to a different or better future if this conservative morality axiom of fidelity was followed. But the lack of evidence does not stop me from having an opinion. My opinion is that changing morality to allow human sexuality to occupy a wider area would be detrimental to human society in the long term. My opinion is the opposite. And I offered some observations on the behaviour of large-sized samples across large-duration periods to back my opinion. You're right - opinion doesn't absolutely need to be backed by evidence. But it is useful to have some if you venture out on a forum brandishing your opinion and pitting it against other opinions which may be backed by evidence of some sort. Else, one might have to descend to ad hominem...wait a minute... :-) I believe morality itself has had evolutionary effects on human society and sexual morality has actually has beneficial effects. I believe so too. But a vastly different morality than the conservative one you talk of. Hence I believe that the sexual morality demanded by marriage and fidelity are beneficial. While you have every right to say so, it does not logically follow from your above statements. It does not compute :-) These are my views. You don't have to agree. I have tried to show why :-) My $0.02, Mahesh
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The problem as far as I can see is the effect this discussion is having on you making you speak of actions like hand wringing, or people being distressed The discussion, if you must know, is having an amused, calming effect on me. :-) I have explained before that distressed people are known to wring hands. If this is not you, you really shouldn't be worried :-) or my being antsy (whatever that means). this http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/antsy. Your imagination of my emotions and actions snip Why the persecution complex, dude? :-) Focus on the discussion, not on imagined slights :-) considering that I have consistently stuck to saying what I feel without worrying about or diverting the subject to the emotions felt by people who read what i write. So you apparently have a different style. Okay. So? :-) Mahesh
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On Friday 13 Mar 2009 7:39:51 pm Mahesh Murthy wrote: The discussion, if you must know, is having an amused, calming effect on me. :-) I have explained before that distressed people are known to wring hands. If this is not you, you really shouldn't be worried I think that you are merely using the topic of someone elses emotion to buttress your viewpoint in a triumphalist manner - as if to say ha ha This is what I believe is juvenile - because that is an action that is often used in internet discussions to divert from opinions to emotions. It is a data point for me to note that you need to resort to this and justify it by saying that it calms you. That I will agree with - I think you do need to resort to triumphalist comments to calm yourself. But that is not necessary. one can actually conduct a civilised discussion without triumphalism and statements abiout other participants state of mine. Now don't be angry with me for saying that. :) shiv
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On Friday 13 Mar 2009 7:32:57 pm Mahesh Murthy wrote: I don't believe so. And I have endeavoured to prove the opposite, with evolutionary, statistical and other evidence. Could I ask you to point me to the message or messages in which you have provided statistical and evolutionary evidence that a change of human morality from more conservative to less consrvative has a long term survival benefit for humans. I think I missed it while I was being antsy. shiv
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This is what I believe is juvenile - What you believe or not to be juvenile is irrelevant. Do get to the issue if you feel like, you've tried to distract enough :-)
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Could I ask you to point me to the message or messages in which you have provided statistical and evolutionary evidence that a change of human morality from more conservative to less consrvative has a long term survival benefit for humans. I think I missed it while I was being antsy. Glad to help. This happened long before the antsiness started. :-) To start with, I never spoke of a change from conservative to less conservative. I spoke of life forms in general following a behavioural pattern that would not be termed conservative. I have not advocated a change either way. I do believe evolution will take its course in such matters too :D It was you that postulated, apparently hypothetically, the need for change to some family values that would justify, among other things, fidelity and the need for the Indian woman to stay at home etc. Anyway: Do poke through the archives to find a link to a book by a pair of monogamous biologists. Do go there. You can even read key parts of the book online if you like. There are dozens of scientific studies referenced there. Feel free to track down each. Also read about the evolutionarily indicated need for a mix of stability (search for the word nest in this thread) and for strong genes. Search here for the phrase dispersion of parentage - there are a couple of posts on it, with data. Google for said data. Do read up - or read about, at least, Margaret Mead and what she wrote about - it was mentioned here too. Refer Ingrid's post on the proof of maternity / paternity. Refer your apparent agreement with said theory after said data was presented: perhaps the following phrase could dredge up some memories: The theory sounds compelling and deserves to be considered as a close approximation of reality Also, it'd be nice, after you do all of this, to come back with any evidence you might have that stacks up against any of the above: that supports your curious contention that fidelity is evolutionarily indicated. Yes, you have expressed that you really feel this ought to be true, but I'm sure we can get beyond feelings to something a wee bit more scientific that would stand up to some sort of non-feelings-based scrutiny. :-) Regards, My $0.02 Mahesh
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On Thursday 12 Mar 2009 11:49:50 am Mahesh Murthy wrote: Even today, most talk of fidelity seems to emanate from those who were brought up in Christian / Islamic backgrounds of convent schools or madrassas, I love your sense of humor. Per most available evidence, alpha males do not demand fidelity from their female partners - just the right to access them as and when they feel like. No they do not demand fidelity but they do not allow any other males to have sex with their females. If there is a a difference please tell me. Even with all this I think one in five primate species are apparently mainly monoogamous Again, there is no evidence that suggest this is true. Primates are furiously polygamous. I am also specifically not sure what mainly monogamous means. Is that something like marginally virginal or almost pregnant? You are speaking of individuals in reponse to an observation about groups. I am referring to groups, not individuals. There are species that are primarily monogamous but observations show that members of the species are not invariably monogamous. Some members are and some are not. In some species - most appear monogamous but not 100 percent which suggests that there may be some survival advantages in monogamy. The evidence you have provided to me does not convince me - but by all means hold on to your opinion on this matter. I will hold mine until I see convincing data to the contrary. Let's not confuse marriage with fidelity. One does not need to exist for the other to. In fact, data suggests that they rarely, if ever co-exist. From an evolutionary point of view, the most indicated construct that successful species follow is marriage without fidelity. Marriage means fidelity by definition, during the duration of that marriage. By saying Lets not confuse marriage with fidelity you are fudging the definition of marriage. Marriage too is an instituton that has evolved over time in human societies. It might not be perfect, but I think you are jumping the gun in dismissing it for reasons that suit your viewpoint. we must accept that fidelity is an aberration, You are choosing to interpret the facts you write to suit your viewpoint. That is quite alright except that you fail to view the same data in another way. Fidelity to one partner is maintained after mating in many species. While the female is pregnant or bringing up young from one male she does not randomly mate with other males, and the male himself is often around to eliminate that possibility. That is fidelity. You can call it marrage too. What happens later is comparable to divorce followed by remarriage. It is certainly not free communal sex in which males are randomly mating and impregnating any available female and females are randomly available for mating whether or not they are carrying children from other males. The facts you have yourself noted seem to indicate that animals marry, stay married for a bit, then divorce and remarry someone else. The only question is whether such a scheme or repeated marriage, divorce and remarriage is advantageous to human adult males, females and children. I am saying that it probably is not and nothing you have said seems to contradict this view. The animal model of multiple serial marriages followed by divorce is unsuitable for humans. And most animals, unlike humans, do not attempt to indulge in, allow or justify free communal sex all year round. Please don't tell me about Bonobos though. shiv
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what about the effect of victorian england on hindu mores regarding sexuality? surely this would have disturbed the continuum? On Thu, Mar 12, 2009 at 4:06 AM, Mahesh Murthy mahesh.mur...@gmail.comwrote: I love your sense of humor. Inadvertant, but always glad to entertain :-) No they do not demand fidelity but they do not allow any other males to have sex with their females. If there is a a difference please tell me. The females are *already* nesting with other males. Alpha males don't stop them from doing so or indeed from continuing to nest and have sexual relationships with their nest-providers. They merely continue to access these nesting females - (actually it's the other way around - the females access them) - at will. The females may adopt subterfuge to do this so their current nest-partners don't savvy up to it, but they still do so. I am referring to groups, not individuals. There are species that are primarily monogamous but observations show that members of the species are not invariably monogamous. Some members are and some are not. In some species - most appear monogamous but not 100 percent If you were to look at numbers, whether from an individual or group or any other convenient point of view as long as you subscribe to commonly-accepted mathematical and statistical notions of the word most, the opposite is more accurate: most appear polygamous, but not 100%. I will refer you here http://www.amazon.com/Myth-Monogamy-Fidelity-Infidelity-Animals/dp/0805071369/ref=sr_1_21?ie=UTF8s=booksqid=1236853661sr=1-21 among a multitude of other places if you'd like some data. Marriage means fidelity by definition, during the duration of that marriage. Oh, absolutely not. As we have said so earlier, this is true only in Christian and Islamic societies or in individuals trained in such Christian / Islamic concepts through school or upbringing, who are a minority on this planet. Legally this may also be true in many societies that have derived their laws from Christian / Islamic societies. Indian law, derived from British law, may define infidelity as a reason to end marriage - but Indian society by large does not, and more relevantly, has never done so in the past. By saying Lets not confuse marriage with fidelity you are fudging the definition of marriage. I am not. I am clarifying it. You are defining marriage as only 15% of humans on earth would. For the other 85%, marriage is togetherness without the encumbrance of fidelity. Marriage too is an instituton that has evolved over time in human societies. It might not be perfect, but I think you are jumping the gun in dismissing it for reasons that suit your viewpoint. The discussion was not about perfect or imperfect marriages. And I do not dismiss marriage. I distinguish and dismiss fidelity as an institution of significant value. To repeat, the most evolutionarily preferred state of being is marriage unencumbered by fidelity. If you follow the thread of logic closely, you will find that no firearm has been pole-vaulted. :-) You are choosing to interpret the facts you write to suit your viewpoint. Only inasmuch as that I am interpreting the observation of water boiling to form a viewpoint that H2 O can remain in multiple physical states. Science is about observations and inference - and you may claim that all inferences are personal and hence all science is non-objective and judgemental. This is a specious line of reasoning. That is quite alright except that you fail to view the same data in another way. Fidelity to one partner is maintained after mating in many species. Nope, it is not. Again, subject to reasonable mathematical and statistical definitions of the word many. Though I note that you may choose to re-define English at will here. While the female is pregnant or bringing up young from one male she does not randomly mate with other males, and the male himself is often around to eliminate that possibility. That is fidelity. Perhaps you have not followed the line of debate. One talked of the evolutionary need for infidelity for species to procreate and create offspring with a higher chance of survival. Once a female is pregnant, the deed is done and sex during pregnancy, if any, is recreational. As is post-partum sex. Once again, it is not just the alpha male that raids the nesting females here - but the females who seek out the alpha males and all subsequent acts are co-volitional. You can call it marrage too. What happens later is comparable to divorce followed by remarriage. Convenient. So now we define a female having sex with seven males in a week as a female getting married 7 times and divorced six times. Reminds one of the modus operandi or legal justification of prostitution in Afghanistan :-). It is certainly not free communal sex in which males are randomly mating and
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On Thu, Mar 12, 2009 at 10:06 PM, Mahesh Murthy mahesh.mur...@gmail.com wrote: You do have this bugbear about free, communal sex :-) Wonder why :-) Worry not, we all missed out on the age of Aquarius :-) Speak for yourself. -- Charles
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On Thu, Mar 12, 2009 at 10:06 PM, Mahesh Murthy mahesh.mur...@gmail.com wrote: No they do not demand fidelity but they do not allow any other males to have sex with their females. If there is a a difference please tell me. The females are *already* nesting with other males. Alpha males don't stop them from doing so or indeed from continuing to nest and have sexual relationships with their nest-providers. They merely continue to access these nesting females - (actually it's the other way around - the females access them) - at will. The females may adopt subterfuge to do this so their current nest-partners don't savvy up to it, but they still do so. And in some primate troupes despite the alpha male's overt attempts to prevent lower status male coupling with his mates, in practice lower status males are often successful at mating with and fathering children with the alpha males putative mates. Or to put it another way, the women aren't averse to sex with non-alpha males even when nominally partnered with the alpha male. Marriage too is an instituton that has evolved over time in human societies. It might not be perfect, but I think you are jumping the gun in dismissing it for reasons that suit your viewpoint. The discussion was not about perfect or imperfect marriages. And I do not dismiss marriage. I distinguish and dismiss fidelity as an institution of significant value. To repeat, the most evolutionarily preferred state of being is marriage unencumbered by fidelity. If you follow the thread of logic closely, you will find that no firearm has been pole-vaulted. :-) I'm surprised at seeming ignorance of basic research in this area. I'm no expert, but even I've read Coming of Age in Samoa. That is quite alright except that you fail to view the same data in another way. Fidelity to one partner is maintained after mating in many species. Nope, it is not. Again, subject to reasonable mathematical and statistical definitions of the word many. Though I note that you may choose to re-define English at will here. The facts you have yourself noted seem to indicate that animals marry, stay married for a bit, then divorce and remarry someone else. The only question is whether such a scheme or repeated marriage, divorce and remarriage is advantageous to human adult males, females and children. I am saying that it probably is not and nothing you have said seems to contradict this view. Hmm, let's see. I'm saying that many millions of species and many billions of members of said species follow the model of non-fidelity and it has led to the earth being what it is today, obviously advantageous to all life on the planet. I wonder how bonobos are supposed to fit this male dominant serial monogamy model. Because they certainly don't by any stretch of the imagination, and if you're going to try to play the mongamy is natural law card, then bonobos, as some of our closest animal relatives, trump that rather thoroughly. My $0.02, Mahesh I'd say it was worth more than that. Thanks for posting. -- Charles
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On Friday 13 Mar 2009 2:53:24 am Charles Haynes wrote: I wonder how bonobos are supposed to fit this male dominant serial monogamy model. Because they certainly don't by any stretch of the imagination, and if you're going to try to play the mongamy is natural law card, then bonobos, as some of our closest animal relatives, trump that rather thoroughly. In fact I don't play cards. My last card game was 25 years ago. All I am saying is that if an animal model seems to fit a particular pattern it does not necessarily mean that it is right for humans. You can get all sorts of animal models and say Look - humans should do this because it works for horny toads or whatever. Victorian morality balked at any human connection with primates, but the morality of those who lived through the Age of Aquarius look at bonobos as their model. These are opinions that are based on based on current morality. Victorians saw their relationship with primates through the filter of their morality and people of the age of Aquarius conveniently claim increased kinship with bonobo society through the filter of their morality. But hello? It appears that the bonobo model did not work well for many people who lived through the age of Aquarius and a reversion to Victorian models of fidelity and morality became a better bet for one's personal life. Why the mealy mouthed protestation then? It is a rhetorical fudge to choose to interpret a statement of opinion as an enunciation of natural law. But that is a fallout of this mode of communication. What is right for humans in terms of survival could possibly be what has evolved over millennia. I would have thought that the reason why humans are not bonobos should have been clear to most humans. Dismissing evolutionary developments and imagining that a natural law may be uncovered by looking a any convenient and horny animal at hand is good for a chinwag - but utter tripe in most other respects. shiv
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On Thursday 12 Mar 2009 10:12:04 pm Radhika, Y. wrote: what about the effect of victorian england on hindu mores regarding sexuality? surely this would have disturbed the continuum? Hindu society is likely to have been modified both by Islamic views on morality as well as Victorian morality. The real problem (that I come across time and again in various dscussions) is that people are trying to pin down what is the Hindu model that pre-dated these two hated influences. Islam did not cook up new morality. It merely codified and formalized some aspects of pre-existing, pre-Islamic morality. That means that there were certain models of morality that pre-dated islam. Some aspects of Hindu morality too pre-date islam. Most people who search for pure Hindu morality unadulterated by Islamic and Christian morality seem (to me) loath to accept that Islam and Hindus may both have adopted an ancient pre-Islamic model resulting in the uncomfortable (to some) conclusion that there is some coincidence and commonality in Islamic and Hindu morality. Khajuraho and the Kama Sutra are quoted as glorious examples of Hindu morality that predated all this admixture. But if you look at what Hindu society seems to value and what Islamic society seems to value - there is a lot of commonality. The joint family system with collective decision making about various issues including marriage, the demand for respect for elders, the movement of the married girl into the groom's family/house and the exalted status of sons over daughters are common to Islamic and Hindu society. It has been alleged that the Hindu tendency to ask women to cover their heads with a pallu is Islamic influence. The honor system where family honor is dependent on the behavior of the female is blamed on Islamic society - but seems to exist among Hindus as well. Is this contamination from Islam or is this a pre-Islamic model that has been adopted by Hindus as well as in Islam? Why was it such a good model for Sita to follow Rama into the forest? Why did Rama reject Sita after her rescue from Lanka? Is there any Christian or Islamic morality here? What is Indian culture? shiv
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On Fri, Mar 13, 2009 at 12:20 PM, ss cybers...@gmail.com wrote: But hello? It appears that the bonobo model did not work well for many people who lived through the age of Aquarius and a reversion to Victorian models of fidelity and morality became a better bet for one's personal life. Why the mealy mouthed protestation then? What is right for humans in terms of survival could possibly be what has evolved over millennia. I would have thought that the reason why humans are not bonobos should have been clear to most humans. Dismissing evolutionary developments and imagining that a natural law may be uncovered by looking a any convenient and horny animal at hand is good for a chinwag - but utter tripe in most other respects. But neither are humans a species with alpha males (a fairly specific term relating to pack animal heirarchies, humans are not pack animals) and yet you seemed to want to use animal examples to justify human behavior - until animal counterexamples were presented. How about we agree that animal models aren't appropriate for prescribing human behavior and leave it at that? -- Charles
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On Fri, Mar 13, 2009 at 12:45 PM, ss cybers...@gmail.com wrote: Why did Rama reject Sita after her rescue from Lanka? I was under the impression that scholars thought that particular part of the Ramayana was a relatively recent accretion, and not contemporaneous with the rest of the writing? Is there any Christian or Islamic morality here? I don't know - is there? -- Charles
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Amidst the frenzied hand-wringing, I think the issue I grok is that you see free communal sex as the only alternative to fidelity. In fact these are two thinly-populated extremes on the bell curve, and neither is evolutionarily common or preferred. A few billion human beings (apart from a few trillion other non-human beings) exist in that seemingly happily and fat middle ground where companionships of marriage-like relationships coexist with sexual non-exclusivity. Further, AFAIK, the age of Aquarius (I was only 5 or 10 then!) preceded discoveries of bonobo behaviour by a few decades, and again, AFAIK, was never justified using the latter. Seen differently and on a more macro scale, the age of Aquarius has always existed and continues to exist in all living cultures, petri dish included - and I can imagine that this must be severely distressing to most sexually conservative folks. :-) In fact I don't play cards. My last card game was 25 years ago. All I am saying is that if an animal model seems to fit a particular pattern it does not necessarily mean that it is right for humans.
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On Wed, Mar 11, 2009 at 10:05 AM, Bonobashi bonoba...@yahoo.co.in wrote: What I was trying to 'sell' to you, Shiv, as you have spotted, is the idea that matriarchal society was the accepted norm right through pre-history, with all the riff-raff (males) sent safely far away from the camp to hunt, while grown-ups (females) worked on getting on with life, and were allowed back in with the fruits of this go-out-and-play-now only in the evening or night. This was a very stable system until patriarchal societies replaced them. The precise nature and the reasons behind this revolutionary change are far too complex to discuss even in a book or two hundred. The wandering of the Indo-Aryans was one of the phenomena which contributed to this revolution. Think of male domination of society as a disease. The IA volkswanderueng spread the patriarchal cosmogony and patriarchal social architecture over a large part of the Northern hemisphere using the very effective language and its future developed sub-forms as a vector. Recent developments in the last two thousand years are a particularly squalid manifestation of this disease - a nauseating sub-type, if you like. We have to wait for the virus to mutate into harmless forms, or find a ratiocinated cure. If you look at the way women address daily life versus the way men do, the analogy might be of a Phalcon on an IL76 platform, versus an SU 30 MKI. I hope you are enjoying it. It was like a dip in an ice-cold pool for me the first time I read it. Which book is this? -gabin -- Joan Collins - The problem with beauty is that it's like being born rich and getting poorer.
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2009/3/11 ss cybers...@gmail.com On Wednesday 11 Mar 2009 8:14:05 am Charles Haynes wrote: As I mention above, even if you believe that children are best raised in a stable multi-adult environment, it's not clear how that implies marriage, or even traditional family. It does not, but the only known method so far is the family unit, with monogamy for the female in most societies. Nobody can argue that nothing else will work, but nothing else seems to have been thrown up as a solution in thousands of years of human history. If you know something different, I would like to know too. If one were to combine human potential and human curiosity along with rigorous science, then one would have to have an ongoing prospective research study to see whether any other model is as good or better. The only problem is that the timescales to prove or disprove anything are so large that reseacrh becomes impractical. Perhaps time will tell if there is any other method. Until then - I will continue to hold the conservative viewpoint that what seems to have worked so far might possibly be the best bet until someone else does the experimentation and figures out that something else is equally good or better. shiv monogamy and the control of women's sexuality in general, are only necessary when patrilineal private property is the norm. all communal forms are, therefore, viable alternatives. - Ingrid
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On Wed, Mar 11, 2009 at 08:51:23AM +0530, ss wrote: It seems to me that, at least for now, overpopulation is a more serious threat to sustainability. Sustainability is a function of the technology available. Unfortunately we're in an unstable regime where we need to push for ridiculously advanced technologies in a very short time frame, orelse we'll experience massive depopulation on about a century time scale. Reducing the footprint can be only a temporary stop-gap measure, and in fact could become a trap. Missing a launch windows could be fatal. I decided to respond to this separately because this is an interesting response. Overpopulation and sub fertility are two separate issues because sub-fertlity In terms of the ecosystem carrying capacity, there's definitely massive overpopulation. and falling populations are occurring in different areas of the world from the areas of high fertility and high population. The time scale is also important. Sudden changes from hyperfertility to sub-replacement fertility will set societies up for massive failure if not compensated for. What is needed is not sub-fertility in Europe and hyper-fertility in India, but exactly the opposite. I would have thought that Europe could do with increased fertlity and India with reduced fertility. No matter how many The actual reasons for subreplacement fertility are high costs. Some subpopulations do have a very high fertility which if sustained in time will break out dramatically through the receding population landscape. European women fail to have kids for the noble cause of global The less noble cause is you nowadays need two working parents to raise children, and this will bring you on the brink of poverty. The wages stayed flat since 1990, or so. overpopulation, it makes no difference to the fertility in India. Or Africa. -- Eugen* Leitl a href=http://leitl.org;leitl/a http://leitl.org __ ICBM: 48.07100, 11.36820 http://www.ativel.com http://postbiota.org 8B29F6BE: 099D 78BA 2FD3 B014 B08A 7779 75B0 2443 8B29 F6BE
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OT but all this talk of marriage and family reminds me of http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ysm9eRtYHk shiv
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2009/3/11 ss cybers...@gmail.com On Wednesday 11 Mar 2009 4:34:15 pm Ingrid wrote: monogamy and the control of women's sexuality in general, are only necessary when patrilineal private property is the norm. all communal forms are, therefore, viable alternatives. Could you expand on this a little bit more please shiv maternity is usually a provable fact. paternity, without DNA testing, a claim. this is not a significant issue when resources and responsibilities are jointly owned or shared by a tribe/clan/commune/kibbutz/joint family. it is also not an issue once private property is institutionalised when property is handed down the maternal line. it only becomes an issue when a) there is private property to be inherited/bequeathed and b) this is done down the paternal line since the risk of a 'cuckoo in the nest' kicks in. from a female perspective the upside to monogamy is not being left alone to raise the offspring in which she has invested greater genetic, time and effort resources than the sperm donor has. communal living and resource sharing arrangements address this more or less adequately. all the hunter-gatherer/pastoral communities i'm aware of fit this pattern i.e. they are polygamous/polyandrous and do not have severe proscriptions against what monogamous cultures term promiscuity. hence my conclusion. - Ingrid
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Can I norrow this book if someone (from silk) in Bangalore has it? V On 3/11/09, ss cybers...@gmail.com wrote: On Wednesday 11 Mar 2009 3:21:27 pm gabin kattukaran wrote: Which book is this? Lost Ciivilizations of the Stone Age - Richard Rudgley, Arrow 1998 -- Sent from my mobile device
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easily available everywhere? On Wed, Mar 11, 2009 at 5:39 AM, ss cybers...@gmail.com wrote: On Wednesday 11 Mar 2009 3:21:27 pm gabin kattukaran wrote: Which book is this? Lost Ciivilizations of the Stone Age - Richard Rudgley, Arrow 1998
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On Wednesday 11 Mar 2009 6:46:40 pm Ingrid wrote: maternity is usually a provable fact. paternity, without DNA testing, a claim. this is not a significant issue when resources and responsibilities are jointly owned or shared by a tribe/clan/commune/kibbutz/joint family. it is also not an issue once private property is institutionalised when property is handed down the maternal line. it only becomes an issue when a) there is private property to be inherited/bequeathed and b) this is done down the paternal line since the risk of a 'cuckoo in the nest' kicks in. from a female perspective the upside to monogamy is not being left alone to raise the offspring in which she has invested greater genetic, time and effort resources than the sperm donor has. communal living and resource sharing arrangements address this more or less adequately. all the hunter-gatherer/pastoral communities i'm aware of fit this pattern i.e. they are polygamous/polyandrous and do not have severe proscriptions against what monogamous cultures term promiscuity. hence my conclusion. Very interesting. Thanks. shiv
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[Meta: Glad to see Bonobashi has (for the most part) fixed his mail client's quoting] On Tue, Mar 10, 2009 at 9:35 PM, Bonobashi bonoba...@yahoo.co.in wrote: The wandering of the Indo-Aryans was one of the phenomena which contributed to this revolution. Think of male domination of society as a disease. The IA volkswanderueng spread the patriarchal cosmogony and patriarchal social architecture over a large part of the Northern hemisphere using the very effective language and its future developed sub-forms as a vector. I am confused about the collation of Indo-Aryan (ethnicity, for I lack a better term) and Indo European. The former a branch of a people who migrated from Western Asia/Easter Europe and the latter, a collection of languages that all evolved from a parent proto language. The Indo-Aryans spoke one of the (many) Indo European languages. To have had the sort of effect you are talking about the language that the Indo-Aryans spoke must be very close to the trunk of Indo European languages (which is not what most Linguists say) and they must have spread to more parts of the world than is accepted wisdom among historians. Thaths -- You'll have to speak up, I'm wearing a towel. -- Homer J. Simpson
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Also, from what I've read: - DNA testing of hunter / gatherer societies show different dispersion of parentage - much more of the supposed alpha-male-in-a-commune kind of patterns, with no discernible lineage of the two-parents-in-mutual-fidelity kind - this two-parent-in-mutual-fidelity lineage begins to get visible from times when men settled down and became agrarian - i.e. recent centuries / millenia - this begets the theory that fidelity is a recent construct that was actually implemented by males, to ensure their property (i.e. land) went to their heirs, and not to the heirs of their partner that were not provably from their sperm. I.e. the threat of withholding hereditary property was used as a threat to keep potentially wayward females in line. - which begets the theory that the religions with the most proscriptions on female behaviour (of the thou-shalt-not-stray kind) are those run by rich old males - ie. Christianity and Islam - which seems to neatly back up Ingrid's point that fidelity is a relatively modern social construct that is designed to preserve hereditary property in patrilineal societies. - Fidelity doesn't need to - and indeed doesn't - exist in property-agnostic cultures (i.e. the very poor / very rich classes and hence the adage about fidelity being the hobgoblin that haunts the middle class) and also in cultures that are matrilineal, like modern Iceland / parts of Kerala / Bengal / the North East of India etc. - Fidelity is an aberration from the point of view of evolutionary biology, where fidelity is not indicated as a means to produce the fittest offspring. - If you were to consider humankind as merely another specie, then the female's best chance of producing a child that survives is to (a) find a mate that provides the best nest (loosely speaking: a rich, stable guy) and (b) to do so with the best sperm (which is usually from the alpha male kind - and those are rarely the types to be stable nest providers). - Virtually no species on Earth display fidelity - and most display some variant of this live-with-nest-provider-but-get-sperm-from-alpha-male indicated behaviour that is most preferred from an evolutionary point of view. This behaviour is not uncommon among humankind either, with it offering sufficient grist-for-the-mill for soap operas around the planet. My $0.02, Mahesh On Wed, Mar 11, 2009 at 8:53 PM, ss cybers...@gmail.com wrote: On Wednesday 11 Mar 2009 6:46:40 pm Ingrid wrote: maternity is usually a provable fact. paternity, without DNA testing, a claim. this is not a significant issue when resources and responsibilities are jointly owned or shared by a tribe/clan/commune/kibbutz/joint family. it is also not an issue once private property is institutionalised when property is handed down the maternal line. it only becomes an issue when a) there is private property to be inherited/bequeathed and b) this is done down the paternal line since the risk of a 'cuckoo in the nest' kicks in. from a female perspective the upside to monogamy is not being left alone to raise the offspring in which she has invested greater genetic, time and effort resources than the sperm donor has. communal living and resource sharing arrangements address this more or less adequately. all the hunter-gatherer/pastoral communities i'm aware of fit this pattern i.e. they are polygamous/polyandrous and do not have severe proscriptions against what monogamous cultures term promiscuity. hence my conclusion. Very interesting. Thanks. shiv
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Also, from what I've read: - DNA testing of hunter / gatherer societies show different dispersion of parentage - much more of the supposed alpha-male-in-a-commune kind of patterns, with no discernible lineage of the JADP, even in modern Western societies, dispersion of parentage is much higher than most people would assume. I remember reading about some study done in pre-DNA testing days (maybe the 70s or the 80s) using blood types, which showed that something like 10% of children were not fathered by the man they thought was their father. And the true number is probably much higher because (as I understand it), blood type testing is cruder than DNA testing, and does not distinguish in some cases between a father and son who are not biologically related. Badri
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I've heard the number 10% for India too. That's somewhat astounding - implying that some 100+ million people here are not the children of their mothers' long-term partners. On Thu, Mar 12, 2009 at 2:32 AM, Badri Natarajan asi...@vsnl.com wrote: Also, from what I've read: - DNA testing of hunter / gatherer societies show different dispersion of parentage - much more of the supposed alpha-male-in-a-commune kind of patterns, with no discernible lineage of the JADP, even in modern Western societies, dispersion of parentage is much higher than most people would assume. I remember reading about some study done in pre-DNA testing days (maybe the 70s or the 80s) using blood types, which showed that something like 10% of children were not fathered by the man they thought was their father. And the true number is probably much higher because (as I understand it), blood type testing is cruder than DNA testing, and does not distinguish in some cases between a father and son who are not biologically related. Badri
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On Thursday 12 Mar 2009 1:43:11 am Mahesh Murthy wrote: - Fidelity is an aberration from the point of view of evolutionary biology, where fidelity is not indicated as a means to produce the fittest offspring. - If you were to consider humankind as merely another specie, then the female's best chance of producing a child that survives is to (a) find a mate that provides the best nest (loosely speaking: a rich, stable guy) and (b) to do so with the best sperm (which is usually from the alpha male kind - and those are rarely the types to be stable nest providers). - Virtually no species on Earth display fidelity - and most display some variant of this live-with-nest-provider-but-get-sperm-from-alpha-male indicated behaviour that is most preferred from an evolutionary point of view. This behaviour is not uncommon among humankind either, with it offering sufficient grist-for-the-mill for soap operas around the planet. The theory sounds compelling and deserves to be considered as a close approximation of reality - but going by Hindu tradition the demand for female fidelity is older than Christianity and Islam. Certainly the acquisition/control of property (a geographical area with resources?) by a physically dominant male would seem to demand female fidelity. But when you compare with animal societies - you tend to find that all competing male sexual partners are kept well out of the way by the dominant alpha male as long as he is able to physically dominate. And during this period female fidelity (and monogamy) is enforced. And the male too is unable to leave his group and wander into some other male's territory and gather more females. Even with all this I think one in five primate species are apparently mainly monoogamous which suggests that there may be some survival advantages in monogamy. It is simplistic to pin down human behavior by comparing with any convenient animal society depending on what bias one might want to highlight. Popular science tends to justify recreational sex in humans based on observations of some animal species - which seems to be a conveinient way of saying 'Bonobos have fun sex aso it is natural for humans to do that - don't feel guilty. This is no different from preacher quoting the example of some supposedly monogamous species to follow. Speaking of animals and survival traits, it is likely that the institution of marriage was merely a formalization of a widespread human custom that aided survival of cooperative human societies (increased cooperation, decreased infighting) by demanding male fidelity as well as female fidelity. Female fidelity to one partner at a time seems to be the norm for almost any species, and male fidelity to one or a group of females is ensured by the need to fight off other competing males. So fidelity during significant sexually active phases of animal life does not seem unusual at all. Its not as if animals are randomly f*ck1ng around. shiv
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This brings me to the subject of succcessful marriages. Marriages are not free by definition. Neither man nor woman have complete freedom. But when it comes to the crunch, male freedom has always been given priority over female freedom. What is the right way to address this? 1) Curb male freedom 2) Increase female freedom 3) Both of the above The freedom referred to above varies from geography to geography and I think a mistake perhaps being made is applying Western values to Indian realities. Traditional Christian or Western (and Islamic) marriage rituals have held that fidelity is key to a marriage - and one oft-proven reason for the high incidence of divorce in traditional Christian cultures like the US is the inability for a spouse to maintain this desired state of being. Fidelity has never been key for a traditional Indian (read Hindu) marriage. (I remember reading somewhere that the Hindu marriage rituals involve no mention or oath of fidelity.) The usual stuff about Draupadi Krishna aside, traditional Indian social emphasis has always been about keeping the nuclear or other family together, regardless of occasional waywardness of either spouse. Indeed, there's room to believe that Indian marriages tend to last longer because there is this built-in elasticity. The increasing rate of divorce in modern India is perhaps more due to the prevalence of the (western) infidelity-intolerant mindset among Indian men and women than any in any new-found notion of freedom or lack thereof in either sex. So I'm not sure the options (1) / (2) / (3) are a comprehensive set of choices. My $0.02 Mahesh On Tue, Mar 10, 2009 at 9:43 AM, ss cybers...@gmail.com wrote: On Tuesday 10 Mar 2009 9:14:03 am gabin kattukaran wrote: Why would you think that a smaller population is a problem? A smaller population that is reached by lower birth rates rather than higher death rates seems like a good proposition. Seem like a good proposition alright. no dispute on that. But nobody knows for sure. The first effects of falling birh rates will probably become visible within my lifetime - some of these effects are coming up already. Falling birth rates in Europe for instance could be good for Indians - who have a huge percentage of young people. The bulge in demographics of the elderly in Euope could be looked after by young nursing care recruits and service people from India or African/Arab countries who have young people in surplus. No [roblem for them. teh problem is only for the Ram Sene equivalents in Europe who wll see thei culture disappearing. Whether that is a problem or not depends on whoch viewpoint you choose to take. Here is the controversial and troubling thought - I would appreciate inputs on this: If you read between the lines above it is easy to conclude that the problems of Western society can be directly linked to more freedom for women. This is true only if you decide that freedom seeking women and not freedom suppressing men/relationships or any thing else are the reason for divorces or relationship breakdowns. DISCLAIMER: My arguments that follow are for the sake of discussion and not a statement of my personal ideology or religion Is there a difference between freedom seeking women and freedom suppressing men in terms of effect on the woman or the marriage? The woman who seeks freedom for herself without being held down by any man desires freedom just as much as the woman who wants freedom from being held in bondage by a man. In both cases, if the desire is not to marry or continue with a marriage, the net effect on society is the same. It matters little whether the woman seeks freedom for freedom's sake or whether she seeks freedom from man. I seek to protect marriage and the family and the rights of a child to have a nuclear family therefore I demand that the woman must submit and swallow her pride, stuff her freedom and toe the line. This is what society often does, although the man is normally expected to contribute. This brings me to the subject of succcessful marriages. Marriages are not free by definition. Neither man nor woman have complete freedom. But when it comes to the crunch, male freedom has always been given priority over female freedom. What is the right way to address this? 1) Curb male freedom 2) Increase female freedom 3) Both of the above shiv
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I have gone ahead and added *IN_INDIA* in each of the lines. 1. Children are not listening to their elders *IN_INDIA*. 2. Children are not wearing traditional clothes*IN_INDIA*. Everyone is in jeans *IN_INDIA* and in other alien dresses. 3. Our traditional clothes are dying *IN_INDIA*. 4. What is worse, parents are not objecting to their children following Western culture *IN_INDIA*. Fathers are drinking with their sons. 5. Wives are not respecting their husbands *IN_INDIA*. 6. Boys and girls are freely mixing before marriage *IN_INDIA*. I-pill is the most widely sought after drug by girls *IN_INDIA* Oh BTW Girls cannot have regular sex (without the boys being involved) *IN_INDIA*. 7. Women are not practising old traditions *IN_INDIA* 8. Children talk back to adults *IN_INDIA* 9. Women in cut-piece clothes have become commercial objects. Even pictures of our gods and goddesses*IN_INDIA* are being used to sell liquor. 10. Last and the most important: *IN_INDIA* Women are drinking and going to nightclubs. Now replace *IN_INDIA* with *in_Japan* or *in_kenya* or *in america* and re-read the above. (find/replace will work beautifully) What these nuts are alarmed/concerned about is ***CHANGE*** but they term it ***Indian Culture***. I cant think of India of pre 1950 as the India of post 1992. So, what was culture then is not culture today. IMHO, what we see aroung us, the way of life of the people today, the languages, our blind faiths, our slumdogs, our tycoons, our educated voters, our uneducated voters, our middle class, our mulsims, our christians, our untouchables, our brahmins our tribals are all indian culture. This does not exclude anyone. The communists, the rightwing hindu parties, the pink chaddis, the khakhi chaddis, our political class, our judiciary, our police, our army, everyone is part of this huge couldron. Lukhman. The only thing that is constant is change.
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On Tuesday 10 Mar 2009 1:39:56 pm Mahesh Murthy wrote: snip realities. Traditional Christian or Western (and Islamic) marriage rituals have held that fidelity is key to a marriage - and one oft-proven reason for the high incidence of divorce in traditional Christian cultures like the US is the inability for a spouse to maintain this desired state of being. snip The increasing rate of divorce in modern India is perhaps more due to the prevalence of the (western) infidelity-intolerant mindset among Indian men and women Er it really should be Indian infidelity and not Western infdelity shouldn't it? Be that as it may, the divorce rates in the West are not necessarily high merely because of infidelity are they? They are high because divorce laws are liberal and allow divorce on various gounds other than infidelity. Incompatibility, cruelty and other factors can lead to divorce. Many Western societies are far more secular than Indian society and allow these divorce laws to operate without interference from religious and other pressure groups, unlike India. There is pressure not to divorce in Indian society and the increasing rates of divorce are probably not so much related to fidelity as the fact that divorce is now possible without shaming the woman forever. The other point is that fidelity is indeed demanded in Hindu marriages - from the woman. What the man should do is not clearly mentioned. Clearly here is an instance in which fidelity must be demanded from the man as well. but traditionalists who do not want to touch Hindu rituals will be shocked at such an Idea. However the traditionalists have already lost ground. Hindu laws usually meant that a married daughter is excluded from inhertitance of her paternal ancestral property. This silly law has now been overturned. Married women get an equal share of ancestral property. I think that for India: 1) The institution of marriage must be protected but not if it is clearly harmful to man or woman 2) The woman must be protected against cruelty, forced marriage and bondage 3) Fidelity must be expected of the man as well as the woman All this looks so easy and simple - one can say that Indian laws ensure exactly these three points. But in reality i believe that Hindu society is still living in the past. What happened in the past that does not happen now? Well - a man would get married and have 11 children.7 would die and after a while his wife would die too- naturally. That meant that the man could marry again. If the man died - you know what became of the widow. Hindutva still does not accept that bias against women is built into Hindu attitudes. The woman must change and accommodate, not the man. Everything about the Hindu past is considered so fine and so glorious and yet is considered to have been raped and misrepresented so badly (By the British and Muslims) that: a) Nobody will countenance a molocule of change b) Nobody wants to hear a single word of criticism. What really loads the dice against women in india is what is happening in the West - in which the decadence of the West is being (rightly or wrongly) linked to all the freedoms that people have - with female freedom being seen as a fundamntal factor leading to the demise of the family and dissolution of society. Bondage, modesty, self effacement, fidelity and servitude of women in India is portrayed as good and righteous - being beneficial to society. Hindutva finds it easy to laugh mockingly at Islam's admittedly ludicrous claim to respect women. But no Hindutva supporter has accepted any of the arguments I make to show that Hindu treatment of women is the pits. This insight just does not exist. I am accused of saying such things because my mind has been twisted by Westernization. But it is difficult not to accept that the West too had botched things badly and that is the biggest boost that both Islamists and Hindutvadis get when you use the West as comparison in terms of womens rights and freedoms. The future IMO will mean not copying the West. But things must not remain the same either. shiv
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On Tue, Mar 10, 2009 at 09:43:27AM +0530, ss wrote: Seem like a good proposition alright. no dispute on that. But nobody knows for sure. The first effects of falling birh rates will probably become visible within my lifetime - some of these effects are coming up already. It's the sudden change in the birth rate that hurts. China may pull a Japan. How well is India doing? Falling birth rates in Europe for instance could be good for Indians - who have a huge percentage of young people. The bulge in demographics of the elderly in Euope could be looked after by young nursing care recruits and The Japanese are betting on robots, which will probably fail. service people from India or African/Arab countries who have young people in I'm not sure there will be enough money. There might well be better opportunities at home after the smoke clears. surplus. No [roblem for them. teh problem is only for the Ram Sene equivalents in Europe who wll see thei culture disappearing. Whether that is Xenophobia will be a problem. a problem or not depends on whoch viewpoint you choose to take. -- Eugen* Leitl a href=http://leitl.org;leitl/a http://leitl.org __ ICBM: 48.07100, 11.36820 http://www.ativel.com http://postbiota.org 8B29F6BE: 099D 78BA 2FD3 B014 B08A 7779 75B0 2443 8B29 F6BE
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On Tuesday 10 Mar 2009 4:09:40 pm Eugen Leitl wrote: I'm not sure there will be enough money. There might well be better opportunities at home after the smoke clears. Don't bet on it. There are enough people here to make living poor in Europe seem attractive - so the xenophobes may well get business. Enough money is a relative thing. If a given European country says that the minimum wage is X Euros and hour - this may seem expensive. But if a mass of Indians are willing to work for x/10 Euros an hour - the only thing holding them back is a law that demands a particuular minimum wage. Change the law and its done. This is how Britain subsidised its health service and acquired a lot of its Pakistanis And Indians, Bangladeshis, Nigerians and Sri Lankans) . Workers (doctors) from the subcontinent were employed in all the junior posts with little hope of rising to higher levels and little hope of settling permanently and claiming a pension at a later date. So the work was done cheaper. shiv
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This is how Britain subsidised its health service and acquired a lot of its Pakistanis And Indians, Bangladeshis, Nigerians and Sri Lankans) . Workers (doctors) from the subcontinent were employed in all the junior posts with little hope of rising to higher levels and little hope of settling permanently and claiming a pension at a later date. So the work was done cheaper. shiv Hi Shiv, I have to agree to disagree with you. Your views about NHS I beleive come from your days in UK. Things have changed quite a bit, I have quite a few Asian ( and Indian) friends who are consultants, and even some classmates of mine from medical school ( yep, I am a fellow medic, gone nuts :-) ) regards Anish
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snip Be that as it may, the divorce rates in the West are not necessarily high merely because of infidelity are they? It is certainly the most frequently-quoted cause. The other point is that fidelity is indeed demanded in Hindu marriages - from the woman. Can you quote me relevant scripture on this please - and not Manu smriti? Thanks. snip I think that for India: 1) The institution of marriage must be protected but not if it is clearly harmful to man or woman 2) The woman must be protected against cruelty, forced marriage and bondage 3) Fidelity must be expected of the man as well as the woman 1. Why? 2. Why just the woman? 3. Why? The future IMO will mean not copying the West. But things must not remain the same either. This seems somewhat out of line with your earlier 3 tenets. Be that as it may, change is happening, pink chaddis and all. I'm not worried on that count. My $0.02, Mahesh
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On Tuesday 10 Mar 2009 6:44:43 pm Mahesh Murthy wrote: snip Be that as it may, the divorce rates in the West are not necessarily high merely because of infidelity are they? It is certainly the most frequently-quoted cause. Naturally. It is the one most likely to get you a divorce. The other point is that fidelity is indeed demanded in Hindu marriages - from the woman. Can you quote me relevant scripture on this please - and not Manu smriti? Thanks. You asking me for scriptures? As in It has been written??. I have never read Manu Smriti and have no intention of doing so in the foreseeable future. I am referring to the act of looking for the star Arundhati - the symbolism being that the bride must be like Arundathi. The groom seems to have no similar demand placed on him as far as I know. If that comes from Manu smriti - you will have to educate me, assuming you are yourself familar with the work. I think that for India: 1) The institution of marriage must be protected but not if it is clearly harmful to man or woman 2) The woman must be protected against cruelty, forced marriage and bondage 3) Fidelity must be expected of the man as well as the woman 1. Why? 2. Why just the woman? 3. Why? I think the institution of marriage is important subject to the conditions I have stated. Please take it as my opinion. If you differ I would like to hear your view. In India the woman certainly needs protection more than the man. I hope you don't think that I implied that the man must not be protected. My not saying something does not mean I endorse or do not endorse what I have not said. Fidelity must be expected from the man as well as the woman. Are you asking why I hold this opinion? I will answer that if you confirm that you are not trolling. The future IMO will mean not copying the West. But things must not remain the same either. This seems somewhat out of line with your earlier 3 tenets. Be that as it may, change is happening, pink chaddis and all. I'm not worried on that count. How is it out of line? Please explain. shiv
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On Tuesday 10 Mar 2009 5:04:41 pm Anish Mohammed wrote: Hi Shiv, I have to agree to disagree with you. Your views about NHS I beleive come from your days in UK. Things have changed quite a bit, I have quite a few Asian ( and Indian) friends who are consultants, and even some classmates of mine from medical school ( yep, I am a fellow medic, gone nuts :-) ) regards Anish Anish - I saw how the change occurred and the process of change started 20 years ago. i still have a lot of consultant friends in the UK. Some contemporaries who are really senior and at the top of their profession - and a few younger people. But the NHS was set up and thrived on imported cheap labour. What exists now in the UK is a pale shadow of that NHS. If that labour did not exist - the NHS could never have been run the way it was. It is a lot different now. Mind you it certainly was a fair deal for the doctors who came in and life was a lot easier - although they got paid a lot less. If it had not been a fair deal - the doctors would not have gone to the UK in the first place. And that is the point I was making. Indians will do menial jobs for low salaries if the life they get is better than what they have in India. That class of Indian still exists (in surprisingly large numbers) and will still be ready to gobble up any menial jobs that may come up as Europe's population ages. shiv
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On Mar 10, 2009, at 6:14 AM, Mahesh Murthy wrote: snip Be that as it may, the divorce rates in the West are not necessarily high merely because of infidelity are they? It is certainly the most frequently-quoted cause. In most such cases, I would argue that infidelity is merely a symptom of a more fundamental cause. J. Andrew Rogers
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Its strange that this discussion is about men women but few women are participating in a discussion which is also about them .. On Tue, Mar 10, 2009 at 6:22 AM, ss cybers...@gmail.com wrote: Be that as it may, the divorce rates in the West are not necessarily high merely because of infidelity are they? They are high because divorce laws are liberal and allow divorce on various gounds other than infidelity. Incompatibility, cruelty and other factors can lead to divorce. Many Western ...shouldnt they? There is pressure not to divorce in Indian society and the increasing rates of divorce are probably not so much related to fidelity as the fact that divorce is now possible without shaming the woman forever. it is also not a social stigma as it used to be a few decades ago. The other point is that fidelity is indeed demanded in Hindu marriages - from the woman. What the man should do is not clearly mentioned. Clearly here is Many papers had nice articles on account of women's day and I think these two from The Hindu are pertinent to the ongoing discussion. http://www.hindu.com/mag/2009/03/08/stories/2009030850190500.htm http://www.hindu.com/mag/2009/03/08/stories/2009030850180500.htm As the articles note, a number of women are choosing to retain their independence than marry because its expected of them. Most women dont wish to provide monthly installments of dowry either and insist on managing their own finances as opposed to meekly handing over their earnings to the husband. Various factors aid them in this decision but you cannot underestimate the change in mindset of the earlier generation and the support they provide, which does have a role to play in their lives today. This is not true for all Indian families though and not every Indian woman is emancipated. Again, women (never mind which class, rich or poor she is) are more self-aware and are less willing to tolerate infidelity/bad relationships today. She has choices and is willing to use them. This is true for women from the lower economic strata of society too, especially if they are the bread-winners supporting an alcoholic abusive husband. This is related to the increased ability of a woman to support themselves financially and face society head-on. OTOH, there are cases of some women who are tolerant of a bad relationship/marriage simply because they cannot bear the thought of the social stigma or dont want to give up the hi-flying lifestyle he offers. They are becoming a rare species in India today. I think that for India: 1) The institution of marriage must be protected but not if it is clearly harmful to man or woman I know there is a whole industry that earns its bread from getting people married :) but why the undue emphasis on the institution of marriage and why should it be protected? Is there any research that has been done to find out the negative effects of not marrying? Recently there was talk of giving a legal status to live-in relationships but am not sure of its progress. Simplistically put, Isnt it much better for a kid to grow up in a happy environment with a single parent than have to live with the typical complete family where both parents are unhappy. Even the Indian legal system changed the definition of family over a decade ago to permit single women to adopt children of either gender. This was later extended to single men who can adopt a male child. IIRC, even school admission forms must now include mothers name and cannot deny admission on the basis of the fathers name not being provided. I am not sure how much of this is really in practice as there is no data available publicly. What really loads the dice against women in india is what is happening in the West - in which the decadence of the West is being (rightly or wrongly) does that imply that decadence was never prevalent in India not even in the BC era? I find that hard to believe. The future IMO will mean not copying the West. But things must not remain the same either. Its a fallacy that India is always copying the west. Switzerland granted women voting rights in the 70's while Indian women could vote right after we gained independence. -- .
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Shiv, I agree that fidelity must be expected for both men and women. Not getting divorced in INdia where a marriage has gone bad is also often because the spouses want to save face-too many at the anecdotal level to relate. In my experience as a 20-something divorced woman in India in the early 90s and in the US I found some interesting parallels and differences: 1. The age at which you get divorced makes a lot of difference. This was true both in the US and INdia - perhaps in the US living in a large city makes some difference but not in smaller places where the dice is still loaded against divorced women. If nothing was overtly said to me, I certainly knew it by the opposite when i got remarried at the age of 38-my social stock skyrocketed even amongst single American friends! 2. In the US economics has a large role to play in the success of a marriage or in individual success. For example, partners may not make the sacrifices to stay in the same place if their job opportunities take them elsewhere. Naturally seperate lives begin to form when they are physically apart-we may demand maturity on the part of people and ask that they have enough self-restraint once committed but whether a marriage can survive such demands is another matter. Also, keeping up with the Jones'/Jains is an expensive business - without two incomes it is virtually impossible. Even where people are together in the same place, there is so much personal sacrifice in terms of time and money in the name of achieving the dream life that it is quite natural for a man or a woman to have a mid-life crisis and wonder where real life just vanished!!! Not every working couple is making big bucks either unless they are white collar professionals. Being a single parent is of course even worse economically- i remember the newspaper vendor in our building in Washington - a single dad making 5 with 4 kids!! 3. In India women are brought up with the idea of sacrifice in personal relationships to an extreme degree and they often suffer from this - this certainly includes educated, bright women. In the US, the other extreme is visible and in fact the system is weighted against people who cannot be self-sufficient. Too bad if you are a mother, you had better be a working mother and nobody else gives a hoot. Many women manage but is it surprising that stress and long-term health are compromised whether it is a man or a woman with the job of bringing up kids and earning? People are often contemptous when still young of anybody who wants balance. 4. Divorce might be more accessible in the US but that is about all. Women still make less money than men, they will get passed over for promotions if they are pregnant and if they re-enter the work force after being away for a year they cannot hope to even start at the same level. Sweden/Norway may be the only country I know where companies are mandated to take mothers back at the same level. 5. Improper accounting/valuation of women's time: My brother's insurance company in the States calculated the value that my stay-at-home engineer sis-in-law adds to the household-a net saving of $100,000 and more an year just because my sis-in-law is a free educator, nurse, counsellor and my nephew's favorite playmate !!! Now just imagine if he had to pay her this amount. WELL!!! i am not suggesting that marriage be reduced to an economic transaction but the work that women do outside of work is severely undervalued. I personally believe that the law in every country needs to go from offering protection to offering futures for women. Yes, it must protect women from marital rape, domestic abuse and where the spouses have irreconciliable differences, they must be allowed to seperate. But the law of a country should also not tolerate any discrimination - under our fundamental rights no seperate law is needed to ensure that women who are divorced or married get equal opportunity and liberty to pursue life (the pursuit of happiness i find a bit silly since it seems to arrive when we are not looking for it!). The debate about change in India is being framed cleverly as a west vs. east difference of cultures and the men making these statements seem to forget that MEN are participating in the change. The men who are going out with these loose women are often decent people who may or may not get married to these women but don't necessarily have double standards. Are these loose men then? If we look at history then men have been way looser than women by any standard-witness Genghis khan - 13000 genes in existence have been traced to this man!!! On Tue, Mar 10, 2009 at 8:13 AM, ss cybers...@gmail.com wrote: On Tuesday 10 Mar 2009 6:44:43 pm Mahesh Murthy wrote: snip Be that as it may, the divorce rates in the West are not necessarily high merely because of infidelity are they? It is certainly the most frequently-quoted cause. Naturally. It is the one most likely to get you a divorce. The other
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On Mon, Mar 9, 2009 at 7:15 AM, Udhay Shankar N ud...@pobox.com wrote: 8. Children talk back to adults. I see no hope for the future of our people if they are dependent on the frivolous youth of today, for certainly all youth are reckless beyond words. When I was a boy, we were taught to be discrete and respectful of elders, but the present youth are exceedingly wise and impatient of restraint. --- Hesiod, Eighth Century B.C. http://groups.google.com/group/alt.quotations/msg/207140bd34d71a6b?pli=1 -- Sriram Karra You don't quit your job because you don't like it; you just go in and do it really half assed. -Homer Simpson
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On Tuesday 10 Mar 2009 11:37:30 pm . wrote: I know there is a whole industry that earns its bread from getting people married :) but why the undue emphasis on the institution of marriage and why should it be protected? Is there any research that has been done to find out the negative effects of not marrying? Recently there was talk of giving a legal status to live-in relationships but am not sure of its progress. Simplistically put, Isnt it much better for a kid to grow up in a happy environment with a single parent than have to live with the typical complete family where both parents are unhappy. Even the Indian legal system changed the definition of family over a decade ago to permit single women to adopt children of either gender. This was later extended to single men who can adopt a male child. IIRC, even school admission forms must now include mothers name and cannot deny admission on the basis of the fathers name not being provided. I am not sure how much of this is really in practice as there is no data available publicly. Research about the results of not marrying is going on right now. Long term effects will not be in for at least 20 years from now. It is not at all clear that for human children the happy single parent environment is good. Research seems to show that the child actually needs a stable father figure as much as a mother. In fact the deeper you go into this family business, the more attractive some (but not all) aspects of the core/joint family become. Support through physical illness and other times of stress (such as unemployment) is much better from the family unit rather than the individual unit. What has been attempted in the West is to make the government or other services replace the family - to provide the care that the family provides in less developed societies. Having said that the joint family in India - for all its advantages has been misused to make the new female entrant a slave. But let me come to the more controversial bit. Pregnant women, and women with infants need support from others and independence is not possible. For the purpose of procreation and maintaining a stable human population - pregnancies and women and the accompanying dependence are unavoidable. When women become independent, their independence is held to ransom by the forced dependence that pregnancy and childbearing causes. And as Western populations are allowing female independence in this way, it is being accompanied by a fall in fertility as women choose to have fewer babies. As the number of babies being born falls below replacement level - two effects occur 1) An absolute decrease in the population 2) The relative increase in the elderly and dependent. Now here's the rub: A) The Hindutvadis who are complaining about women not meeting certain standards are complaining exactly about the Western style female independence I have written about above. B) Female independence in the Western model is being seen as the single biggest threat to the family and to society. The Indian family is viewed as a unit in which the parents care for children until the children can be independent, and then it is expected that the children will care for the parents. A break up of the family, a fall in population and children staying away from parents are all seen as family and society destroying occurrences. All these society destroying occurrences are being blamed on Western style female independence and individualism imparted to children as opposed to the collective of the family that Indian society is thought to represent. To the protesting Hindutvadis - their fight is not for a religion so much as for dharma. The word dharma itself means to hold or to preserve - or righteous duty. Preservation of the way of life is seen as a righteous duty. They are fighting what they see as a threat to society and the way of life that they feel India represents. I believe that they are unable to articulate their views and anxieties very well in English and hence their demands sound stupid in translation. My personal views are slightly different and I have already stated them and I don't really know if the ideal that I seek can ever be implemented - i.e freedom for the woman as well as protection for the (legally binding) institution of marriage (which forms the basis of the family). I accept that the family is important and IMO irreplaceable, but ideally, not at the cost of female slavery. shiv
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On Tuesday 10 Mar 2009 11:51:23 pm Radhika, Y. wrote: I personally believe that the law in every country needs to go from offering protection to offering futures for women. Yes, it must protect women from marital rape, domestic abuse and where the spouses have irreconciliable differences, they must be allowed to seperate. But the law of a country should also not tolerate any discrimination - under our fundamental rights no seperate law is needed to ensure that women who are divorced or married get equal opportunity and liberty to pursue life (the pursuit of happiness i find a bit silly since it seems to arrive when we are not looking for it!). Off topic - but Bonobashi (IG) has sent me a very interesting book that I am still reading. The book basically tears down generally accepted dates for the development of writing, science and math - and uses available arceological evidence to push back dates to a surprisingly distant past - 40,000 years or more. One of the interesting hypotheses that seems to be emerging (I have not yet read the whole book) is the establshment of male-dominated societies at some time in the past from what might possibly have been societies that were much more fair to the woman. Here's (slightly vulgar) titbit from the book. There is list of very ancient words that have possibly been in existence from the beginnings of language and one of the words happens to be puti - referring either to a hole or the vagina. It appears that the Punjabi word phuddi (for vagina) is one of the oldest words in existence. I got a big kick out of that because that Punjabi word has been known to me as a curse-word from my schoodays. But the use of the word phuddi as a curse word is itself an indicator of male domination. As is the word aurat for woman - with aurat being synonymous with shame and female genitalia. In some circles there has been a move to relace the word aurat with naari for this reason - although that does not mean much for women in any tangible sense. shiv
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On Wed, Mar 11, 2009 at 1:16 PM, ss cybers...@gmail.com wrote: Support through physical illness and other times of stress (such as unemployment) is much better from the family unit rather than the individual unit. ... Pregnant women, and women with infants need support from others and independence is not possible. For the purpose of procreation and maintaining a stable human population - pregnancies and women and the accompanying dependence are unavoidable. When women become independent, their independence is held to ransom by the forced dependence that pregnancy and childbearing causes. None of that implies lifetime one-man-one-woman marriage though. In particular, it would seem to argue for larger multiple-adult support units. The joint/extended family is certainly one proven model, but it would seem to me that other multi-adult family structures could well be equally effective. In particular, while women physically bear the children, there's no obvious reason why that would prohibit women from being otherwise independent, any more than any other short term physical disability. And as Western populations are allowing female independence in this way, it is being accompanied by a fall in fertility as women choose to have fewer babies. It seems to me that, at least for now, overpopulation is a more serious threat to sustainability. My personal ... ideal ... freedom for the woman as well as protection for the (legally binding) institution of marriage (which forms the basis of the family). I accept that the family is important and IMO irreplaceable, but ideally, not at the cost of female slavery. As I mention above, even if you believe that children are best raised in a stable multi-adult environment, it's not clear how that implies marriage, or even traditional family. -- Charles
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On Wed, Mar 11, 2009 at 5:55 AM, Sriram Karra ska...@gmail.com wrote: On Mon, Mar 9, 2009 at 7:15 AM, Udhay Shankar N ud...@pobox.com wrote: 8. Children talk back to adults. I see no hope for the future of our people if they are dependent on the frivolous youth of today, for certainly all youth are reckless beyond words. When I was a boy, we were taught to be discrete and respectful of elders, but the present youth are exceedingly wise and impatient of restraint. --- Hesiod, Eighth Century B.C. http://groups.google.com/group/alt.quotations/msg/207140bd34d71a6b?pli=1 Ah. That is the exact quote I was looking for, thank you! And I am sure that in every century after that, one can find a quote to the same effect. Deepa.
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On Wednesday 11 Mar 2009 8:14:05 am Charles Haynes wrote: As I mention above, even if you believe that children are best raised in a stable multi-adult environment, it's not clear how that implies marriage, or even traditional family. It does not, but the only known method so far is the family unit, with monogamy for the female in most societies. Nobody can argue that nothing else will work, but nothing else seems to have been thrown up as a solution in thousands of years of human history. If you know something different, I would like to know too. If one were to combine human potential and human curiosity along with rigorous science, then one would have to have an ongoing prospective research study to see whether any other model is as good or better. The only problem is that the timescales to prove or disprove anything are so large that reseacrh becomes impractical. Perhaps time will tell if there is any other method. Until then - I will continue to hold the conservative viewpoint that what seems to have worked so far might possibly be the best bet until someone else does the experimentation and figures out that something else is equally good or better. shiv
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On Wednesday 11 Mar 2009 8:14:05 am Charles Haynes wrote: And as Western populations are allowing female independence in this way, it is being accompanied by a fall in fertility as women choose to have fewer babies. It seems to me that, at least for now, overpopulation is a more serious threat to sustainability. I decided to respond to this separately because this is an interesting response. Overpopulation and sub fertility are two separate issues because sub-fertlity and falling populations are occurring in different areas of the world from the areas of high fertility and high population. What is needed is not sub-fertility in Europe and hyper-fertility in India, but exactly the opposite. I would have thought that Europe could do with increased fertlity and India with reduced fertility. No matter how many European women fail to have kids for the noble cause of global overpopulation, it makes no difference to the fertility in India. Or Africa. shiv
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On Tue, Mar 10, 2009 at 10:16 PM, ss cybers...@gmail.com wrote: Research about the results of not marrying is going on right now. Long term effects will not be in for at least 20 years from now. It is not at all clear that for human children the happy single parent environment is good. Research seems to show that the child actually needs a stable father figure as much as a mother. A single parent environment could also be an outcome of the death of a spouse. It seems weird to suggest that he/she tie the knot again just to satisfy the state or society's definition of family. The constitution does not interfere with an individual's rights. To my knowledge, even Vedic literature/texts dont have any such well-defined mandate about women and their marital obligations (fwiw, i dont consider Manusmriti a religious text). Given that i have not read every text out there, i'd like to know which text has such definition wrt women, marriage, etc And as Western populations are allowing female independence in this way, it is being accompanied by a fall in fertility as women choose to have fewer babies. As the number of babies being born falls below replacement level - two effects occur 1) An absolute decrease in the population This is a good thing IMO, since parenting is a responsibility, not a right on account of its biological function. If one must propose the argument that every woman must have kids why not encourage adoption as a means of completing the circle. That is a nicer option than adding to the already over populated planet. B) Female independence in the Western model is being seen as the single biggest threat to the family and to society. The Indian family is viewed as a unit in which the parents care for children until the children can be independent, and then it is expected that the children will care for the parents. Although I dont understand the intricacies of the local language I do understand the part where the children (in a joint family) have heated exchanges while pressuring their parents to sell the ancestral house/land and give them their share. That seems more like greed than the indian family and culture which is being bandied about. All these society destroying occurrences are being blamed on Western style female independence and individualism imparted to children as opposed to the collective of the family that Indian society is thought to represent. Greed, cunningness, avarice, malice, selfishness, etc... are human traits and have nothing to do with so-called western influences. If anything it seems like shifting the blame onto others shoulders. To the protesting Hindutvadis - their fight is not for a religion so much as for dharma. The word dharma itself means to hold or to preserve - or righteous duty. Preservation of the way of life is seen as a righteous duty. They are fighting what they see as a threat to society and the way of life that they feel India represents. I believe that they are unable to articulate their views and anxieties very well in English and hence their demands sound stupid in translation. Nah, it seems like a few are dumping their narrow-minded ideas on the general populace because they think they can control others despite the law of the land not giving them this right. It has hardly anything to do with the English language. -- .
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On Wed, Mar 11, 2009 at 2:04 PM, ss cybers...@gmail.com wrote: On Wednesday 11 Mar 2009 8:14:05 am Charles Haynes wrote: As I mention above, even if you believe that children are best raised in a stable multi-adult environment, it's not clear how that implies marriage, or even traditional family. It does not, but the only known method so far is the family unit, with monogamy for the female in most societies. ... If one were to combine human potential and human curiosity along with rigorous science, then one would have to have an ongoing prospective research study to see whether any other model is as good or better. Except that the ideas in your first paragraph (monogamous families are the best we know) are being used as justification to prohibit the second (investigate alternatives) - sometimes violently. Is it possible for divorced women to raise healthy successful children? Maybe yes, maybe no, but to on the one hand discourage them both actively and passively, and on the other hand point at their subsequent failures as evidence that they cannot succeed would seem to beg the question. -- Charles
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I see no hope for the future of our people if they are dependent on the frivolous youth of today, for certainly all youth are reckless beyond words. When I was a boy, we were taught to be discrete and respectful of elders, but the present youth are exceedingly wise and impatient of restraint.- Hesiod, Eighth Century B.C. Ah. That is the exact quote I was looking for, thank you! And I am sure that in every century after that, one can find a quote to the same effect. Deepa. Exactly. Change has been *constant* all through. And it will deal itself. If divorces are becoming rampant, somehow the broken families will deal with themselves. The society will also find a way. The people whose families broke will get along. (A breakup)? it will all be normal. Shiv is holding on to the notion that the family setup should stay and nothing new can replace it. Can he? then, be accused of cognitive dissonance (incorrectly spelled?) The whole idea of breast beating at (loss of) indian culture can then be explained by Shivs theory. 1. Person A is doing things the old way for a 100 years 2. it is proved that it is not the best way to do it 3. A whole new idea (more efficient) is presented. 4. Person A refuses to follow 3. and denies 2. and attacks 3. Lukhman.
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On 3/10/09 8:38 PM, lukhman_khan lukhman_k...@yahoo.com wrote: If divorces are becoming rampant, somehow the broken families will deal with themselves. The society will also find a way. The people whose families broke will get along. (A breakup)? it will all be normal. Getting along is not the equivalent of a solution. Getting along is just a survival mechanism that kicks in, but not without shaping your thought process (which could affect you in other ways - not always positively). Shiv is holding on to the notion that the family setup should stay and nothing new can replace it. Can he? then, be accused of cognitive dissonance (incorrectly spelled?) I don't think there has been any good replacement for the family setup as you mentioned yet. People are at best coping. Divorce of parents always leaves some mark on children (which affects their perception of marriage and raising of kids - cant find link to this) and there is no best way yet to eliminate it.
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On Wednesday 11 Mar 2009 9:05:51 am Charles Haynes wrote: Except that the ideas in your first paragraph (monogamous families are the best we know) are being used as justification to prohibit the second (investigate alternatives) - sometimes violently. True. And this is politics. On what grounds, and in what manner do you sell an exploration of what is not known to people who think they already know? shiv
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On Wednesday 11 Mar 2009 9:02:21 am . wrote: This is a good thing IMO, since parenting is a responsibility, not a right on account of its biological function. Not disagreeing with your views which you have a right to hold, but just asking about what I have quoted above Who defines rights and who defines responsibilities? It is easy to say something is a responsibility and not a right. But a child has a right to be brought up in the best possible manner. He may lose a parent or both by death or by other means - but barring that, should the ease with which a child can lose parents and the right to have parents care for him be made so obtainable and desirable that a large proportion of children end up losing the right to have a childhood with both parents? Can parents' selfishness be allowed to impact on the child? What research exists to say that children who lose one or more parents are as happy and well adjustied in childhood and as adults as those who have a secure two parent household looking after them? Why speak of children's rights and not address the question of the right to a secure happy childhood? shiv
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--- On Wed, 11/3/09, ss cybers...@gmail.com wrote: From: ss cybers...@gmail.com Subject: Re: [silk] What is Indian culture? To: silklist@lists.hserus.net Date: Wednesday, 11 March, 2009, 8:00 AM -Inline Attachment Follows- On Tuesday 10 Mar 2009 11:51:23 pm Radhika, Y. wrote: I personally believe that the law in every country needs to go from offering protection to offering futures for women. Yes, it must protect women from marital rape, domestic abuse and where the spouses have irreconciliable differences, they must be allowed to seperate. But the law of a country should also not tolerate any discrimination - under our fundamental rights no seperate law is needed to ensure that women who are divorced or married get equal opportunity and liberty to pursue life (the pursuit of happiness i find a bit silly since it seems to arrive when we are not looking for it!). Off topic - but Bonobashi (IG) has sent me a very interesting book that I am still reading. The book basically tears down generally accepted dates for the development of writing, science and math - and uses available arceological evidence to push back dates to a surprisingly distant past - 40,000 years or more. One of the interesting hypotheses that seems to be emerging (I have not yet read the whole book) is the establshment of male-dominated societies at some time in the past from what might possibly have been societies that were much more fair to the woman. Here's (slightly vulgar) titbit from the book. There is list of very ancient words that have possibly been in existence from the beginnings of language and one of the words happens to be puti - referring either to a hole or the vagina. It appears that the Punjabi word phuddi (for vagina) is one of the oldest words in existence. I got a big kick out of that because that Punjabi word has been known to me as a curse-word from my schoodays. But the use of the word phuddi as a curse word is itself an indicator of male domination. As is the word aurat for woman - with aurat being synonymous with shame and female genitalia. In some circles there has been a move to relace the word aurat with naari for this reason - although that does not mean much for women in any tangible sense. shiv What I was trying to 'sell' to you, Shiv, as you have spotted, is the idea that matriarchal society was the accepted norm right through pre-history, with all the riff-raff (males) sent safely far away from the camp to hunt, while grown-ups (females) worked on getting on with life, and were allowed back in with the fruits of this go-out-and-play-now only in the evening or night. This was a very stable system until patriarchal societies replaced them. The precise nature and the reasons behind this revolutionary change are far too complex to discuss even in a book or two hundred. The wandering of the Indo-Aryans was one of the phenomena which contributed to this revolution. Think of male domination of society as a disease. The IA volkswanderueng spread the patriarchal cosmogony and patriarchal social architecture over a large part of the Northern hemisphere using the very effective language and its future developed sub-forms as a vector. Recent developments in the last two thousand years are a particularly squalid manifestation of this disease - a nauseating sub-type, if you like. We have to wait for the virus to mutate into harmless forms, or find a ratiocinated cure. If you look at the way women address daily life versus the way men do, the analogy might be of a Phalcon on an IL76 platform, versus an SU 30 MKI. I hope you are enjoying it. It was like a dip in an ice-cold pool for me the first time I read it. Add more friends to your messenger and enjoy! Go to http://messenger.yahoo.com/invite/
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Shoba (who lurks on silk) has a point. Exactly what is Indian culture? I am equally puzzled by the subsidiary question of what is India? (for the moment, we will ignore the otherwise equally important issue of what is culture? while we address the above two...) Thoughts? Udhay http://www.livemint.com/Articles/PrintArticle.aspx?artid=CC19A318-0A2E-11DE-A53F-000B5DABF636 In search of ‘Indian culture’ A conversation with a Sri Ram Sene activist can trigger many strong emotions - and a question. What really is Indian culture? We can stop the likes of Pramod Muthalik only when we have one template to agree upon Shoba Narayan I am at a Hindutva rally. I didn’t plan on being here. But Hosur, where Karnataka and Tamil Nadu meet, is a good place for a pit stop and coffee when you drive from Bangalore to Chennai. I sip my brew and notice a small crowd in the maidan (grounds) nearby. I venture forth mostly to hear the oration, which is, if you ignore the content, quite wonderful. There is the standard, somewhat mind-bending opener in Tamil: “Elders, mothers, respected leaders on the dais.” And the kicker, “my blood’s blood”. “Rathathin rathame” sounds better in Tamil but I doubt that Barack Obama or Angela Merkel would begin a speech by referring first to elders and then playing on the blood-brother angle. Is that Indian culture? A middle-aged man wearing what Tamilians call a minor chain—a thick gold confection that rests on his bushy chest—stands next to me. Every now and then, he looks quizzically at me, perhaps wondering what this lone lady in a salwar-kameez is doing in hinterland Hosur. “When did the rally start?” I ask in Tamil. The ice is broken. He smiles in relief. I am not an alien after all. We chat. Later, the man with the minor chain, emboldened by my journalist’s pen poised to attention, gives me a list of things that are wrong with Indian culture today. His name is Selvam and we have adjourned to the Saravana Bhavan nearby. “You want to know why I joined the Sri Ram Sene?” Selvam begins and gives me the list that I am reproducing below: 1. Children are not listening to their elders. 2. Children are not wearing traditional clothes. Everyone is in jeans and “Muslim dresses” like the salwar-kameez. 3. Sari is dying. 4. What is worse, parents are not objecting to their children following Western culture. Fathers are giving sons drinks. 5. Wives are not respecting their husbands. 6. Boys and girls are freely mixing before marriage. 7. Women are not keeping traditions such as watering the tulsi plant for the well-being of the family. 8. Children talk back to adults. 9. Women in cut-piece clothes have become commercial objects. Even goddesses like Lakshmi are being used to sell liquor. 10. Last and the most important: Women are drinking and going to nightclubs. Selvam wants to go deeper but he is hindered by my frowns and eye-rolls. We finish our masala dosas and leave. What rattles me is not what he has said, but the fact that we in “enlightened” urban India have no cohesive response. Instead, we are reactive and dismissive. When the sainiks usurp the culture debate, we disdain them as fringe elements. Or we play id to their superego; child to their parent. When they say, “Women can’t go to pubs,” we yell, “Yes, we will. Stop moral policing”, and launch the pink chaddi campaign. Unusual idea and a great piece of satire that serves to mock them, but can I get something more tangible? Something I can use against the Selvams of the world? Politicians call this “staying on message”. What I need is a well-thought-out, clearly articulated dictum of what constitutes Indian culture; a list if you will; ammunition. So that when orators at a Hindutva meeting talk about Indian culture being screwed up, I can tell him that they are wrong. I can tell Selvam, “Indian culture is not just about wearing jasmine in the hair. It is X, Y, and Z.” I need to know what that X, Y and Z are. Call it norms and mores that all of us outraged urban Indians agree upon. Mere anger isn’t enough. I need a strategy. I need what Ruth Benedict called “patterns of culture”, a set of qualities—aesthetics, values and common personality traits—that make up Indian society’s gestalt. Gestalt is the favourite term of cultural anthropologists. It is all fascinating stuff and the people I tend to agree with are Benedict, Alexander von Humboldt and Adolf Bastian. Look them up if you wish. The problem is that culture is a vast topic; a maze if you will. Just figuring out if chimpanzees have culture can take a lifetime and that is usually where I get stuck. But all that stuff is not relevant to the question at hand, which is: Is there any such thing as Indian culture and, if so, what is it? More and more, it seems, we urban Indians are refusing to be bound by a common culture. We live and let live, you and I—fellow travellers through the concrete jungles and shifting ideas of Mumbai, Delhi and Bangalore. We can’t agree on whether
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Shoba (who lurks on silk) has a point. Exactly what is Indian culture? I am equally puzzled by the subsidiary question of what is India? (for the moment, we will ignore the otherwise equally important issue of what is culture? while we address the above two...) Thoughts? I think we've already given in to the Mutaliks if we find ourselves trying to answer that question. The question is not what defines Indian culture, but what gives you the right to impose your interpretation (or your sub-culture) of it on others. Every culture goes through a shock when interacting with other cultures. And why most of us find it so difficult to answer that question is because the Indian urban centres are now a meeting point of many cultures (not just the western variety), and the urbane have successfully integrated what they find attractive in the cultures it encounters. I went through something similar, being from Cochin in Kerala and then transplanted into the US at the age of 11/12. I went to school there for 4 years and then came back to Cochin. A day before leaving, one of my teachers from school came to my house and told me that I was an American kid and he encouraged me to stay on somehow which was of course impossible. I hated coming back here at the time and I rebelled for a good year on return. But gradually as I made friends, went to engineering college, I realized that I was pretty much the same even before I left for the US. Living there has definitely changed me, but not made me a different person. Even if I stayed on in India, I would have grown up to the something similar. And so comes my reasoning that Mutalik and his goons are a passing phenomenon. It happens in every culture. I faced it for the first two years in the US because of their inherent fear of something unknown (the only 4 Indians in my school were second generation immigrants) manifested as anger and hate which is raging in the likes of Mutalik. I was made fun of, beat up quite a few times, and my only friends were a Costa Rican (who couldn't speak much english) and a Puerto Rican who loved video games and wanted to be a Ninja. The only reason we were friends was because they were also victims of the same treatment. But it eventually stopped when they understood enough about me and I about them that a common ground was established. And my last two years I had the most fun I've had in my life till then. Culture, like religion is personal and nobody should have to defend theirs against anybody else's. And the moment you start, you've already admitted defeat. Kiran
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Thoughts? Hmm. I seem to remember Shiv talking to a totally different hindutvavadi type (perhaps not the minor chain on a hairy chest variety) who gave him much the same response as this minor chain selvam at a hosur tea stall gave here .. 1. Children are not listening to their elders. 2. Children are not wearing traditional clothes. Everyone is in jeans and “Muslim dresses” like the salwar-kameez. etc etc .. Almost word for word. If the hindutvavadi goons and the hindutvavadi elderly respectable person types are both spouting the same - cookie cutter - responses .. well, they have consensus. What you don’t have is consensus and that's a good thing. Possibly talk about diversity in india, or talk about your niece who wears jeans but also goes to temples, scores high marks and respects her elders etc. Or your friend's daughter who is Christian but does much the same (church rather than temple but ..) *If* you want to engage in dialogue that is. Which wont quite help. The other alternative is to vote Yeddyurappa, Modi and others of their ilk out of power. You only find this nonsense happening actively in BJP ruled states. Amazing isn’t it? suresh