> I find nothing offensive to play the role of a Stradivarius in the hands > of > a talented musician. > > But you, ladies, are free to feel offended and miss the whole point.
Talk like this is cheap if it comes from a man. The point is that the whole tone of the statement of "playing her like a..." whatever instrument tells me through intuition and experience that we are not dealing here with a "talented musician" of the class of someone who'd own a Stradivarius. I'd rather be a broom in the hands of El Pulpo (was this him?) in that video than to be manhandled by someone with the approach discussed above. Just like a lover who thinks, he just needs to press those buttons described in the manual he read can make a woman feel like a machine who has an engineer fiddling around with it, the tangodancer's efforts in getting his "instrument" to play what he wants may not be appreciated the way he expected. > ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Victor: >> The 'playing her like a violin' comments are generally offensive but have >> their place. >> And, to the comment .. "that's great! he is playing her like a fine >> violin..". >> I agree - yuck!! is the perfect response. >> >> B, if this is your first post, please, let's hear more from you. >> >> Keith, HK >> >> >> >> On Mon Dec 17 4:04 , [EMAIL PROTECTED] sent: >> once I was >>>watching a beautiful woman dance with a man who was leading - really >>>admiring her adornments, musicality, beautiful footwork, and nuance - I >>>couldn't wait to dance with her - when a guy standing next to me said, >>>"that's great! he is playing her like a fine violin......." yuck!! >>>This passionate, beautiful dancer described as an inanimate object that >>>he "uses," Maybe it is oversensitive to have such a strong reaction to >>>imagery that other folks use to describe their tango....but part of it >>>comes from the experience of being told "follows only really need to >>>learn to follow," having inexperienced (or worse, experienced) leaders >>>wrestling with you to "get" gancho after gancho after gancho - and >>>those are usually the same leads who will violently twist your >>>shoulders over and over to get you do the boleo they demand, and, my >>>favorite, the leads who will stop dead in the middle of the floor >>>during a milonga and scold, "you were supposed to do...whatever," to >>>which the best response, that most follows are too gracious to say, is, >>>"you were supposed to lead it...." _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
