Hello All, Been pretty behind with mails. Interesting discussion on anger.
I too, more often than not, miss that moment when I can choose my reaction towards annoying things. When this happens, I find it helpful to stay still and just let the anger be, instead of trying to calm myself or reason with myself or noting the anger or whatever ways to 'manipulate' the anger in order to eliminate it. I also discovered that my desire to eliminate anger is partly due to my judgement of this emotion as something negative, which is just dualism. Anyway, at that moment of anger, we are nothing but anger. I guess this has to be accepted as is too. Funny enough, the anger does not seem to be able to linger long when I embrace it. siska -----Original Message----- From: Chris Austin-Lane <[email protected]> Sender: [email protected] Date: Tue, 23 Aug 2011 19:26:04 To: <[email protected]> Reply-To: [email protected] Subject: Re: [Zen] An example of Absolute Emptiness At the very instant of anger arising, there is a sliver moment in which I can stay present or leave life and follow the angry thoughts. Often I miss these moments, preferring to hang on to my prior ideas of what I need and what I deserve and how much I've put up with, etc., and go off and get upset, and occasionally, I have the chance to stay present, take some appropriate calming action, and then voila, sitting in the throne of life, some way to transform the world is right there needing my attention and action. Strong emotions are self-limiting when you feel them thoroughly, the faster path is to feel them with eyes open, rather than acting out blindly. Thanks, --Chris [email protected] +1-301-270-6524 On Tue, Aug 23, 2011 at 10:31 AM, Maria Lopez <[email protected]>wrote: > Can you see yourself at the same occurring present time of having that > disappointment or afterwards when you are cool down?. Saying this because I > keep reacting. It's only after having been expressed out that > disappointment that I start to cool down. Not very zen, or Buddhist way. > In my mind I know I should sit down but at those moments and depend upon the > intensity of the rainbow emotions, I just can't. There have been times that > when I have sat down at those moments emotions calm down but only in the > surface and then they come out after days. Exploring expressing myself out > at present to see what's happens.
