Playing the violin is not an easy task. In fact, it is among the most difficult instruments. So, I do not agree that the expression gives us association with someone who "reads the manual" and "presses buttons", and expects machine-like behaviour.
Being fine tango instrument is difficult, and requires high skill level from both partners. Otherwise, the lady reverts to being a machine that tries to follow orders (marks) coming from the man. Quoting Astrid <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>: >> I find nothing offensive to play the role of a Stradivarius in the hands >> of >> a talented musician. >> >> But you, ladies, are free to feel offended and miss the whole point. > > Talk like this is cheap if it comes from a man. > The point is that the whole tone of the statement of "playing her like a..." > whatever instrument tells me through intuition and experience that we are > not dealing here with a "talented musician" of the class of someone who'd > own a Stradivarius. > I'd rather be a broom in the hands of El Pulpo (was this him?) in that video > than to be manhandled by someone with the approach discussed above. > Just like a lover who thinks, he just needs to press those buttons described > in the manual he read can make a woman feel like a machine who has an > engineer fiddling around with it, the tangodancer's efforts in getting his > "instrument" to play what he wants may not be appreciated the way he > expected. >> > ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- > Victor: >>> The 'playing her like a violin' comments are generally offensive but have >>> their place. > > >>> And, to the comment .. "that's great! he is playing her like a fine >>> violin..". >>> I agree - yuck!! is the perfect response. >>> >>> B, if this is your first post, please, let's hear more from you. >>> >>> Keith, HK >>> >>> >>> >>> On Mon Dec 17 4:04 , [EMAIL PROTECTED] sent: >>> > once I was >>>> watching a beautiful woman dance with a man who was leading - really >>>> admiring her adornments, musicality, beautiful footwork, and nuance - I >>>> couldn't wait to dance with her - when a guy standing next to me said, >>>> "that's great! he is playing her like a fine violin......." yuck!! >>>> This passionate, beautiful dancer described as an inanimate object that >>>> he "uses," Maybe it is oversensitive to have such a strong reaction to >>>> imagery that other folks use to describe their tango....but part of it >>>> comes from the experience of being told "follows only really need to >>>> learn to follow," having inexperienced (or worse, experienced) leaders >>>> wrestling with you to "get" gancho after gancho after gancho - and >>>> those are usually the same leads who will violently twist your >>>> shoulders over and over to get you do the boleo they demand, and, my >>>> favorite, the leads who will stop dead in the middle of the floor >>>> during a milonga and scold, "you were supposed to do...whatever," to >>>> which the best response, that most follows are too gracious to say, is, >>>> "you were supposed to lead it...." > > _______________________________________________ > Tango-L mailing list > [email protected] > http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l > _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
