How do you decline the gifts? I have received a small plaque extolling the virtues of teachers, a framed stamp honoring teachers, a small bud vase (I like flowers from my garden in my office), a coffee mug or two, a calendar or two, countless cards, etc. I think that to refuse them would take away from the person's good intention and kindness. Of course, I'd love a cruise to the caribbean, but no one has offered that. I did get a coupon for a ham one time and another time, a coupon for free christmas tree, after writing nearly 50 letters of recommendation for graduate programs a $75 gift certificate to a restaurant (from a very wealthy student!). So is the $75 something to return compared to a card? Do these things get "valued" differently? What do we do?????
Annette Quoting Susan Freedman <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>: > I too have worried about accepting small gifts or cards from students > after > the close of the semester. Usually it is something that the student in > > question has made and though I treasure such things as momentos and/or > > concrete reinforcements, I wonder whether it is good practice to accept > > them. I'm also somewhat uncomfortable witht he concept of asking > students > for reference letters to put in a teaching portfolio, but perhaps that's > > too tangential. > > > > At 02:21 PM 2/18/2002 -0800, you wrote: > >I must agree with Klatsky. While accepting a dinner invitation at a > >fraternity or sorority is appropriate, since the invitation came from > the > >organization itself and these organizations have a connection with the > > >college or university, permitting a student to pay for a meal > regardless > >of the circumstances is not. I have received small gifts from students > at > >the end of the semester and have accepted them and I do wonder at the > > >appropriateness of this, but allowing a student to buy dinner for me > and a > >group of my friends is too far down the slippery slope for me. > > > >Or are we being put on again? Could it be that Michael is waving a red > > >flag in front of us to see if anyone charges? > >Harry Avis PhD > >Sierra College > >Rocklin, CA 95677 > >email: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > > >Life is opinion - Marcus Aurelius > >There is nothing that is good or bad, but that thinking makes it so > - > >Shakespeare > > > > > >>>No, it's not nice. It is extremely inappropriate > >> > >>Gary J. Klatsky, Ph. D. > >> > >>Recently I have been receiving invitations from the Fraternity and > Sorority > >>organizations to dinner. I guess they have some kind of a program to > get to > >>know the faculty members better.they are a few students in my class > who > >>belong to those Greek organizations. > >>I just hope that this is not an attempt to get a favorable grade. > >>I have accepted the invitations .I have heard that they serve some > good > >>food. > >>And while on this subject(free associating),I find that some > students > >>from the Middle East like to invite their profs for dinner.I have > >>gone to many of them and their dinners are very good with that vimto > >>drink.Are those Cross-cultural customs or attempts to influence? > >>One time I was at a restaurant with some friends and a Kuwaiti > student > >>in my class was dining with his own friends.He came over and took our > tabs > >>and paid for the meals.Isn't that nice? > >> > >>Michael Sylvester,PhD > >>Daytona Beach,Florida > > > > > > > > > > > > > >_________________________________________________________________ > >MSN Photos is the easiest way to share and print your photos: > >http://photos.msn.com/support/worldwide.aspx > > > > > >--- > >You are currently subscribed to tips as: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > >To unsubscribe send a blank email to > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > > > --- > You are currently subscribed to tips as: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > To unsubscribe send a blank email to > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > Annette Taylor, Ph.D. Associate Professor of Psychology University of San Diego [EMAIL PROTECTED] --- You are currently subscribed to tips as: [EMAIL PROTECTED] To unsubscribe send a blank email to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
