Perhaps it's the word "submit" that at least in our culture, elicits negative reactions. I prefer to view it as "deferring" to my husband in situations where he has more knowledge, expertise, skills, etc., and it is reciprocated. In tax matters, for example, it is my husband who figures and completes the forms, otherwise, we'd both end up in jail. Car maintainence is my forte.
In my never so humble opinion, I think couples are headed for trouble when they approach relationships with the idea that both partners are equal (egalitarian) and that it's going to be a 50-50 proposition. They are not equal and to try to achieve the latter means keeping score. Each brings skills, abilities, etc., that the other one might be hard pressed to demonstrate...the Exchange Theory in other words. I tend to prefer and work for an equitable marriage: is it fair, just, etc? Just my two cents....if I've added correctly! --- You are currently subscribed to tips as: [EMAIL PROTECTED] To unsubscribe send a blank email to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
