I have seen a lot of relationships over the years fall apart because one partner was flirting (innocently??) online..at least it started out innocently..and then it got to be more than that. I know I would be very hurt if someone I cared about started flirting or talking sex online with another woman. But that is me.
Laurie --- Tim Harder <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > I think it is cool that your husband doesn't mind > that you flirt via > e-mail.... > > *But*, speaking from experience, it can and does > cause trouble in many > instances. My enlightend opinion now is that it > doesn't matter if > *you* > think it is harmless or not.... It's what your SO > thinks.... > > > > > > On Tuesday, September 30, 2003, at 11:01 AM, Angela > wrote: > > > Now I agree flirting with the intent of seduction > is wrong. I have > > always thought it was wrong, but the flirting you > and David do with > > Jackie or even between you and Neecy can be > considered harmless b/c it > > is done in a friendly way. I have never flirted > with strangers at a > > bar when I'm out with my friends b/c I dont want > to get into any > > situation I might not be able to get out of and I > dont want to give > > anyone the impression that I want to sleep with > them (that kind of > > flirting is reserved for hubby only *S*) but then > again is it really > > flirting when its with your SO? But if your intent > isnt to seduce > > someone, just to flirt and be nice, I dont see > anything wrong with it. > > This guy and I in another one of my groups flirt > with each other all > > the time. Sometimes we even flirt offlist, but > then again I laugh > > about those emails and considering they all come > into my outlook and I > > have it on all the time, hubby could read them at > any time. And most > > of the time he does. There are times I have even > gone so far as to > > have him read the emails to me while I'm doing > other things and have > > him type out my reply, even with those flirtacious > offlist emails, > > although he does complain about that. But needless > to say, if my > > intent was to seduce, I wouldnt do it on outlook > where he could see > > them at any time.....specially considering he > fusses at me all the > > time for not emptying my folders such as sent > items or deleted items. > > He was looking the other night and I had 3000 in > deleted items and > > 1500 sent items. > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] Behalf > Of Charles > > Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 11:45 AM > > To: 'The Sandbox Discussion List' > > Subject: RE: [Sndbox] Pick one (immorality > glamorized) > > > > Well as I said, it depends on what you call > flirting.� That�s always > > been the problem when we discuss it on this list.� > Not everyone agrees > > on a common definition.� Both David and I told > Jackie just the other > > day we always ogle her.� That could easily be > called flirting, but the > > intent wasn�t to sleep with Jackie as fun as that > may be. > > > > � > > > > I see Neecy several times a year in person, and we > flirt in our way, > > but neither of us are interested in each other in > a sexual fashion.� > > So, I would say that if you are flirting with the > intent of seduction > > then it will absolutely be wrong, and I can agree > with Lowell it isn�t > > harmless.� I would even go so far as to say that > it can lead you to > > that compromising position that can result in > cheating.� So for that > > reason, it�s not all harmless. > > > > � > > > > Again, it boils down to intent. > > > > � > > > > Charles Mims > > > > http://www.the-sandbox.org > > > > � > > > <image.tiff> > > > > > > From:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf > OfAngela > > Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 7:28 AM > > To: The Sandbox Discussion List > > Subject: RE: [Sndbox] Pick one (immorality > glamorized) > > > > � > > > > But anything you read say that simple flirting is > harmless. Now I'm > > not talking about going out and batting your > eyelashes at another guy > > and putting your hands all over him, but even > being friendly and > > smiling and laughing at someone elses jokes can be > considered > > flirting. The important thing in any relationship > is know who you are > > going home with or to each night. This trade show > I just went to with > > hubby a few weeks ago, what I was doing with his > companies suppliers > > could have been considered flirting, simply > because I was being > > friendly and smiling and wasnt stiff if one of > them hugged me or gave > > me a kiss on the cheek. But that was all it was. I > need to look up > > this article I was reading a few months ago where > it was talking about > > flirting and marriage. But the basic overlook of > the article was light > > simple flirting can be vital to a relationship b/c > it keeps things > > fresh. It said never take flirting to the point of > making your spouse > > jealous. It also stated that flirting is just a > simple part of human > > nature and some people do it without realizing it. > Not putting anyone > > down, but most of the casual banter in here > between the men and the > > women can be considered flirting. And in anyone > I've ever asked, a > > strictly online relationship is just as damaging > to a relationship and > > can be considered cheating as much as any physical > relationship. So if > > you feel flirting is wrong, then when you are > online you should watch > > your comments (not directed at you AJ, just a > generalization). A > > couple weeks ago when Tim told David and I to get > a room, we were > > flirting with each other, but not in a way that > either of our spouses > > would probably think was wrong. 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