In the little corner of the world I inhabit, there are several different conversation openers 1. The intrusive: "That lady, your wife?" 2. The intrusive AND Tactless: "That lady, your wife, arranged marriage?" (because obviously, no right thinking woman would marry me unless forced into it by her family. This happens to be true, but still) 3. The offensive: "Where do you live?" (you tell them the name of the suburb. They raise their eyebrows in an involuntary expression of horror). "I've always wondered HOW people lived there" 4. The offensive comedian: "These kids are too good looking to be yours hahaha" 5. The very rare sensible one: "Your name sounds familiar. Are you on Silk?" "Yes, I am. You too?" "Yes. Say, do you want to go someplace else and grab a beer?" Thanks and regards
Narendra Shenoy On Thu, 8 May 2025 at 21:59, Heather Madrone via Silklist < [email protected]> wrote: > I might live in a differently-banal area, but I have rarely been asked > what I do. > > "Where do you live?" is a more common question. "What are your > pronouns?" is big. On trains, "where are you going and what are you > doing there?" At gatherings, "how do you know X?" > > People more often ask my husband what he does. Those people rarely ask > me. I suspect there's some pink-coding going on, an assumption that what > he does is more important or interesting than what I do. > > Most initial interactions focus on what's going on in the present, some > comment about the location, the event, the weather. Facts about the > person emerge over time. > > -- > Heather Madrone ([email protected]) > Blog: http://www.knitfitter.com/category/personal/ > http://sheltershock.thecomicseries.com > > The Goddess moves mountains -- bring a shovel. > > > -- > Silklist mailing list > [email protected] > https://mailman.panix.com/listinfo.cgi/silklist >
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