I'm here to learn. I'm also here because I believe the collective
wisdom/knowledge here can provide answers that would otherwise take me who
knows how long to discover.
Here's my latest "Zen Perplexity": Suffice to say that I deal with some rather
difficult people in my life. One might even say "unnecessarily difficult," or
even label it has harassment. No kidding. I'm just a very peace-loving dude,
but I'm also like a hate magnet that draws peoples' ire without falter.
This I know: I cannot change the behavior of others, I can only alter mine.
However, the Universe provides me with endless opportunities to find "Zen" in
order to just cope with life.
I was actually so upset today (as I say, I lost my Zen) that I phoned my
brother about it. He's not a Zen Buddhist, but does subscribe to another
Eastern religion (Ananda Marga). Anyways, after I'd told him that my "Zen" was
depleted and therefore I had to exit a situation, he suggested that rather than
trying to be so "Zen-like," that I needed "assertiveness training." Hmm...
Assertiveness is a necessary skill, but it also leads to ego "stuff" and
altercations.
So, I'm really just in a quandary. Rarely do you see Zen text instructing
assertiveness in difficult situations (unless I'm mistaken). I've also thought
it conceivable that I just have a low level of it, but that's neither here nor
there. Thoughts?
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