I think we must consider the intent of the gift and the proportionality. Buying an entire dinner for a group of people on a whim is way out of proportion. A small gift such as a coffee mug might reasonably be considered an intentionless present. The most unusual gifts I received were two box xeat tickets to an opera in San Francisco and marijuana joints on two different occasions. The tickets were a woman and her daughter who could not use them. I had had both the mother and the daughter in my classes and the daughter was working with me on a project. The joints were from two different students and placed inside a card on my desk during finals. I didn't even open them until class was over and so I had no way of verifying who was the giver. If the Enron executives can get away with declining to testify, I will decline to state what happened to them.
Harry Avis PhD Sierra College Rocklin, CA 95677 email: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Life is opinion - Marcus Aurelius There is nothing that is good or bad, but that thinking makes it so - Shakespeare >How do you decline the gifts? I have received a small plaque extolling the >virtues of teachers, a framed stamp honoring teachers, a small bud vase (I >like >flowers from my garden in my office), a coffee mug or two, a calendar or >two, >countless cards, etc. I think that to refuse them would take away from the >person's good intention and kindness. Of course, I'd love a cruise to the >caribbean, but no one has offered that. I did get a coupon for a ham one >time >and another time, a coupon for free christmas tree, after writing nearly 50 >letters of recommendation for graduate programs a $75 gift certificate to a >restaurant (from a very wealthy student!). So is the $75 something to >return >compared to a card? Do these things get "valued" differently? What do we >do????? > >Annette > >Quoting Susan Freedman <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>: > > > I too have worried about accepting small gifts or cards from students > > after > > the close of the semester. Usually it is something that the student in > > > > question has made and though I treasure such things as momentos and/or > > > > concrete reinforcements, I wonder whether it is good practice to accept > > > > them. I'm also somewhat uncomfortable witht he concept of asking > > students > > for reference letters to put in a teaching portfolio, but perhaps that's > > > > too tangential. > > > > > > > > At 02:21 PM 2/18/2002 -0800, you wrote: > > >I must agree with Klatsky. While accepting a dinner invitation at a > > >fraternity or sorority is appropriate, since the invitation came from > > the > > >organization itself and these organizations have a connection with the > > > > >college or university, permitting a student to pay for a meal > > regardless > > >of the circumstances is not. I have received small gifts from students > > at > > >the end of the semester and have accepted them and I do wonder at the > > > > >appropriateness of this, but allowing a student to buy dinner for me > > and a > > >group of my friends is too far down the slippery slope for me. > > > > > >Or are we being put on again? Could it be that Michael is waving a red > > > > >flag in front of us to see if anyone charges? > > >Harry Avis PhD > > >Sierra College > > >Rocklin, CA 95677 > > >email: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > > > > >Life is opinion - Marcus Aurelius > > >There is nothing that is good or bad, but that thinking makes it so > > - > > >Shakespeare > > > > > > > > >>>No, it's not nice. It is extremely inappropriate > > >> > > >>Gary J. Klatsky, Ph. D. > > >> > > >>Recently I have been receiving invitations from the Fraternity and > > Sorority > > >>organizations to dinner. I guess they have some kind of a program to > > get to > > >>know the faculty members better.they are a few students in my class > > who > > >>belong to those Greek organizations. > > >>I just hope that this is not an attempt to get a favorable grade. > > >>I have accepted the invitations .I have heard that they serve some > > good > > >>food. > > >>And while on this subject(free associating),I find that some > > students > > >>from the Middle East like to invite their profs for dinner.I have > > >>gone to many of them and their dinners are very good with that vimto > > >>drink.Are those Cross-cultural customs or attempts to influence? > > >>One time I was at a restaurant with some friends and a Kuwaiti > > student > > >>in my class was dining with his own friends.He came over and took our > > tabs > > >>and paid for the meals.Isn't that nice? > > >> > > >>Michael Sylvester,PhD > > >>Daytona Beach,Florida > > > > > > >Annette Taylor, Ph.D. >Associate Professor of Psychology >University of San Diego >[EMAIL PROTECTED] > >--- >You are currently subscribed to tips as: [EMAIL PROTECTED] >To unsubscribe send a blank email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] _________________________________________________________________ MSN Photos is the easiest way to share and print your photos: http://photos.msn.com/support/worldwide.aspx --- You are currently subscribed to tips as: [EMAIL PROTECTED] To unsubscribe send a blank email to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
