David, >From my experience, what you're describing is quite unusual - I mean changing >from close embrace to a more open embrace. Most people learn open because, initially, they feel more comfortable that way. But, gradually, they get closer until they dance close. Usually this is a natural progression. Often, I'm the first person that ladies dance with in close embrace and what I find is that, in almost every case, they NEVER want to go back to open embrace.
If the ladies you're describing have danced with you before in close embrace, I think that what might be happening is that they want to stay in close embrace, which is why they're leaning towards you - trying to make contact. In the meantime, it sounds like you're trying to keep them away from you - in an open embrace. David, once the lady has experienced your delicious close embrace - she never wants to give it up. As TFH is always telling us, and I agree, dance for the lady, not for yourself. Give her what SHE wants. And, after giving her close embrace, to then deny it is cruel and unusual punishment :-). Keith, HK On Wed Mar 12 0:16 , David Thorn sent: > >I am trying to expand my dancing to include more facility with open embrace. >Many of the women hereabouts seem to want to lean on me; not to maintain their >own axis, but rather require that I do it for them. In close embrace I have >no problem with a shared axis. In open embrace I find this to be very tiring, >especially since I am short and many women in their heels are at least my >height or taller. > _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
