so now I'm dying to know, what do you do for work? Are you a farmer or something?
--- In [email protected], "algriner1" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > Okay, can someone explain to me the whole fascination with THE RING?? > Maybe what I don't get is the whole surprising someone with something > they may not like (Diane, your tale of bridezilla woe is a fantastic > example of this!). > > Maybe I don't get it because in my job I spend my day wrist-to-shoulder > deep in soil, plant matter, seeds, fish emulsion, and sometimes, > literally, poop...well, semi-composted manure, but the point is really I > CAN'T wear rings at work. But why spend huge amounts of money on > something that may not be right? > > Granted, after my engagement, we did spend about 3 months drawing and > designing, and finally, inking matching "engagement tattoos." Which > maybe sorta explains getting engaged in the burrito barn...but they're > perfect, they express *us,* and that's what matters...that we BOTH > chose, and approved. > > So, can someone, either gender, I don't care, explain why picking out a > ring for someone else is something that's taken sooooooo seriously? > > Amy "Organic Gal" > > > --- In [email protected], "denisesudell" > <dsudell7781@> wrote: > > > > --- In [email protected], Diane Lochner > > dlochund@ wrote: > > > > > > I have zero issues with the proposal...his bride-to-be is the one > > who didn't like the proposal. i don't know what kind of fantasy she > > had in her head > > > > That was going to be my question: what kind of proposal did she > > want? > > > > I do have an unappreciated-engagement story from my own life, in > > which I was the Bridezilla-equivalent. (Yes, the story involves me > > and another woman.) But as it turned out, my hesitations were well- > > founded. > > > > To make a very long story as short as I can manage: I was involved > > with a woman to whom I proposed on the spur of the moment at > > Thanksgiving 1990. Not sure why, but for some reason she, not I, > > ended up in the position of buying a ring -- probably because I told > > her at some point that rings were important to me. > > > > Possibly like your Bridezilla, Diane, I had a whole fantasy about my > > then-GF and I going out together to pick out rings that meant > > something to both of us. Unfortunately, I did not share this > > fantasy quickly enough with my then-GF, who went out by herself and > > bought a ring with which to surprise me at Christmas. A couple of > > weeks before the holiday, I began to suspect this was coming, and > > didn't know how to tell her that I had envisioned a joint ring- > > buying process, so I just kept my mouth shut and my fingers > > crossed. (Let me add that she was susceptible to flying into a rage > > at the slightest provocation.) > > > > Well, Christmas came, and she gave me the little white box, and in > > it was the ugliest ring I'd ever seen. (It was sterling silver, > > which I do love, but it had little . . . things sticking out of the > > top. Non-sparkly, non-shiny things that looked like little > > silver . . . bricks. It looked more like an instrument of torture > > than anything else.) I tried to swallow my horror, and asked in > > false cheeriness, "Gosh, honey, why did you choose *this* ring?" > > But I am a lousy liar, and she behaved just as I was afraid she > > would: flew into a rage at my failure to properly appreciate her > > gift. > > > > To keep this story from becoming even more interminable than it > > already is, I'll just say that in the end, I had two different > > people (unknown to each other) "intervene" with me to tell me that I > > was in an emotionally abusive relationship and I should get out of > > it, which I eventually did. Embarrassingly, one of the things that > > made me realize that I needed to leave my GF behind was passing a > > jewelry store window alone one night and unexpectedly bursting into > > torrential tears over everything I would be giving up by staying in > > the relationship -- symbolized, of course, by that awful ring. > > > > I suspect it probably makes a difference if you're heterosexual and > > the proposal starts a whole massive set of Wedding Machinery > > grinding. That sure didn't happen with my ex and me. Thank Gawd. > > > > BTW, with my current honey, I'd be happy to go to the courthouse in > > shorts and a beat-up t-shirt -- if only they wouldn't turn us away > > at the courthouse door. But that's a whole 'nother rant. > > > Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/weingartenchatters/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
