On Sun, Aug 23, 2009 at 09:56, Kiran K Karthikeyan<[email protected]> wrote: > 2009/8/23 lukhman_khan <[email protected]> >> >> If female feoticide/foeticide goes on, the way it had been a few years back
In the news show, Mr.Menon didnt come across as a person forced into a Matrubhoomi[0]-like situation. Rather, he maintained that he and his best friends wife fell in love with each other and he didnt want to break their family or her existing marriage. When a person on the show asked him "what's in it for you?" he replied that he got to see her everyday (am paraphrasing his words here). His response (and his story) hardly seems like an extreme gender imbalance situation because the lady in question was aware of her choices (moot point) and chose polyandry as a way of life for herself. The point I was raising was about the "morality" vein brought up in the show by people already in a live-in relationship -- legally, unrecognised in india just as polyandy is. The latter probably makes people uncomfortable because a woman having multiple partners (was, and still) is considered to have loose morals/no character (recalling the slang epithets used to describe women is left as an exercise for the reader), whilst a man with multiple sexual partners is considered virile. Double standards of morality for different genders !? [0] http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0379375/ > Such drastic measures are hardly necessary. Perhaps this map [1] might give Maybe not in Kerala but an older news report showed women in some villages (in punjab iirc) saying they were being purchased as brides as their economic condition didnt permit a fat dowry. These women, from different northern and eastern states, spoke of how the men didnt mind marrying outside their caste but the rating system on the basis of skin color/beauty, etc... was applicable even in this scarcity. -- .
