I’m no fan of Leno (always have been of his wife), but I’m not going to bash him too much in this situation. I work with a lot of patients with lifelong partners dealing with dementia, and has been said, any way you slice it, it’s incredibly hard and painful. I don’t know what Leno has said elsewhere, but I don’t see him in this article claiming to be his wife’s primary caregiver; he said he goes home and spends quiet evenings with her, carries to bathroom etc, but that would be consistent with him having high quality paid help who care for her when he is not home. I only wish we had a system that allowed everyone in similar situations some of that support as well.
It is weird, but typical of the man, that he congratulates himself so much for not dumping his wife for a young woman - that’s a pretty low bar. OTOH, what he is dealing is painful enough that if giving himself that credit helps him, I’ll allow it. Sent from Gmail Mobile On Thu, 24 Apr 2025 at 1:16 PM Tom Wolper <[email protected]> wrote: > If he is able to keep her at home instead of putting her in a facility > more power to him. It’s exorbitantly expensive to retrofit a home for > dementia care. > > There’s no way Leno could take Mavis out on the road with him. When my > mother developed dementia a caregiver recommended taking her only to > restaurants she knew well as she’d get disoriented and uncomfortable in a > restaurant she didn’t know. I couldn’t imagine going from city to city in a > different hotel and restaurants every day. > > There’s something weird about Leno always wanting to prove he’s just a > regular guy despite all of his wealth and privilege. Taking care of a > dementia patient is not only expensive, it’s exhausting and thankless. It’s > generally beyond the capacity of a 74 year old man and there should be no > shame in saying he needs help and can afford to get it. I can’t figure out > his binary of either being her primary caregiver (which he can’t be if he’s > working on the road) or dumping her for a younger woman. > > On Thu, Apr 24, 2025 at 1:15 PM Kevin M. <[email protected]> wrote: > >> Mavis Leno was among the first high-profile people to speak out against >> the oppressive Taliban regime in Afghanistan. She was a lifelong crusader >> of women’s rights at home and abroad. >> >> I have no way of disproving Jay Leno’s claims that he is personally >> caring for his wife, but he still maintains a healthy tour schedule, which >> means either he’s shuttling Mavis from town to town (which would not be >> healthy for someone with dementia), or he’s frequently leaving her in the >> care of others. >> >> Caring for loved ones in need is difficult, regardless of wealth or fame. >> Credit to Jay for whatever he is doing to support her, but if he does have >> a team of people supporting him to support her, which is likely, then he >> missed an opportunity to name them and thank them. >> >> https://www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna202795 >> >> >> >> Kevin M. (RPCV) >> >> -- >> You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups >> "TVorNotTV" group. >> To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an >> email to [email protected]. >> To view this discussion visit >> https://groups.google.com/d/msgid/tvornottv/CAKgmY4AnAKfw%3Djo5F96BsLXZ2e1qc9rPcHGGp2q-q8yOd73OAw%40mail.gmail.com >> <https://groups.google.com/d/msgid/tvornottv/CAKgmY4AnAKfw%3Djo5F96BsLXZ2e1qc9rPcHGGp2q-q8yOd73OAw%40mail.gmail.com?utm_medium=email&utm_source=footer> >> . >> > -- > You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups > "TVorNotTV" group. > To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an > email to [email protected]. > To view this discussion visit > https://groups.google.com/d/msgid/tvornottv/CAJE-FiHOFyPAM-OKuqcxfuscpnvxBCL9RbtY39Nrxs%3DLkOB7Ww%40mail.gmail.com > <https://groups.google.com/d/msgid/tvornottv/CAJE-FiHOFyPAM-OKuqcxfuscpnvxBCL9RbtY39Nrxs%3DLkOB7Ww%40mail.gmail.com?utm_medium=email&utm_source=footer> > . > -- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "TVorNotTV" group. To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an email to [email protected]. To view this discussion visit https://groups.google.com/d/msgid/tvornottv/CAKGtkYL5m6jYNGzaq9SbnL1UzOgJVoZ%2B_C0Xw6wMmX88zPwCzw%40mail.gmail.com.
