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I have to agree with Tim. :-0)
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Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 10:46
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Subject: Re: [Sndbox] now flirting
No need to explain yourself. What I am saying is...
For
example.... If I knew a married buddy of mine was doing a
lot of flirting
on the internet I would advise him not to. If he
said, "Hey.. I am just
kidding around and I'll probably never
see these women." I would still say
.... "Don't do it."
Present company excluded..... I would say that if you
*met*
your SO on the computer... Then this rule applies
double.
On Tuesday, September 30, 2003, at 12:07 PM, Angela
wrote:
In
my case as long as its flirting, which most of the time is just in a crowd,
he doesnt care about my flirting, as long as he knows I'm not trying to
seduce. I think if he ever caught me flirting with the intent to seduce, he
would probably be quite upset and he should be. And the flirty emails are
usually nothing more than what goes on in here.
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From: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
[mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]On Behalf Of Tim
Harder
Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 12:55 PM
To:
The Sandbox Discussion List
Subject: Re: [Sndbox] now
flirting
I think it is cool that
your husband doesn't mind that you flirt via e-mail....
*But*,
speaking from experience, it can and does cause trouble in
many
instances. My enlightend opinion now is that it doesn't matter if
*you*
think it is harmless or not.... It's what your SO
thinks....
On Tuesday, September 30, 2003, at 11:01
AM, Angela wrote:
Now I agree flirting with the intent of seduction
is wrong. I have always thought it was wrong, but the flirting you and David
do with Jackie or even between you and Neecy can be considered harmless b/c
it is done in a friendly way. I have never flirted with strangers at a bar
when I'm out with my friends b/c I dont want to get into any situation I
might not be able to get out of and I dont want to give anyone the
impression that I want to sleep with them (that kind of flirting is reserved
for hubby only *S*) but then again is it really flirting when its with your
SO? But if your intent isnt to seduce someone, just to flirt and be nice, I
dont see anything wrong with it. This guy and I in another one of my groups
flirt with each other all the time. Sometimes we even flirt offlist, but
then again I laugh about those emails and considering they all come into my
outlook and I have it on all the time, hubby could read them at any time.
And most of the time he does. There are times I have even gone so far as to
have him read the emails to me while I'm doing other things and have him
type out my reply, even with those flirtacious offlist emails, although he
does complain about that. But needless to say, if my intent was to seduce, I
wouldnt do it on outlook where he could see them at any time.....specially
considering he fusses at me all the time for not emptying my folders such as
sent items or deleted items. He was looking the other night and I had 3000
in deleted items and 1500 sent items.
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[mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]On Behalf Of
Charles
Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 11:45
AM
To: 'The Sandbox Discussion List'
Subject: RE:
[Sndbox] Pick one (immorality glamorized)
Well as I said, it depends
on what you call flirting. That’s always been the problem when we
discuss it on this list. Not everyone agrees on a common
definition. Both David and I told Jackie just the other day we always
ogle her. That could easily be called flirting, but the intent wasn’t
to sleep with Jackie as fun as that may be.
I see Neecy
several times a year in person, and we flirt in our way, but neither of us
are interested in each other in a sexual fashion. So, I would say that
if you are flirting with the intent of seduction then it will absolutely be
wrong, and I can agree with Lowell it isn’t harmless. I would even go
so far as to say that it can lead you to that compromising position that can
result in cheating. So for that reason, it’s not all
harmless.
Again, it boils down to
intent.
Charles
Mims
http://www.the-sandbox.org
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[mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf
OfAngela
Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 7:28
AM
To: The Sandbox Discussion List
Subject: RE: [Sndbox]
Pick one (immorality glamorized)
But anything you read
say that simple flirting is harmless. Now I'm not talking about going out
and batting your eyelashes at another guy and putting your hands all over
him, but even being friendly and smiling and laughing at someone elses jokes
can be considered flirting. The important thing in any relationship is know
who you are going home with or to each night. This trade show I just went to
with hubby a few weeks ago, what I was doing with his companies suppliers
could have been considered flirting, simply because I was being friendly and
smiling and wasnt stiff if one of them hugged me or gave me a kiss on the
cheek. But that was all it was. I need to look up this article I was reading
a few months ago where it was talking about flirting and marriage. But the
basic overlook of the article was light simple flirting can be vital to a
relationship b/c it keeps things fresh. It said never take flirting to the
point of making your spouse jealous. It also stated that flirting is just a
simple part of human nature and some people do it without realizing it. Not
putting anyone down, but most of the casual banter in here between the men
and the women can be considered flirting. And in anyone I've ever asked, a
strictly online relationship is just as damaging to a relationship and can
be considered cheating as much as any physical relationship. So if you feel
flirting is wrong, then when you are online you should watch your comments
(not directed at you AJ, just a generalization). A couple weeks ago when Tim
told David and I to get a room, we were flirting with each other, but not in
a way that either of our spouses would probably think was wrong. Therefore
it is harmless.
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