Very, very simplified: According to Erickson, during the first year one cannot "spoil" a child. If the child's needs are met, such a comfort when crying, then the child develops both an internal sense that the world is OK and so is the child. Result = trust. If the child's needs are not met then result =mistrust in self and others.
During the middle thirtys and early fortys, one of the "recommended" child rearing practices was "scheduled care"- not to feed on demand but feed on schedule; not to change on demand but change on schedule (needed or not); not to pick up and comfort when crying. I don't have a cite but during my travels to a degree I found that persons born during born this period had a higher level of mistrust than persons outside this period. Raymond Rogoway [EMAIL PROTECTED] On Jun 17, 2008, at 7:02 AM, kleisslers wrote: > > Hi Tipsters, > I have a question about allowing babies to cry.My previous readings > (5 years or so ago) indicated that one should pick up a crying baby > quickly, because this would promote a secure attachment, and in the > long run a securely attached baby cries less as well. My latest > reading (e.g. Laura Spiegel) recommends letting babies "cry it out", > indicating that this is good for them physically and emotionally. > Does anyone know which approach has better support in the literature? > > Thanks, > Kathleen Kleissler, Assistant Prof. > Psychology Dept. > Kutztown University > Kutztown, PA 19530 > 610-683-4465 > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > --- > To make changes to your subscription contact: > > Bill Southerly ([EMAIL PROTECTED]) --- To make changes to your subscription contact: Bill Southerly ([EMAIL PROTECTED])
