Focus on the present. i hear this time and time again but it often eludes me. i catch myself pondering the future or regreting the past and what you have posted is true. but for me its easier said then done. i will continue to strive for staying in the present for life is much easier. Mack
--- In [email protected], woof puppy <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > Focus on the present. Tearing at yourself for how you > SHOULD have behaved is pointless. Even if you come up > with the perfect way of handling the situation, > tomorrow is another day, and the exact circumstances > you encountered are not likely to repeat themselves. > (Even if Lizard Guy gives you the cold shoulder again, > it won't be second-for-second the same scene, and in > dealing with people, timing is everything). That's > why if you walk into a room expecting your plan to > read like a script, you're going to walk away > disappointed, and at a disadvantage to those who were > winging it. > > The only thing to do in a situation like you describe > is to feel it out. If your thoughts got muddied at > the time, and you're no good at feeling it out, no > ammount of dissecting it in hindsight is going to help > you. The only thing you can do is to get better at > "feeling it out." The best way to practice that is to > stay in the moment, as best you can, for as long as > you can. > > Lingering on past failures or shortcomings is not > going to help you. > > > SPROCKET > > > > > As I drove away from the store, I felt pretty > > pissed off. > > > > > > My questions are: A) Should I have just left the > > >store after it was apparent the employee had an > > >attitude? B) Should I have continued talking to > > >him after he was not responding? C) Should I have > > >just visualized some peaceful Zen saying and stood > > >there pleasantly asking over and over again for > some > > > help? D) Should I have complained to the manager > > >(on Monday)? E) Should I have assumed the Lotus > > >position in the middle of the aisle and begun > > > chanting sutras (or singing Kumbaya)? > > > > > > What do you do? What would you do? > > > > > > No flames please. > > > > > > Thank you. > > > > > > Al > > > __________________________________________________ > Do You Yahoo!? > Tired of spam? Yahoo! Mail has the best spam protection around > http://mail.yahoo.com Current Book Discussion: Appreciate Your Life by Taizan Maezumi Roshi Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ZenForum/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
