Nancy- I would add one caveat. I don't think you did anything wrong. You were nice. When that becomes wrong we are all up the proverbial creek. But my addition would be to note that you might discuss this with your security or campus safety officer(s). Perhaps they'd have a good word or idea. I would make it plain that I don't want the student prosecuted or anything but that I'm just asking for advice. That way, if you do need to ask for assistance (unlikely!) they will be up to speed. I suspect this is just a person who is a little needy. Your only recourse as a response to the student would, as you say, likely involve embarrassment and perhaps worse. If you try to be nice, by responding, I think it likely that it will not have the effect you desire. :) Good luck with this one. Tim _______________________________ Timothy O. Shearon, PhD Professor and Chair Department of Psychology The College of Idaho Caldwell, ID 83605 email: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
teaching: intro to neuropsychology; psychopharmacology; general; history and systems "What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world remains and is immortal." - Albert Pike -----Original Message----- From: DeVolder Carol L [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Fri 2/29/2008 9:33 PM To: Teaching in the Psychological Sciences (TIPS) Subject: RE: [tips] Unwanted student attention Nancy, I agree with Beth. I don't think you did anything wrong--if you did then I'm guilty of similar behavior. It may take her a while to get the idea, and she may never really get it, but if you don't respond (not even a single word like "thanks"), she will eventually go away. Carol Carol L. DeVolder, Ph.D. Professor of Psychology Chair, Department of Psychology St. Ambrose University 518 West Locust Street Davenport, Iowa 52803 Phone: 563-333-6482 e-mail: [EMAIL PROTECTED] web: http://web.sau.edu/psychology/psychfaculty/cdevolder.htm The contents of this message are confidential and may not be shared with anyone without permission of the sender. -----Original Message----- From: beth benoit [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Fri 2/29/2008 9:09 PM To: Teaching in the Psychological Sciences (TIPS) Subject: RE: [tips] Unwanted student attention Nancy, I'd suggest: Don't respond AT ALL about ANYTHING, EVER again. Sometimes these extra-needy students are just looking for ANY kind of response. Beth Benoit From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Friday, February 29, 2008 9:46 PM To: Teaching in the Psychological Sciences (TIPS) Subject: Re: [tips] Unwanted student attention Hi - I think I need help. I don't want to do anything to make this worse. Maybe I'll join the bad day club if I manage to do that. I had a very enthusiastic and dedicated female student, close to my age, in my Fall 2007 Intro Psych class at Long Beach City. At the end of the term she thanked me (profuselly) and gave me book as a gift (from my Amazon.com wish list). As the book is not an atypical sort of gift from a student, I accepted it graciously. Told her it was a pleasure to work with her and "stay in touch" (something I say to many students). Since then (late December) she has managed to email me at least 4 or 5 times a week about something (usually a book or show she thinks I should see). I respond politely - and tersely -to most of her emails. But it has escalated into her sending me an invitation to bet on the Oscars with her for a cup of coffee, and most recently an invitation to a concert on a Saturday night and also an invitation to be on her Amazon.com Friends list I am now REALLY uncomfortable. I don't want to do ANYTHING else to respond as I don't feel that I encouraged this and it is bordering on creepy - please, please, give me a reality check if I am wrong about this. I don't want to hang out with her or even feel bullied into being involved in a personal "friends" list at a commerical site. If anyone has ANY suggestions how I can discourage this in a polite and professional way, I would welcome them. I know that perhaps nothing I do that indicates reticience will stop her from being angry/hurt. Again, I don't think did anything to indicate that I'd be her friend Thanks and if I did anything stupid here...I'll take that kind of feedback off list. Nancy Melucci Long Beach City College Long Beach CA -----Original Message----- From: Shearon, Tim <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: Teaching in the Psychological Sciences (TIPS) <[email protected]> Sent: Fri, 29 Feb 2008 11:52 am Subject: RE: [tips] this world is getting crazy - update Bill- That's despicable!! I don't suppose they saved the envelope? If there wasn't one, that's worse! I think this kind of anonymous and cowardly act on a college campus is worse than cheating. In such instances the dean/VP should immediately attempt to identify the cretin(s) and ask for explanation (purely hypothetically, with a large pointy stick; I'd never suggest such a thing in reality). At any rate, I am very happy that you are back!! Tim (the parenthetical remarks above were not made for reasons other than sarcasm toward anyone lurking who might read them and not realize that you, agency or otherwise, are also, purely hypothetically, engaging in a form of harassment/terrorism- am I safe now?) _______________________________ Timothy O. 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