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LOL< gee thanks.....nah, we probably wouldnt be. I think my husband is
quite rare to be able to put up/handle me, hehe
umm, I a glad I am not married to you,
LOL
We would be married long, LOL
AJ
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Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 8:22
PM
Subject: RE: [Sndbox] now
flirting
If
it offended him or hurt his feelings, no I wouldnt do it. At least not
consciously. The joke in my family is that when I was born and the dr
slapped me on the bottom, I smiled and batted my eyelashes at him and
started the flirting then and there and it never stopped. I usually try to
call it naturally outgoing rather than naturally
flirtacious.
But if it offended or hurt your husbands
feelings would you still do it?
AJ
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003
11:11 AM
Subject: RE: [Sndbox] now
flirting
I know what you mean. Thankfully I met hubby while still in high
school. And its not alot of flirting, just the occassional thing, like I
told Charles I think, basically like the type of stuff that happens in
here. Playful banter back and forth.
No need to explain
yourself. What I am saying is...
For example.... If I knew a
married buddy of mine was doing a
lot of flirting on the internet
I would advise him not to. If he
said, "Hey.. I am just kidding
around and I'll probably never
see these women." I would still say
.... "Don't do it."
Present company excluded..... I would say that
if you *met*
your SO on the computer... Then this rule applies
double.
On Tuesday, September 30, 2003, at 12:07
PM, Angela wrote:
In
my case as long as its flirting, which most of the time is just in a
crowd, he doesnt care about my flirting, as long as he knows I'm not
trying to seduce. I think if he ever caught me flirting with the
intent to seduce, he would probably be quite upset and he should be.
And the flirty emails are usually nothing more than what goes on in
here.
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Message-----
From: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
[mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]On Behalf Of Tim
Harder
Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 12:55
PM
To: The Sandbox Discussion List
Subject: Re:
[Sndbox] now flirting
I
think it is cool that your husband doesn't mind that you flirt via
e-mail....
*But*, speaking from experience, it can and does
cause trouble in many
instances. My enlightend opinion now is
that it doesn't matter if *you*
think it is harmless or not....
It's what your SO thinks....
On Tuesday,
September 30, 2003, at 11:01 AM, Angela wrote:
Now I agree
flirting with the intent of seduction is wrong. I have always
thought it was wrong, but the flirting you and David do with Jackie
or even between you and Neecy can be considered harmless b/c it is
done in a friendly way. I have never flirted with strangers at a bar
when I'm out with my friends b/c I dont want to get into any
situation I might not be able to get out of and I dont want to give
anyone the impression that I want to sleep with them (that kind of
flirting is reserved for hubby only *S*) but then again is it really
flirting when its with your SO? But if your intent isnt to seduce
someone, just to flirt and be nice, I dont see anything wrong with
it. This guy and I in another one of my groups flirt with each other
all the time. Sometimes we even flirt offlist, but then again I
laugh about those emails and considering they all come into my
outlook and I have it on all the time, hubby could read them at any
time. And most of the time he does. There are times I have even gone
so far as to have him read the emails to me while I'm doing other
things and have him type out my reply, even with those flirtacious
offlist emails, although he does complain about that. But needless
to say, if my intent was to seduce, I wouldnt do it on outlook where
he could see them at any time.....specially considering he fusses at
me all the time for not emptying my folders such as sent items or
deleted items. He was looking the other night and I had 3000 in
deleted items and 1500 sent items.
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From: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
[mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]On Behalf Of
Charles
Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 11:45
AM
To: 'The Sandbox Discussion List'
Subject:
RE: [Sndbox] Pick one (immorality glamorized)
Well as I said,
it depends on what you call flirting. That’s always been the
problem when we discuss it on this list. Not everyone agrees
on a common definition. Both David and I told Jackie just the
other day we always ogle her. That could easily be called
flirting, but the intent wasn’t to sleep with Jackie as fun as that
may be.
I see Neecy several times a year in
person, and we flirt in our way, but neither of us are interested in
each other in a sexual fashion. So, I would say that if you
are flirting with the intent of seduction then it will absolutely be
wrong, and I can agree with Lowell it isn’t harmless. I would
even go so far as to say that it can lead you to that compromising
position that can result in cheating. So for that reason, it’s
not all harmless.
Again, it boils down to
intent.
Charles
Mims
http://www.the-sandbox.org
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From:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
[mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf
OfAngela
Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 7:28
AM
To: The Sandbox Discussion List
Subject: RE:
[Sndbox] Pick one (immorality glamorized)
But
anything you read say that simple flirting is harmless. Now I'm not
talking about going out and batting your eyelashes at another guy
and putting your hands all over him, but even being friendly and
smiling and laughing at someone elses jokes can be considered
flirting. The important thing in any relationship is know who you
are going home with or to each night. This trade show I just went to
with hubby a few weeks ago, what I was doing with his companies
suppliers could have been considered flirting, simply because I was
being friendly and smiling and wasnt stiff if one of them hugged me
or gave me a kiss on the cheek. But that was all it was. I need to
look up this article I was reading a few months ago where it was
talking about flirting and marriage. But the basic overlook of the
article was light simple flirting can be vital to a relationship b/c
it keeps things fresh. It said never take flirting to the point of
making your spouse jealous. It also stated that flirting is just a
simple part of human nature and some people do it without realizing
it. Not putting anyone down, but most of the casual banter in here
between the men and the women can be considered flirting. And in
anyone I've ever asked, a strictly online relationship is just as
damaging to a relationship and can be considered cheating as much as
any physical relationship. So if you feel flirting is wrong, then
when you are online you should watch your comments (not directed at
you AJ, just a generalization). A couple weeks ago when Tim told
David and I to get a room, we were flirting with each other, but not
in a way that either of our spouses would probably think was wrong.
Therefore it is harmless.
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