Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?
I think it depends on the cat, I have knowns very sweet and friendly female cats who like being with other cats, I know some others on here made genralizations about female cats, but I wouldn't do that, I think it really depends on the cat, jsut like I don't liek to generalize about people. Claudia Message: 1 Date: Thu, 16 Dec 2010 14:29:37 -0500 From: Natalie at...@optonline.net To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend? Message-ID: 08c901cb9d57$952de680$bf89b3...@net Content-Type: text/plain; charset=iso-8859-1 That is EXACTLY what I have found - almost all of our male cats are nurturing, loving - just like mothers or uncles to kittens and all cats...females have not been! But then, they probably had their motherhood experience, and decided no more! My problem right now is that I have adoption age kittens just in time for Christmas, and I do not, as a policy, want kittens to be going to a new home at this time - the worst ever! Meowy Christmas to all! Natalie -Original Message- From: felvtalk-boun...@felineleukemia.org [mailto:felvtalk-boun...@felineleukemia.org] On Behalf Of Beth Sent: Thursday, December 16, 2010 9:06 AM To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend? My females are little stinkers with other cats. My male cats have always been the nurturing, accepting ones. I've had big male formerly outdoor Tom cats who get fixed come inside play mom to my kitten fosters cuddle with my adult males. My female cats swat hiss at the kittens or new adults. Beth Dont Litter, Fix Your Critter!?www.Furkids.org ? --- On Wed, 12/15/10, Emeraldkittee emeraldkit...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Emeraldkittee emeraldkit...@yahoo.com Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend? To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Date: Wednesday, December 15, 2010, 10:49 PM thanks for sharing, Bonnie!? I wonder if it's just a female thing? I know there are laid back girl kitties, but I've always had tempermental, fussy ones, who I loved dearly.? We call our only female - the oldest at 15 - queen, too. :) --- On Wed, 12/15/10, Bonnie Hogue ho...@sonic.net wrote: From: Bonnie Hogue ho...@sonic.net Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend? To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Date: Wednesday, December 15, 2010, 8:27 PM Shannon I have to tell you this story... I got my cat, Stormy, as a 12 week old kitten.? She was indoors only.? There was a yard cat but they only saw eachother through the window.? About a year after getting Stormy, I decided to go back to school to finish my degree.? I was already working full time, so this meant poor little Stormy would be alone much of the time.? In a move that is the *only* time I've sought out a cat (they usually just come to me, as Stormy had) I went to the local shelter and adopted a kitten about 12 wks. old.? I brought him home and said, Look Stormy -- I got you a friend! Hiss, spit, growl, fur on end, very unhappy cat.? Oops.? I don't think she ever quite forgave me... From this I came to the conclusion that humans are social and cats are solitary.? That's undoubtedly not an absolute in either case, but generally speaking, I think most cats would prefer to be the only. ps -- Stormy now shares the house with three others, all came to me out of their need.? She's a little pissy sometimes, but I let her know she's queen and let the others know they are to give her utmost respect (she's the elder puss) and she's adjusted very well. Good luck! ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org
Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?
Good point Claudia. I currently have 6 house kitties ranging in age from 18 yo to 14 wk old. Zippity-doo-dah, the baby, is the only male. I've found age plays more of a role in how well cats get along. My 18 yo girl just ignores the rest and will put them in their place if they bug her. She is a tortie and never been a lap kitty. In my home anyway, they seem to group themselves by age. My next challenge is the 3 black and one black/white rescues I'm fostering in the bathroom. They are approx. 16 weeks old and anxious to escape the bathroom. Having 5 babies romping through the cottage could be quite a challenge for all of us. Sharyl --- On Fri, 12/17/10, Claudia Veiga elisasta...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Claudia Veiga elisasta...@yahoo.com Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend? To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Date: Friday, December 17, 2010, 4:19 PM I think it depends on the cat, I have knowns very sweet and friendly female cats who like being with other cats, I know some others on here made genralizations about female cats, but I wouldn't do that, I think it really depends on the cat, jsut like I don't liek to generalize about people. Claudia ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org
Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?
Yes, I agree - but I believe that generally, males are more outgoing, and much easier to tame than feral females. I have plenty of very cuddly felines, even my tortie who acts like a dog (only to me)...she follows me like a dog. -Original Message- From: felvtalk-boun...@felineleukemia.org [mailto:felvtalk-boun...@felineleukemia.org] On Behalf Of Claudia Veiga Sent: Friday, December 17, 2010 4:20 PM To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend? I think it depends on the cat, I have knowns very sweet and friendly female cats who like being with other cats, I know some others on here made genralizations about female cats, but I wouldn't do that, I think it really depends on the cat, jsut like I don't liek to generalize about people. Claudia Message: 1 Date: Thu, 16 Dec 2010 14:29:37 -0500 From: Natalie at...@optonline.net To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend? Message-ID: 08c901cb9d57$952de680$bf89b3...@net Content-Type: text/plain; charset=iso-8859-1 That is EXACTLY what I have found - almost all of our male cats are nurturing, loving - just like mothers or uncles to kittens and all cats...females have not been! But then, they probably had their motherhood experience, and decided no more! My problem right now is that I have adoption age kittens just in time for Christmas, and I do not, as a policy, want kittens to be going to a new home at this time - the worst ever! Meowy Christmas to all! Natalie -Original Message- From: felvtalk-boun...@felineleukemia.org [mailto:felvtalk-boun...@felineleukemia.org] On Behalf Of Beth Sent: Thursday, December 16, 2010 9:06 AM To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend? My females are little stinkers with other cats. My male cats have always been the nurturing, accepting ones. I've had big male formerly outdoor Tom cats who get fixed come inside play mom to my kitten fosters cuddle with my adult males. My female cats swat hiss at the kittens or new adults. Beth Dont Litter, Fix Your Critter!?www.Furkids.org ? --- On Wed, 12/15/10, Emeraldkittee emeraldkit...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Emeraldkittee emeraldkit...@yahoo.com Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend? To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Date: Wednesday, December 15, 2010, 10:49 PM thanks for sharing, Bonnie!? I wonder if it's just a female thing? I know there are laid back girl kitties, but I've always had tempermental, fussy ones, who I loved dearly.? We call our only female - the oldest at 15 - queen, too. :) --- On Wed, 12/15/10, Bonnie Hogue ho...@sonic.net wrote: From: Bonnie Hogue ho...@sonic.net Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend? To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Date: Wednesday, December 15, 2010, 8:27 PM Shannon I have to tell you this story... I got my cat, Stormy, as a 12 week old kitten.? She was indoors only.? There was a yard cat but they only saw eachother through the window.? About a year after getting Stormy, I decided to go back to school to finish my degree.? I was already working full time, so this meant poor little Stormy would be alone much of the time.? In a move that is the *only* time I've sought out a cat (they usually just come to me, as Stormy had) I went to the local shelter and adopted a kitten about 12 wks. old.? I brought him home and said, Look Stormy -- I got you a friend! Hiss, spit, growl, fur on end, very unhappy cat.? Oops.? I don't think she ever quite forgave me... From this I came to the conclusion that humans are social and cats are solitary.? That's undoubtedly not an absolute in either case, but generally speaking, I think most cats would prefer to be the only. ps -- Stormy now shares the house with three others, all came to me out of their need.? She's a little pissy sometimes, but I let her know she's queen and let the others know they are to give her utmost respect (she's the elder puss) and she's adjusted very well. Good luck! ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org
Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?
I agree completely. My 18mo old female with cancer who receives chemo has accepted the kitten since day one. When she doesn't feel like playing she patiently lets him know. When he doesn't back of she makes it quite clear she doesn't want to play! I've felt like she acts like a momma kitty. I've also been following the messages about black kitties. Our little black boy is the sweetest kitty ever. He is so much fun because he is fun and full of life. I think someone told me they here in japan black cats bring good luck. I personally turned 13 on Friday the13th and had a black cat! I don't believe in superstitions! Melinda, Fuji, and VooDoo Sent from my iPhone On Dec 18, 2010, at 6:19 AM, Claudia Veiga elisasta...@yahoo.com wrote: I think it depends on the cat, I have knowns very sweet and friendly female cats who like being with other cats, I know some others on here made genralizations about female cats, but I wouldn't do that, I think it really depends on the cat, jsut like I don't liek to generalize about people. Claudia Message: 1 Date: Thu, 16 Dec 2010 14:29:37 -0500 From: Natalie at...@optonline.net To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend? Message-ID: 08c901cb9d57$952de680$bf89b3...@net Content-Type: text/plain; charset=iso-8859-1 That is EXACTLY what I have found - almost all of our male cats are nurturing, loving - just like mothers or uncles to kittens and all cats...females have not been! But then, they probably had their motherhood experience, and decided no more! My problem right now is that I have adoption age kittens just in time for Christmas, and I do not, as a policy, want kittens to be going to a new home at this time - the worst ever! Meowy Christmas to all! Natalie -Original Message- From: felvtalk-boun...@felineleukemia.org [mailto:felvtalk-boun...@felineleukemia.org] On Behalf Of Beth Sent: Thursday, December 16, 2010 9:06 AM To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend? My females are little stinkers with other cats. My male cats have always been the nurturing, accepting ones. I've had big male formerly outdoor Tom cats who get fixed come inside play mom to my kitten fosters cuddle with my adult males. My female cats swat hiss at the kittens or new adults. Beth Dont Litter, Fix Your Critter!?www.Furkids.org ? --- On Wed, 12/15/10, Emeraldkittee emeraldkit...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Emeraldkittee emeraldkit...@yahoo.com Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend? To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Date: Wednesday, December 15, 2010, 10:49 PM thanks for sharing, Bonnie!? I wonder if it's just a female thing? I know there are laid back girl kitties, but I've always had tempermental, fussy ones, who I loved dearly.? We call our only female - the oldest at 15 - queen, too. :) --- On Wed, 12/15/10, Bonnie Hogue ho...@sonic.net wrote: From: Bonnie Hogue ho...@sonic.net Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend? To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Date: Wednesday, December 15, 2010, 8:27 PM Shannon I have to tell you this story... I got my cat, Stormy, as a 12 week old kitten.? She was indoors only.? There was a yard cat but they only saw eachother through the window.? About a year after getting Stormy, I decided to go back to school to finish my degree.? I was already working full time, so this meant poor little Stormy would be alone much of the time.? In a move that is the *only* time I've sought out a cat (they usually just come to me, as Stormy had) I went to the local shelter and adopted a kitten about 12 wks. old.? I brought him home and said, Look Stormy -- I got you a friend! Hiss, spit, growl, fur on end, very unhappy cat.? Oops.? I don't think she ever quite forgave me... From this I came to the conclusion that humans are social and cats are solitary.? That's undoubtedly not an absolute in either case, but generally speaking, I think most cats would prefer to be the only. ps -- Stormy now shares the house with three others, all came to me out of their need.? She's a little pissy sometimes, but I let her know she's queen and let the others know they are to give her utmost respect (she's the elder puss) and she's adjusted very well. Good luck! ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org
Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?
I'm with you Claudia!! The reality is that there are no rules... only imagined tendencies. :) I recently saw a very sweet movie called The Answer Man. I highly recommend it. In it, the lead female character said three things that she lives by that I totally love. 1) Never take advice from someone you wouldn't switch places with. 2) Try not to do anything you can't take back. 3) Something is what it is... and it's not something else. #3 is how I approach cat relationships, or for that matter humans too. It's personalities and chemistry. Nothing more. And thank God for that. It makes life joyfully interesting. :) Mike From: Claudia Veiga elisasta...@yahoo.com To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Sent: Fri, December 17, 2010 6:19:59 PM Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend? I think it depends on the cat, I have knowns very sweet and friendly female cats who like being with other cats, I know some others on here made genralizations about female cats, but I wouldn't do that, I think it really depends on the cat, jsut like I don't liek to generalize about people. Claudia ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org
Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend?
They are all so different and sometimes our expectations have something to do with their actions/reactions. I have been blessed by friends that get along, even if it takes a while for them to work things out. Ebony and Mitu worked it out and they worked it out with Mai Mai and Allie (two dogs who came alone separately and who worked things out themselves). Kitty worked ti out with Dixie. Ebony and Mi Tu worked it out with Sandy (another dog). All of us slept in the same bed and they lived in peace. Now Copper and Thomas (male cats) are working it out with Bob (a dog). Expectations have a lot to do with adjustments in MHO. I have brought dogs in to care for them while their Persons was vacationing etc...it worked out. Everything and everyone is different and I really believe that the beliefs of the people involved have a lot to do with adjustments. If we think it won't work..well, it won't. On Dec 17, 2010, at 7:13 PM, Mike Finch wrote: I'm with you Claudia!! The reality is that there are no rules... only imagined tendencies. :) I recently saw a very sweet movie called The Answer Man. I highly recommend it. In it, the lead female character said three things that she lives by that I totally love. 1) Never take advice from someone you wouldn't switch places with. 2) Try not to do anything you can't take back. 3) Something is what it is... and it's not something else. #3 is how I approach cat relationships, or for that matter humans too. It's personalities and chemistry. Nothing more. And thank God for that. It makes life joyfully interesting. :) Mike From: Claudia Veiga elisasta...@yahoo.com To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Sent: Fri, December 17, 2010 6:19:59 PM Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] how to know if your only needs a friend? I think it depends on the cat, I have knowns very sweet and friendly female cats who like being with other cats, I know some others on here made genralizations about female cats, but I wouldn't do that, I think it really depends on the cat, jsut like I don't liek to generalize about people. Claudia ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org ___ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org
