On Tue, Jul 13, 2010 at 12:25 AM, Carcharoth <carcharot...@googlemail.com>wrote:
> On Tue, Jul 13, 2010 at 7:48 AM, George Herbert > <george.herb...@gmail.com> wrote: > > <snip> > > > I have had to walk away from recent changes repeatedly. > > Picking up on the "walking away" bit. > > There are, of course, those who find themselves *unable* to walk away. > Either because they are deeply involved, or because they find > themselves being drawn back time and time again. Or because they enjoy > the drama. I've fallen into that trap a few times myself. I'm sure it > is in some essay somewhere, but the ability to be able to walk away is > an important one (though not allowing yourself to be *bullied* away of > course). > > The other aspect is that different users exhibit different levels of > maturity depending on their current state. Being able to ease past > that without responding in kind or allowing your frustration to show, > is one strategy (though calling people out for any immaturity is also > important, you need to pick the right place and moment). Remonstrating > with someone in the middle of a discussion about something else ends > up being a distraction. I find it best to try and refocus people on > the substance of what is being discussed, and then to take up the > other issues later. > > Carcharoth > > I don't think this can be regarded as any kind of permanent solution. Walking away would have done nothing in my case because I was the one being hounded. - causa sui _______________________________________________ WikiEN-l mailing list WikiEN-l@lists.wikimedia.org To unsubscribe from this mailing list, visit: https://lists.wikimedia.org/mailman/listinfo/wikien-l
