Like Heather, I too have been watching this thread with fascination. I certainly can understand & "identify with" the feelings about her marriage partner that she has elucidated.
I've been married to Dear Wife for nearly 34 years. My first, her second marriage. She had no children in her first marriage; we have 3 together. In a way, our marriage was arranged. We got married because she became pregnant and neither of us wanted to terminate the pregnancy -- although we came within 4 hours of doing so. We decided that since we had just agreed to become parents together we might as well go whole hog & get married on the "in for a dime, in for a dollar" principle. Absent her becoming with child, who knows if we would have stayed together? So it was, in that sense, a marriage arranged by Fate. I drafted a long note about this a few days ago, but I don't know if I'll ever send it to the list. It didn't really say what I wanted to say. Maybe what I have to say about marriage is impossible to say. But it is an interesting thread. jrs On Jul 16, 2014, at 11:48 AM, Heather Madrone wrote: > I am watching this thread with fascination.
