I agree with Melina, she nailed this topic. Use the cabaceo, people, it works, everywhere, even in America. Its human nature. The only exception is where milonga organizers keep it so darn dark you have to use radar instead of cabaceo to find partners, which is unfortunately becoming more common at milongas in the US. A person who does not meet your eyes, stares at the floor, turns her face, or does not smile at you when you pass by, is not a person you want to dance with, no matter how good a dancer that person is. Sure, if you asked, you might get a yes, out of politeness, but what good is that ? It will be a mercy tanda, totally devoid of enthusiasm or positive energy from that partner. No thanks. I am looking to dance tango, so I need a connection. I need to see some interest, a sparkle in her eyes, a slight smile, the porch light is on, someone is home, in the house. That is going to be a good tanda. Oh, and I totally understand Jack Dylan's attitude. If a woman turns down the invite, whether verbal or cabaceo, in a definitvely cold manner, such as slowly shaking her head no, why would you ever want to ask that woman again ? Let her dance with Gary Barn.
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